Ready to give up

By camsgranny Latest Reply 2008-10-25 23:32:22 -0500
Started 2008-10-15 17:27:17 -0500

I am a newly diagnosed type 2 diabetic. I am on both pills and insulin. I keep my blood sugar under control with meds, diet and exercise, but it is starting to get to me. I am ready to chuck it all, and go back to my old ways of eating. I miss too many of the foods I like. I miss real eggs, pastas, doughnuts, and all the other "no-no" foods I used to enjoy. Does getting used to changing everything overnight like I had to do get any better? Will I ever get used to this lifestyle? If so how long will it take?

28 replies

DonnaAnn 2008-10-25 23:32:22 -0500 Report

Take it one step at a time. Your taste buds will change in time and, yes, you will get use to not having those bad foods.
There are big things to look forward to also: your blood sugars will get better and your doctor will be proud of you and you can be proud of yourself.
You will loose wieght. people will notice and say WOW! look at you! I know this one, because it is happening to me now.
Your complection will be better. Your skin will actually look better!
You will feel better and have more energy.
Your general health will be better.
With all these plus things, it is worth staying on track! Stay focused. It is perfectly normal to slip every once in a while, heck, we are all human and fall of the wagon. Do not be so hard on yourself if you fall off. Dust yourself off, take a deep breath and jump back on. We will be there waiting to welcome you back on board!

sparkysmom 2008-10-17 11:13:35 -0500 Report

I was diagnosed type2 in Jan. I got with the program but after a couple months was feeling the way you are. I was ready to chuck it in and go back to my old ways. Then I stumbled onto this site. It literally saved my life. The people here are so nice. All the articles are helpful and I have found that using the recipes on this site I no longer miss "good" food. Check out the recipe section. Hang in there.

caspersmama 2008-10-18 01:58:59 -0500 Report

Well I am finding more and more I am liking the low carb and healthier foods. I use to be one that had to have cheese on broccoli and cauliflower, but now I steam it and put either lemon pepper on it or actually lemon juice. I like it better. I also used to put a ton of butter on brussels sprouts now I roast them with a little olive oil and garlic and they are delicious. So you learn to adapt and find what works and taste good to you. I use to think brown rice and whole wheat pasta was the "devils" food. LOL but I use the whole wheat pasta now and am beginning to enjoy the brown rice. I also use spaghetti squash instead of pasta. So experiment you may find you can re-learn the "good" food.

2008-10-17 10:28:40 -0500 Report

I have seen posts like this so much.lately, and I feel for you. I am not the newly diagnosed diabetic, my husband is, and I have encourage him every day;like this site encourages its users, Maybe you need someone in your life to help support you in this very hard endeavor; And you know what I have learned, is that my husband has done well with intakes and levels; to let him have a small treat, if he wishes, It is not going to kill him; just have to be aware to have a plan, and try not to break it; Whatever works for you, may not work for others' but don't give up; There is always sometime you deserve a reward, even if it isn't food. Refocus, and stay with us.

teddybearcub1960 2008-10-17 03:31:48 -0500 Report

Yeah it does take time. When I think about giving in I do remember that I have a family that wants me around for a long long long time.

momma_havens 2008-10-17 02:33:46 -0500 Report

yes it will take time,,,but you have remember this,,,if you want to live ,,,then you will have to keep your self busy and keep positive that you can do this,,

enigmalady777 2008-10-16 16:14:28 -0500 Report

I think we pretty much all go through this at some point or another.

This blasted disease is a beast. Managing it is tough. But we cannot let the disease manage US.

I'm so glad there are so many resources and support forums out here on the internet. Whenever I get the urge to give up, I just log back onto one of these sites and I start reading and posting and sharing.

It does really help.

Wow…look at the time. It's time for me to poke myself again. Lantus…here I come…


camsgranny 2008-10-17 01:40:45 -0500 Report

Thanks to all who responded. I was told by my nutritionist that I should give up on most of the foods I was used to eating. She said to find alternate foods to substitute for them. (Egg beaters instead of eggs, for example). I am trying them, but the taste is terrible. I work in a deli, and am around food all day, and its so tempting to eat the food there. I go to the break room and see people eating what I want, while I eat a salad and drink water. I know it will get better, but the temptation is so strong. I will take your advice and take 1 day at a time. Thanks all, you have really helped me.

kdroberts 2008-10-17 02:18:16 -0500 Report

I should also add that my nutritionist told me to do a lot of things too. I tried and then gave up and came up with my own plan based on my BG readings and a1c and cholesterol tests. If I was doing what she wanted me to do I would be extremely underweight, have a bad a1c, be spiking well over 200 after each meal and generally be in poor health. Just remember, they are only advisors.

