Keeping up your motivation

taz2020
By taz2020 Latest Reply 2008-11-03 03:53:39 -0600
Started 2008-10-15 22:13:01 -0500

Maybe someone has a little advise about motivation in taking care of yourself through diet and excersize. I go periods of time where I really stay on track and acutally lose some weight. Then the weight loss stopped continuing even with all the hard work I was doing and I completely quit all I was doing including following a diabetic diet and eat sweats. Then I really get angry with myself about what I've done, acting like I'm not really diabetic. I also feel very guilty too but it still hasn't gotten me back on task. I know it's my choice to do this but I'm really struggling and it just becomes a viscious cicle. Do others have this happen and what do you do to get out of these slumps. I don't have a support system so I'm turning to all of you for a little advise from your experienc.
Thanks,
taz


16 replies

bluegesmo
bluegesmo 2008-11-01 19:26:34 -0500 Report

Hang in there. You are doing great if your A1C is 6.0 I am doing great if mine is 7. or below. I have gpne from 14 to 7.1. It is hard work every day. I think all diabetics go through this. I have lost 40 pounds taking byetta. You would think that would be motivation enough. It's not. It's still hard. Good luck. Take care. God Bless.

taz2020
taz2020 2008-11-03 03:53:39 -0600 Report

wow! You've gone from 14 to 7.1? That's amazing and a 40lb weight loss as well. You are working hard and should certainly be proud of yourself! I still haven't been able to get with it and boy are my numbers climbing. Tonight I was 185 2 hours after dinner. Tonight I had to chicken thighs and peas and a bowl of real sherbert which I know is off limits but I've been told it's better than eating ice cream. Oviously it isn't that much better since my bg level was so high. I've never been that high that I've known of since being diagnosed. Could this be causing the fatigue I've been having? I use a cpap and I'm still tired all day. The other night I ate halloween candy like a normal person as if I wasn't diabetic. I just don't know what's wrong with me even with all of the support. I guess I'm still coming to terms with having this disease. My son ran away from home in June and has some serious emotional problems along with cancer, but thankfully in remission. I can't get him to go in to see the oncologist to have his last tests which are way over due. I heard from the school (he's a senior and I had always planned he'd be going to collge) that he's trying to drop out of school as well which is just breaking my heart.I'm sure the stress doesn't help and that I'm comfort eating. But, I did get on the treadmill a couple days ago. I'm going to put a big sign on my mirror for the morning to tell myself to get on the treadmill right away even if I can't do as much as I used to and I'll think of all of you and your caring ways. I don't want to abuse the time and advise you are all giving me. I am taking it to heart and it's burning into my memory forcing me to think harder about this problem and pushing me closer to starting a new beginning. Maybe I should check in more often for a kick in my pants from all of you. As I said before I don't have any support and will look to all of you. I know you can't force me to do anything and your not my babysitter but the reminders and checking in with me occasionally would really help feel the begining of a sence of community for me. Maybe it will help me to really accept the fact that I am a diabetic. I think that's what I've been fighting with along with my anger over it. I've had so much to handle with my son and his remission …etc. I guess eating sweets is giving me some feeling of control over my life right now but of course it's harmful so I really don't have any control. If I listen to all of you I am hoping to take those small steps towards acceptance and lessen my anger over this disease. I need to grow up and stop letting the other problems in my life rule over my health. Thank you all for your thoughtfulness and caring. If anyone wants to email me directly you can usually reach me at amiep1@netzero.com small. Hopefully I can offer support to one of you.
taz2020

Gabby
GabbyPA 2008-10-25 00:10:03 -0500 Report

Hey Taz

here is the direct link to the discussion
http://www.diabeticconnect.com/discussions/1019?last_viewed_at=2008-10-24+20%3A03%3A14+-0700
What Edie and some of us have been doing is just poting our exercise, our readings, sleep, med intake, food log....whatever you want to post or feel comfortable doing. Not there to judge anyone, just to have a little accountability and help us stay motivated.

