Rudeness....just venting

By MrsCDogg Latest Reply 2011-07-15 22:56:17 -0500
Started 2011-07-06 14:41:20 -0500

I just came home from Kroger where I picked up (and paid for) a gallon of milk. As I was trying to get through the door no less than 4 people tried to run over me! Has the whole world gone to heck?? Even on the road people are rude drivers. People tailgating me, cutting me off, doing all kinds of stupid stuff and then flipping me off when THEY do something stupid! Kinda makes me want to just stay at home.

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tbalara 2011-07-11 17:40:32 -0500 Report

Yes, thats why I stay home as much as possible, I hate driving or going to the store lately, I was starting to think it was just me, cuz I do feel bad alot of the time, but seems its happening to everyone else too, so think its just the rude people around us all…dont let it get you too down sweetie, their the ones who should feel bad, unfortunately they never do! HAGN! :D

birdlady41465 2011-07-10 16:47:47 -0500 Report

That is happening in so many places now it is not funny. I have felt like this as well and I got to admit I probably have done some of the road rage myself but as for flipping anyone the bird when I have done something stupid heck to the no. We have become a uncaring society out for number one and family is the first who will do you wrong now a days too which is a no no to in my book. God will take care of it. That is the way my friend has taught me and my pastor says smile and wave just it is hard to do all the time. Maybe this will help you be able to come out and deal with these situations For the only one that it helps is the crazies if you stay at home.

SuziOJ 2011-07-10 17:45:43 -0500 Report

Oh, don't stay home. We need to have you out there setting the example of how to be polite. If we all stay home, the world would go to heck! Hope the rest of your week is more pleasant.

squog master
squog master 2011-07-09 19:18:52 -0500 Report

This happens to me often. It's a sad state our country is in when we have to put aside a month for "Random Acts of Kindness" And if we do are they then really random?

But there is some hope out there. About 4 months ago I was in a convenience store when 3 tweens came in. I was havong a rough day & relying on my cane. When we all got in line I ended up with 1 of them behind me. I asked him if he wanted to move up with his buddies. He respectfully declined. His buddies were out the door in an instant. As I was putting my money away my cane fell from hanging on the counter. After I was done I looked down & couldn't see it. I thought it slid under this overhang. Then I felt a hand gently touch my arm & the young man who was behind me in the line said, "Here it is Ma'am." I thanked him. As I approached the doors, which are not automatic, there he was waiting to hold the door for me. I thanked him again & told him his parents are doing something right. :)

MrsCDogg 2011-07-10 07:26:32 -0500 Report

That is something that doesn't happen very often. Nice to hear about it when it does.

squog master
squog master 2011-07-10 23:17:56 -0500 Report

I like to let people knpw about the good things that happen also. Just like when I was still working. If I had a child who was in trouble a lot, I made sure to let him/her know when he/she did good things. I would also let the parents know as well. I figured if they had to hear the bad things, they deserved to hear the good things.

crosslady 2011-07-10 23:26:46 -0500 Report

As a parent, it is nice to hear about the good your child does. My children are all grown up now but I still try to praise them as much as possible. My grandchildren… well we celebrate everything. They love it!!!!

Dixiemom 2011-07-11 12:23:20 -0500 Report

I just told my 4 that I am very proud of them and proud nthat they have given me some fabulous grandchildren. My oldest son just blaid to rest his 2nd child. He was a handicapped child who needed total care. They gave him lots of love and excellent care for 26 years. I was so proud to see my children and their spouses rally round their brother and sister-in-law and his kids to give them comfort in a time when all were hurting. We need to tell each other how much we care and show it.

frustated 2011-07-09 15:11:32 -0500 Report

Well I for one tell my kids they better respect their elders cause that is how I was raised. My daughter works at a college and they recently awarded a lady for working there since she was 23 and is now 83 and her sister too, my daughter helped up the stairs and across the stage and down the stairs. The lady told me that I raised avery repectful daughter and I said thank you then she met my granchildren and she bought them a bag of chips and they said thank you and she told my daugher you don't hear that now a days you are doing good honey and my daughter tells me you know mom it is sad that alot f parents don't instill good manners in their children and I hadn't paid attention to it until she said that. I told her if parents woould decipline their kids from little to now the we would see more desent people in this world and not rude ones.