Goddess 2008-10-16 06:17:08 -0500 Report

Right now I feel like giving up on everything. Nothing is going right in my life.

Charish 2008-10-16 18:31:18 -0500 Report

Hi Misery,

You know I felt this way for many reasons and for many things, but there is a greater purpose for the test that we are going through right now. I always say this about the things that happen to me; the bigger the test the greater the blessing. Sweetheart life is always going to be filled with one thing faced, solved and then yet another test. But it's how you handle it that will bring forth the greater purpose.

You have been fighting a long time and I understand that, but giving up means saying that you are now defeated and I know that you are not a quiter and the fight is strong in you. It's like I told one of my other friends here its not your fight anyway, God is fighting for you and all you have to do is to allow Him to continue the fight and step out of the way.

Misery never give up on this journey honey. I have lost all that I had worked so hard for and I only possess me and a few other things that I had aquired along the way, and I felt that there was nothing to continue fighting for. But then I reminded myself that there were people like you and others who had to meet me and if I was down for the count then you and the countless others will never know that greater purpose and the reason for the fight. I am to serve as the light that God has placed in this life to enlighten others who are at the point of saying I give up. Your life and friendship is far more a treasure then you know. But you know what the amazing thing is I still smile each day regardless to all I have lost, and I would be lieing if I said that I haven't cried and said many times that I was tired, but I continued to press for the mark and I hope that you will too.

Don't give up okay and take care of yourself.

Hugs and Kisses

Teresa (Charish)

Charish 2008-10-16 05:30:01 -0500 Report

Hi Camsgranny,

It's never easy to give up the things you love and it even worse when you feel that you are being forced to do it and not willing to do it yourself. I made the change without wanting too, and now my life is better then it was before. I have lost 49 pounds, 5 inches from my waiste, 4 inches from my hips and down 4 sizes. My schedule has been off a little lately but on a normal schedule I walk twice a day first at 30 minutes twice a day, now and hour twice a day. So even if I don't get to walk but once a day I would have gotten a good walk in the first time out. The food I eat is very much the same only fixed now to meet the requirements of a diabetic and in smaller portions. You don't have to be enslaved to your new life but rather enjoy it. And the most important thing of all, being with the ones that love you should be a push to want to do the things that will keep you with them and with us here at DC.

Life as a diabetic can become very routine and it can be hard on the person going through it, but you can be the one who make it more acceptable to you and not look at it as being a chore or something that is forced upon you. See life as the beautiful thing that God created it to be and not the view of what man thinks it should be and then take your next steps in the journey that is ahead of you with new vision and an new attiutde. Simply tell yourself you have a new journey that is well worth taking because I can clearly see those standong at the finish line waiting for me to finish the race.

Take care of yourself and know that we love and support you so don't feel these things alone okay.

Hugs and Kisses

Teresa (Charish)

2008-10-16 06:25:59 -0500 Report

Hi Charish, I really like reading your response's to others, you have a wonderful answer to what they are going
through and with a lot of commpassion.

Charish 2008-10-16 18:09:58 -0500 Report

Thank you. I can only give back the compassion that Christ placed in my heart to others as it was given to me.

Hugs and Kisses


kdroberts 2008-10-16 02:09:10 -0500 Report

Here's my take. Whoever told you you had to do everything all at once is an idiot. It's a complete travesty to make somebody completely change the way they live overnight because sooner or later (usually sooner) they get to the place you're in right now and can't do it. Now, what to do.

Take a step back and add in some of the foods you like. Eggs I'm not sure why you are not eating them but maybe you have other issues not posted. Start reading nutritional labels and using your meter. When you eat a meal, test to see what it does for you. Concentrate on one meal at a time until you are happy with what you are eating and what it does to you. Definitely take a look at Toma's site and download the book and have a read. Some people can handle cutting out what they like overnight but most people need to ease into it to make it permanent lifestyle change and the time it takes each person is different.