I know I was trucking along until the last week. I see my numbers are rising a little and my exercise is down. I know that they are intertwined and this post helps me see that.

It also is a place where we encourage eachother as we go. Ask for help or sometimes people will see what we are doing and offer some suggestions. It's all to help us manage our diabetes the best we can.

We will be starting a new discussion in November too. As we have found that we need a new one each month because it gets so long.

So come on in, join us for some fun.

Avera
Avera 2008-10-21 09:30:58 -0500 Report

I was glad to read that someone has these same problems I do. I especially enjoyed reading the followup posts. They helped me.

taz2020
taz2020 2008-10-24 18:18:25 -0500 Report

I want to thank all of you for your help and suggestions. It has meant alot to me. When I was dieting and using the treadmill my A1C was down to 6.0. I was really happy about it and it showed me how important my diet and exersize had payed off. But, as I said with this discussion, I went way off course when I stopped losing weight. I'm afraid to see what my next A1C will be! I think taking one meal at a time is good advise. I know I have to force myself to eat more often and regularly. I often go all day without eating and I have heard that the body can go into starvation mode. Again, I really am grateful to all of you for taking the time to give your input. I don't know what this diet page is that several of you suggested I look at. Somehow I'm missing how to access it. Maybe one of you can explain it to me.
taz2020

Gabby
GabbyPA 2008-10-20 01:20:14 -0500 Report

Hi Taz,

This is a stuggle we all face and the one thing that I try really hard to do to keep me going is just to let my body tell me how it is doing. I find when I focus on numbers all the time it can get discouraging really quickly. Specially since I want it right every time.

I have to chart my BG numbers, those are important information. But my weight, I let my clothing tell me my success rate. I found once I started looking at those numbers too, I was focused on the wrong motivation. Healthy lifestyle is my motivation.

I know when I hit a point where I stop dropping my BG levels or my weight, it means I have to kick it up a notch. Not a lot, like John Morris said, just a little at a time. Your body gets used to a level of activity or a calorie intake. We have to keep our body from getting bored too.

So change it up a little. Do a different exercise routine. Eat a differnt menu, sleep a little more. You would be surprised how much a little extra sleep helps change things up. Even an extra half an hour can make a difference.

Join Edie and I over on the discussion "Exercise and Diet2" We are charting a lot of helpful information for ourselves and for everyone to see (sometimes that is embarrassing, but it is worth it) It keeps me motivated to share good things and sometimes keeps me from the binge monster. We could always use another person to post with us.

Gabby
GabbyPA 2008-10-21 08:17:15 -0500 Report

Hey Taz,
I have not seen you pop in over on the diet and exercise discussion. We really would love to have you come and join us. The more the merrier.

PAT L
PAT L 2008-10-17 17:19:51 -0500 Report

IF YOU ARE USEING A CHART, YOU CAN ADD YOUR WEIGHT IN THE CORNER OF A SECTION OF IT ALONG WITH WHEN YOU TAKE YOUR INSULIN. I MARK MINE WHEN IN TAKE A SHOT AN ALSO BUT MY BLOOD PRESURE AT THE END OF THE DAY SO THE DOC HAS A GOOD IDEA WHAT I AM DOING TO KEEP MY BS IN CONTROL. AN IT WILL HELP YOU WHEN YOU LOOK AT THE CHART 4 OR 5 TIMES A DAY TO KEEP YOUR LIFE IN LINE THE WAY YOU WANT IT…

Bugsy - 24241
Bugsy - 24241 2008-10-18 08:07:07 -0500 Report

Hi- I find that I do great unless I pick up "junk" food at the store and then I have to just keep eating it til it's gone. It's better to just buy 1 treat instead of a package. I feel so let down by myself when I binge. I too am on my own and even though I know better, I still have those moments. I need to take my own advice too. Keep the faith.

momoftype1
momoftype1 2008-10-17 14:13:16 -0500 Report

Taz-

KDRoberts had a great reply in another post when he said take one meal at a time. We all have vices and habits that are not healthy. You have to remember that changing everything you know is not easy and will not come overnight-If you make an effort to eat healthy and count the carbs one meal at a time the weight loss and good bg numbers will come with it.