crosslady 2011-07-10 23:41:10 -0500 Report

Wow you are so right! When my 4 boys were little it was a treat for us to go out to eat… I was a single parent. I would try to take them out once a week. Sometimes it just was not possible. Before we got out of the car, I would remind them of what I expected of them as far as their behavior… They never let me down! Time and time again, usually older folks, would approach us and comment on how well behaved my children were. That little thing would always add a bit of sunshine to my day. It is nice to hear especially when you are a single parent trying sooooooo hard. Raising children is an art in it self. It is a delicate balance between discipline and lack there of… and the more children you have the greater the balancing act. It was hard… God knows it was hard… But i would not trade my 4 sons for all the gold at fort Knox. No way!

crosslady 2011-07-09 07:38:51 -0500 Report

Very few… Random acts of Kindness… in the world today. It is very sad. My sons get really irritated with those crazy drivers. I just say… Let a fool be a fool… I try to stay out of their way. I can not stand people that tailgate. I am always afraid something will run out in front of me and I'll have to slam on my brakes! I have even pulled over so they would go around. I am 50 years old and have never ever been in an accident… come really close!

purple1900 2011-07-08 21:33:36 -0500 Report

I will add to this I use public transportation and a few weeks ago I go on the bus and set close to the front like I usually do. In the front seat there was a young girl (maybe 20) with a toddler next to her. An older lady with a walker got on and asked the younger girl to move and the girl looked at her and said she didn't have to move she was there first. The driver just let it happen. I gave up my seat and went further back than I care to since I get car sick really easy and was already on pain pills from a procedure the day before but I was amazed at how they just let a "kid" talk to an elder this way

GabbyPA 2011-07-08 16:54:22 -0500 Report

I will add a new one that shocked the heck out of me. On Independence day, I had some friends over, we bar-b-qued and had a good game of dominoes. Then we went out to shoot off some fire works. They were a little more than sparklers, but the whole neighborhood was doing them, so we decided to add to the party.

My neighbor (one for whom I had made some meals and did some small helps around the yard for) came out yelling with a foul mouth and a threat to call the cops on us. I was floored. I thought she at least owed us the courtisy of a calm protest. Oh we packed up and went to another friend's house and had a great time. It is sad, that even on the day of celebration she was such a nasty neighbor.

Nova69 2011-07-08 16:38:23 -0500 Report

I have often threatened to buy an Army surplus Hummer (in desert camo) and mount a disabled or replica machine gun in the back so I could use a remote control to point it at offending tailgaters or other morons. If that won't make them behave, nothing will.

For those of you worried about the younger generation, this quote may make you feel a little better:

"The children now love luxury; they have bad manners, contempt for
authority; they show disrespect for elders and love chatter in place
of exercise. Children are now tyrants, not the servants of their
households. They no longer rise when elders enter the room. They
contradict their parents, chatter before company, gobble up dainties
at the table, cross their legs, and tyrannize their teachers."

This quote has been attributed to Socrates by Plato which makes it over 2,400 years old.

MrsCDogg 2011-07-10 07:30:57 -0500 Report

I am a HUGE fan of George Carlin. I think he summed it up best. What we have now is a culture of child worship. They are protected to death, and have their whole world sanitized for their protection. Sure wasn't that way when I was growing up! Parent's weren't afraid to give their kids a good smack if they needed it!

GabbyPA 2011-07-08 16:47:03 -0500 Report

Oh my....every generation is the same, it is we who change I suppose. Wow, that is incredible. It's like when you read the Declaration of Independence, you would think it was penned yesterday. The words and the situations are so familiar.

cyndylee 2011-07-08 12:06:41 -0500 Report

Just to add to this topic…I went to Bi-Lo the other night and just after I put my basket onto the counter, the cashier looked at me and shut off her light. I looked behind me and I was the only one there. So I looked at the manager and he just looked away. Then a young man said I can take you in lane 1 which was several lanes away. When I briskly picked up my basket I felt a pull in my shoulder…ouch! I said. The female cashier just looked at me and then looked away, the manager continued to stare off into space and again only the young man offered to carry it for me!!!!

jladytiger1979 2011-07-08 14:41:11 -0500 Report

That is horrible!!!! My husband the front end manager of a grocery store here (Harris Teeter-get a shout out LOL) and he is always the first one to help and no job is beneath him…He gets so upset when I/we go some where and not treated with good service. He takes his job very seriously & it makes me proud!

jladytiger1979 2011-07-08 09:09:41 -0500 Report

I was born and raised a southern girl with all the trimmings. Yes M'am, Yes Sir, Thank you. Please. Your Welcome…and EXCUSE ME…no one cares about any of that and not many are raised that way. I agree it has gone downhill. I just try to be polite to others so when I do get it back at least I feel it is somehow worth it!

knit57 2011-07-08 12:47:03 -0500 Report

I am not a southern girl, but I was raised to be polite. I was Escuse Me even when I am the one who is bumped.. I totally agree with everything you said. I would say it is a generational thing, but I know a number of people my age who are simply rude. And both my sons are very polite too. All in the way your are raised!