I personally treat things like an experiment. Nothing is initially off limits but if I eat it and it effects me in a way I'm not happy with then I re-evaluate. Is it something I can live without? If so I don't eat it again. Is it something I would like to eat from time to time? If so I will figure out a way to eat it that so it won't mess my blood sugar up. Is it something I would rather not give up and want to eat on a regular basis? If so I'll re-evaluate the portion sizing, alternatives to it and timing when I eat it.

For me, pasta and doughnuts are not off limits, but they pose a tricky problem of how, when and how much to eat. I can have one bite of a doughnut, or a brownie, or whatever and be done with it so I eat that from time to time when my blood sugar is good and it's worked into my schedule. Other people can't so they cut them out completely. One other thing to remember is that working out is a good opportunity to eat the treat. I know one guy who loves snickers bars and does some long distance running. He eats the snickers before the run and burns the carb during his run. It might be worth investigating if you can do something similar where you have a small treat before working out if your blood sugar is good and "use it up" during your exercise.

Don't give up, just take it slowly and do it in a way that you will be able to continue for ever.

2008-10-16 08:27:14 -0500 Report

Perfect response. I was going to respond myself but after reading yours there is not need for me to elaborate. You said it all!! One step at a time!


policeofficer 2008-10-16 01:47:46 -0500 Report

I went thru the same thing. it does get better. when you look at the alternative i.e. complications going blind, renal 3 times a week, bad feet, amputation, i can learn to eat what i need to keep healty. as a police officer it's really hard to deal with it, but positive attitude works wonder. you can do it and hang in there. Officer Mitchell

Lanore 2008-10-16 01:45:00 -0500 Report

We have all been there at times, being diabetic for 20 yrs doesn't change that either, but yes you do it use to. I was never one to stop eating what I enjoyed I just don't do it on as often any more.I still have that doughnut once in a while or that pizza once in a while. I often tell my dr I am not an angel, but I do try to stay on my diet. I think anyone here will tell you it is not easy but doable. Hang in there you will be alright and we are here to help you along when you need it. Lanore :-)

caspersmama 2008-10-16 09:23:53 -0500 Report

I agree. I still eat the things I like but not as much or often. I have found other things that satisfy me just as much. I found Laughing Cow cheese with 6 Triscuits for a snack. I found I like broccoli more with lemmon on it rather than cheese. I found a very good red wine I enjoy 1/2 glass a day. So through trial and error I think we all find what works for us. Do not give up because the alternative is worse. Just experiment with all kinds of food to find what you like and what happens to your sugars. good luck.

2008-10-16 00:56:38 -0500 Report

Hi Camsgranny,
I felt the sames way last week because
I was feeling sick and depressed. I went to a different Doctor , who talked to
me for 2 hours. She explained how
out of control Diabetes affects your
Kidneys, and other organs. Also how
when your Blood gets sticky from high
gloucose in your blood will cause Blood
Clotsand also dehydrates your body, when
you urninate so much when your body is high in blood sugar, plus much more. It drew my attention because I thought the same way you are feeling right now. I gave up and my Blood sugar was 571 and I wasn't taking my insulin like I should
and was so sick. Please do not give up on taking your meds and eating right.
Because of that Doctor telling me the down falls of out of control diabetes.
I am thank ful for the advice that the
Doctor gave me.

JoDanzer 2008-10-16 17:26:36 -0500 Report

I was diagnosed in 2003. My sugars were under great control on Metformin, eating right and exercising. I can't exercise right now, I got in a car accident ane have a herniated disc in my neck. I keep eating all the wrong things, because I can't stand up long enough to really cook a good meal. I do tv dinners, but they are high in sodium. I had to quit the gym because of my neck, and siatica. I can sit down to cook, and do quite a bit. It should be easier now, but it seems like it's harder. My job was outsourced, and I have not been able to find another for over a year…stress is a factor, I think.

Bluebutterfly 2008-10-15 20:55:45 -0500 Report

I have been a diabetic since 1994.Yes it does get easier ,you can adjust most of you favorite foods to be diabetic friendly. I know it is not the same but you can get used to anything. If I just have to have like a piece of cake at a party or something I just have a sliver.I hope this helps.

Goddess 2008-10-15 17:54:59 -0500 Report

Yes you will get used to it. It just takes time and that is different for each person. I have been a diabetic for over 25 years. Yes I miss those foodsbut we have an excellent recipe with all the no-no's just fixed a different way.