I am not diabetic, my daugher is, but everyone here has been an inspiration to me, and I have completely revamped my eating, sleeping and exercise habits thanks to all of the wonderful people here.

We are all here to support each other! Make it about a small thing like the next snack instead of the big thing like the past. You have to look ahead and focus on what is coming and how you can approach it differently. We have your back and are here for you!!

Dawn

2008-10-17 11:30:06 -0500 Report

You know; I have come across a lot of people like you with no home support system, but we can give you all the help and support you need right here, you can either submit a question to a person you feel comfortable with, or keep on discussing, because that shows effort, and proves motivation. Good Luck, Hon, Claudia

morris.js
morris.js 2008-10-16 23:27:05 -0500 Report

Hi Taz,
First, no matter how hard you try, your body "takes a break", during periods of weight loss, so you will quit losing for a time. This is a very normal reaction, and it will not last more than a few weeks to a few months. Some of us have had much better success with eating 5 or 6 small meals, (or 3 small meals with snacks in between). If you try to skip meals to lose weight, your body goes into "starvation mode", and stores all the stuff you eat, and slows your metabolism way down.
Second, you said you did not have a support system. That is not quite true…LOL You have the best possible support system right here on DC. I would suggest maybe you join in on one of the discussions like "Diet and exercise 2" to make yourself somewhat "accountable". Or start one of your own that will do the same thing. You will find a lot of people here that will help with advise on certain problems you may run into while working on controling your BG levels.

Remember, I do not know of anyone that make all the needed changes all at once. Just take on a couple at a time, then as those become easier, add more. Baby steps…LOL

All my best, John

vgarrison
vgarrison 2008-10-16 19:11:42 -0500 Report

Tazz,

I am going thru the exact same thing you are right now. I "forgot" to take my insulin today. I was in the middle of eating dinner, when I realized I hadn't taken it, and hadn't all day. I was also eating chocolate earlier. I checked my BG leven and it was 234…ok back to reality.

I have heard on here not to beat yourself up about it, after all we are only human, but it's difficult not to be hard on myself. At first when I was diagnosed I was like "ok I'm diabetic, what am I going to do about this" now the "novelty" has worn off and I don't want to do this anymore. Then it doned (sp?) on me, no one wants to do this, but sometimes in life we have to do things we don't really want to. This is just another one of those time…that is always going to be there.

I hope with all my heart that you are able to get past this hump, and take care of yourself. Wouldn't want to see anything bad happen to any of us!!!! And I think I'm going to take my own advice.

Vicki
Blessed Be

taz2020
taz2020 2008-10-16 21:36:50 -0500 Report

Thanks for your advise. I appreciate it very much. I'm going to try to stay more involved with this site as I used to. It helps remind me that I really am diabetic and when I stumble maybe it will help me regain my motivation and help me with my denial!

Debe Pendice
Debe Pendice 2008-10-17 00:00:36 -0500 Report

Vicki, I am so opposite of you. I never for get my insulin. I forget to eat and down out. ( GO FIGURE )
HUGS,
Debe

vgarrison
vgarrison 2008-10-17 03:51:18 -0500 Report

Debe,

I did that the other day too. I made a sandwich and went to take my insulin before I ate, hehe while my back was turned my 110 lb German Shepard took it off the counter and ate. When I turned around and the sandwich was gone, I guess I just forgot about it. I take Apidra which is fast acting so needless to say in about 20 minutes I started to shake…ooooops I thought to myself. The memory of the sandwich came right back. The pathetic look on the dogs face kinda gave it away as well…LOL

Vicki