Kinn D.
Kinn D. 2011-07-08 09:35:37 -0500 Report

Yes, m'am. I'm a southern girl too. My parents made sure I use all my manners. Not many parents teach that to their kids anymore. I have a 26 year old cousin who teaches her kids nothing about manners. We actually dont see them much anymore because my family would make the girl say yes m'am and yes sir.

cavie2 2011-07-12 08:42:54 -0500 Report

How do you expect kids to listen to their parents when Tarzan lives half naked, Cinderella comes home at midnight. Pinocchio lies all the time. Ali Babba is the King of Thieves, Batman drives at 200mph, Sleeping Beauty is lazy, and Snow White lives with 7 guys. We shouldn't be surprised when kids misbehave, they get it from their story books!!!!

TrueBeliever 2011-07-08 03:29:10 -0500 Report

I agree, the world/this country is changing for the worse when it comes to rudeness, etc. but not just kids! About 15 yrs ago over the Christmas season I worked at the Customer Service desk at K-Mart. A day or two after Christmas there was a long line of people returning unwanted gifts etc. There were 3 of us waiting on people but there was still a wait and tempers were running high. Just then 2 elderly women reached the front of the line, (not that it matters but 1 was white and 1 was black). I wasn't watching so I don't know who should have been next, but the next thing I knew these "ladies" were duking it out! They were actually on the floor hitting each other and screaming! I yelled at them and told them both they should be ashamed but I doubt that they were. We were finally able to calm them down, but it took a few minutes.

I can't tell you how many times I've been driving in a neighborhood and kids, (anywhere from 5-20) would stand in the middle of the road so I couldn't drive around them, if I tried they would flip me off. I wouldn't blame it all on parents though, at least parents used to be allowed to BE parents. Now days parents are afraid to even spank their kid because they might be arrested and labelled as "child abusers". I am NOT condoning child abuse. But when prayer was banned from school, then they stop doing the pledge, then parents can no longer discipline their own children without fear of being jailed these are all just continuing downhill steps in the decline of our country, our pride, our morals and our families. This country was founded on a belief in God and the government is slowly trying to UN-DO everthing our Founding Fathers stood for! We should all be ashamed for letting it get this far. IMHO

MrsCDogg 2011-07-10 07:40:15 -0500 Report

One year close to Christmas I was in line at Wal-Mart. There was a woman in front of me who lets her friend not get in front of her but get behind her. Which was directly in front of ME. It really torqued me off but I didn't say anything. The lady who got behind her friend had the nerve to turn around, look at me and say very loudly "and you just let her say something!" I was on the verge of ripping into her so I just turned my back on her. I wasn't about to have a battle of wits with an unarmed person!

GabbyPA 2011-07-11 17:32:52 -0500 Report

I don't shop in WalMart any more. My husband had an encounter there over a Handicapped Parking space. A guy was going to park in the stripes because there was already a car in the space. My husband told him he couldn't park there, and could get a ticket. The guy let loose. OMG, we walked away and he got out of his truck and started toward my husband...who, by the way is IN a wheelchair. Momma bear came out of me and I got between the two. My husband was not happy with me for "fighting his fight" but it was not going to be pretty no matter what happened.

You can't fix stupid, and there is a lot of stupid in WalMart. We were considering going back due to financial reasons...that would be NO WAY.

GabbyPA 2011-07-08 16:50:42 -0500 Report

I am glad that I live in a more rural city. We are only 3000 people and that is fine with me.

cavie2 2011-07-08 10:10:43 -0500 Report

I agree with everything you have just said it is the same in the UK. Even my own 10 year old grandson is extremely rude 2 years ago when I gave him his birthday presents I gave him the birthday card first and he said "Is there money in it" and I said no he threw it across the room grabbed his presents ripped the paper off them got up and went outside to play. I sat there numb with shock completely taken aback by his gross bad manners. That child never knew how close he came to getting a good old leathering (smacking) Children need to be taught Limitations, Boundaries and Consequences for bad behaviour and most of all consistent discipline. My mother always brought us up with the saying "Manners cost nothing" "Please" and "Thank you" if you did not say thank you after being given something it was immediately taken away from you. That is what I should have done with my grandson but at the time I was totally gobsmacked by his behaviour. And to add insult to injury if a child or teenager breaks the law and ends up in court or at a childrens panel the blame is usually put on the Mother (Father is never mentioned) and that parent is held accountable for the childs behaviour but if they are not allowed to discipline their own child for fear of the law it surely is the government that should be held accountable for making those rules in the first place.

crosslady 2011-07-11 00:08:13 -0500 Report

Cavie2, I agree with you. My grandson is not disciplined by my daughter in law at all! They live in my home and I discipline him. She does not believe in spanking. I have told her several times… no child will tell me "NO"… raise his fist to hit me… I have only had to spank him a couple of times but it worked! He knows better! He knows Nana will pull his pants down and pop his rear end. I do time out also but sometimes nothing gets the message across as well as a pop on the butt! I use my hand so it stings my hand. Lol! Do not tell him that. I also explain to him why he is being disciplined. I told my 4 sons, when they were growing up, that I put rules in place in our home because it was to train them to follow the laws "out there". The consequences of breaking my rules is nothing compared to the doors they would close if they did not follow the law. Most of the time I could talk with them or take away an activity… but sometimes I had to spank.

jayabee52 2011-07-11 19:34:49 -0500 Report

My (now ex) wife and I agreed on how to ciscipline our sons so they could not appeal to mom or to dad to take their side. They knew we were unified in any discipline or punishment we meted out. We started out by noting a behavior needing correction and then sitting that child down and explaining that this behavior will not be tolerated and if it happened again they would be punished. It usually did happen again and we would tell them that we had talked about it, and told them the consequences of that behavior. One of us would mete out the punishment, and after the punishment the parent who punished also hugged the child and told him that we loved him, but needed to punish his behavior because we loved him.

My middle son who got his share of punishment told me one day after he had become an adult, that he thought we did well with the way we corrected them. He said he didn't like the punishment, of course, but he liked our fairness and even handedness. And he never felt that we hated him because of punishment.

One of the things I would never do was to punish when I was angry or upset by what they had done. I would tell them "Dad is too angry to punish you now, but you will be punished when I cool down." My dad punished me when he was upset, and sometimes I thought he went a bit overboard. I didn't want to do that so decided never to punish when angry. I decided the cycle of abuse stops with me. I think I accomplished that. My #2 son confirmed that.

TrueBeliever 2011-07-08 20:57:07 -0500 Report

That's exactly what I was talking about! In this country a parent can actually be jailed for their childs' truancy from school. Even in my own family this has been an issue. About 10 yrs. ago, (when I was still working) I had to sign my 17 yr. old son into school. He walked in the front door and right out the back door. I had gone to work and thought he was in school being taught when actually he was back at home relaxing in bed. I could have been in serious trouble, and would have if I hadn't forgotten something one day and had to run back home before work and caught him myself! The kids don't have to pay for their actions anymore! They blame us parents and then tie our hands! I have been a good mother and I've done my best to instill good values in my chiildren. But schools don't just teach them to read and write. They teach them that their parents are not always right and this new generation should "think for themselves" which the kids take as "don't listen to anything your parents say". Thank God our kids all turned out well anyway but it was no thanks to the school system.

If the kids have chance to attend college the teachers are all left-wing liberals who yell at students who believe in God and country. Teachers aren't supposed to be teaching WHAT to think, they are supposed to be teaching HOW to think. But instead as soon as a teacher gets tenure they start shoving whatever philosophy they have down the throats of these unsuspecting kids and the parents have to pay for it. My oldest is now in the Army doing his 2nd tour in Iraq. I firmly believe he'll get a better education and be better prepared for life than if he had attended college!

nanaellen 2011-07-08 00:36:48 -0500 Report

Don't give up hope hun, I get told all the time what great manners my grandson has!!! I'm teaching him well and most people I know do the same!! There will always be the disrespectful idiots out there but I think there are more of us then there are of them!! :)

runthe 2011-07-07 21:29:35 -0500 Report

I live in chicago, and when someone is rude or try to cut u off I try to ignore them because of retalliations. My husband yell at a man one day that was blowing his horn and tailgating because I guss my husband was trying to stay at the limit, the guy finally went around my husband and called him a name and my husband being who he is yelled back and the guy follow us for about 10 minutes. We often read in the paper about how someone was killed or badly beaten just for talking back to a person when they know that they are in the wrong…

jayabee52 2011-07-07 22:07:01 -0500 Report

Sometimes I am waiting at a stoplight and the sign indicates traffic can go straight across or turn right from that lane. Left lane is for left turns only. Sometimes someone impatient to turn right on red will start blowing his horn. What I do is very calmly look back through the rear window, smile and wave like they're a friend. That generally stops that behavior cold.

runthe 2011-07-07 22:15:27 -0500 Report

That mught work sometimes, but then you get those aholes that just looking for someone to get into a fight with…

jayabee52 2011-07-07 22:44:46 -0500 Report

well I've not had that problem — yet. I think I'd have more potential for fights if I responded beligerantly. They usually expect something like that. What they don't expect is someone responding with kindness and friendliness. And if the escalate, I can always escalate in kind. But so far it usually shames them when I respond with kindness.

GabbyPA 2011-07-07 20:43:58 -0500 Report

It's a full moon....when all goes nuts, I always look to the moon. Seriously.

You didn't see my mom out there did you? LOL What is so bad, like my mom, she gets all upset when something happens, and it usually is her fault. It sucks to be old sometimes. We had a phone call one time and it was an irate person on the other end. (My work number is on my mom's car rear window) I asked my mom how her drive to church was that day....she said fine. She had no clue she had done anything wrong.

So many people are self centered, they are just rude as they focus only on their needs. My husband always say "I've done my good deed for the day" and he is always looking for a way to do something small for people. We have just lost respect for others it seems.

I hope you don't stay home. You have to set the example. Some will get it, others won't. But you can always walk away knowing you did the right thing.

crosslady 2011-07-11 00:25:12 -0500 Report

Totally agree with you Gabby, I also the believe the full moon plays a part in peoples behavior… don't know why but it seems to. I just try to stay out of peoples way especially on the roads. I drive the speed limit in the far right hand lane. That is about all I can do. Sometimes, I pull over to get a tailgater of my rear. I think a lot of people live in a…" Its all about ME" world. Unfortunately for the rest of us… we are all on the same Big Ball. Ever since, I was diagnosed with Diabetes I have tried to alleviate as much stress as possible. Sometimes that means… just doing nothing.

jayabee52 2011-07-11 19:11:12 -0500 Report

when someone is tailgating me I turn on my hazard flashers. USUALLY they will back off. If they don't get the message I will then slow down gradually till they pass me.

Somoca 2011-07-07 19:34:43 -0500 Report

not only are they rude but they have no self respect. I interview and take applications for jobs for 2 weeks now and I have had people yell at me, come to the interview without bathing, dressed like thugs (Yeah I said Thugs) and they refer to me as " Yo baby" and they expect me to give them a second interview????!!!!! Not while I work there. The times-they are a changin'

crosslady 2011-07-11 00:28:30 -0500 Report

Unbelieveable!!!!!! You keep up the good work! Someone will come in someday that will appreciate the job opening.

purple1900 2011-07-08 21:44:00 -0500 Report

I just laughed when you said thugs cause I call them hoodlums when I talk about the trouble maker kids on the public transportation that should be in school but are on the bus pushing people out of their way or standing in the way

Teresa Rose
Teresa Rose 2011-07-07 18:46:30 -0500 Report

My husband & I raised 4 children. Before they started learning to talk we were teaching them to have manners. Please & Thank you, excuse me, chewing with their mouths closed ect. were part of the norm in our home. Once we went out to eat at a steakhouse where my husbands sister worked as a waitress. When she seated us with all our children, people around us looked at us like we were taboo or something. They thought that the kids would make alot of noise & ruin their night out. Our children were perfect little gentleman & little ladies. They were quite and chewed with their mouths closed, and said please and thank you to the staff. When we were through with our meal and my husband asked for the check he was told that our bill had alrteady been paid. We were puzzled as how our bill was paid until my husbands sister told us that a customer who was sitting near us had paid our bill telling her that our children were the best behaved children he had ever seen and added that he thought when we came in that they were going to be loud and interrupt his dinner and he was so impressed with the manners they had that he wanted to pay our bill in full. He even gave the waitress a tip for our food. It made me proud of them. That happened to us a couple more times when our children were growing up. They are passing it on to their children!!! ☺

crosslady 2011-07-11 00:31:04 -0500 Report

Now that is cool!!!!! Keep up the good work! I have always said, Please and Thank You will take you around the world!

cyndylee 2011-07-08 12:09:43 -0500 Report

That is impressive. I would suspect that your children are also encouraged to be 'children" and run and play and scream and yell; and to pretend and be creative when appropriate. Manners are very important in my book but no more than any of the others I have mentioned above.

jladytiger1979 2011-07-08 09:11:52 -0500 Report

OMG I used to be smacked for chewing with my mouth open. My granny used to ask me (if I happened to be smacking gum) if I was trying to catch flies. I say that to some of the ladies here at work sometimes! Pet peeve! LOL!

jayabee52 2011-07-07 21:59:52 -0500 Report

I have had an experience or two much like that raising our 3 sons. We'v had meals paid for, and folks coming up to our table thanking us and commenting on how well behaved the boys were.

It is imporatant for new parents to start early in the child's life raising them to be gentlepersons. Age 2 is not early enough. It also has to do with how their mothers and fathers treat one another. Teaching manners to the children won't work if mom and dad aren't polite and kind to one another, and to each of the children, so it's not a case of "Do as I say and not as I do." Those kinds of behaviors have to both be taught and modeled for the children. We were consistent, and united in our teaching of manners. When they got into adolescence, they were generally well behaved also. Not a whole lot of stress to the family as they went through that troubled time in their lives. I think in large part because of the foundations laid down when they were very little.

Mistletoe 2011-07-07 16:31:11 -0500 Report

I lived in the city here in Arizona for many years…not a good idea to flip-off anyone anymore…gangs are all over and it may give them an excuse to shoot you. Even here in the country where we live now many people are "packing". People often tailgate me because I go the speed limit (can't afford to pay a ticket) and when they see gray hair they automatically think the person is senile…crazy days these are, so be careful not to provoke someone into more than you want to deal with.

shoulders 2011-07-07 15:04:32 -0500 Report

MrsCDogg; Please don't stay at home, don't give them the satisfaction of treating you that way. Just keep on doing what you need to do…They will get whats comeing to them, maybe not today or tommorrow but they will be our age someday and there will be people that will return the favor to them.May God Bless You And Keep You Close To Him…Your Friend, "Shoulders" Cynthia

scribbles 2011-07-07 09:51:17 -0500 Report

Yes. Modern manners are horrid, especially outside of your home. I know that covers a lot of territory but it's true. I am less than 60 years old, and I suffer from the ageless malady "I miss the old days, when people knew how to behave."
If you can manage to stay home and have a dependable income - GO FOR IT!

MrsCDogg 2011-07-07 05:31:24 -0500 Report

I live in West Virginia and people are pretty nice for the most part. Except for on the road. I consistantly drive the speed limit and am tailgated nearly every day. I refuse to allow these people to make me drive faster. I've been known to just take my foot off the gas and before they know it they are almost on top of me. Then THEY have the nerve to flip me off and act like I'm the one doing something wrong. People never fail to leave me amazed.

Sidehack 2011-07-07 05:23:31 -0500 Report

Bad attitudes spread like a virus! You give me one and I'll probably pass it on. BUT; sometimes I catch myself or start off armed with good intentions and hold a door for somebody or compliment a stranger or, yes, even be friendly to a retail clerk. Pleasant attitudes are catchy too. Pay it forward.

cottoncandybaby 2011-07-07 22:58:13 -0500 Report

Pay it forward is a good motto to go by. I know that if someone is nice enough to let me get in front of them, especially after waiting forever when noone will let you in even though they can see you have been sitting there just waiting and waiting, then I will tend to let someone else in, in front of me, also. I also have the habit if someone is right on my tail, even though I am going just above the speed limit, I will not go any faster just to appease them. If they decide they want to go around me, they can do that, however, when we get to the next red light, they are usually no further ahead of me than one or 2 cars, I hope they realize how foolish they looked trying to "race" ahead to the front! I live in southwest Florida, and truthfully most people here are very nice, but when people get on the road their personalities tend to change!