wake up call

By realsis77 Latest Reply 2015-08-07 12:21:23 -0500
Started 2011-06-19 18:00:05 -0500

I got a very sobering reminder that we must be watching our blood sugar closely because complacations can and WILL happen if we don't. A personal friend of mine has type two diabetes just like I do. She has choosen to ignore her diabetes for some years now. She ate what she wanted when she wanted and behaved as if she was not a diabetic at all. Well now after doing this for a few years she noticed her toes were black. She went to the doctor and now has to have those toes removed. She's now started an insulin regiment and is paying closer attention to her diabetes. It is very sad to me that this has happened to her. It was a reminder to me that we can NOT sweep our diabetes under the rug. We must face it and control it or it will come and get us if we don't! I wanted to share her story with you as a reminder of what can happen if we choose to ignore our diabetes. So check your sugar and eat right and hopefully we can all continue to control this terriable disease!

86 replies

Kalisiin 2015-08-07 12:21:23 -0500 Report

The way my doctor put it to me was like this:

Diabetes is like a vicious, caged animal. If you keep it caged, it can't hurt you. If you let it out of it's cage, it will maul you.

denipink57 2014-11-11 17:39:47 -0600 Report

thanks for leaving us with this very sobering reminder. it sure hits home for me because i went about the same time not testing my blood sugar levels simply because i did not have a kit. by the time i got one my blood sugar levels were very high and it took me months to get them back to where they needed to be.

today is a very different story. i test with every meal and adjust my insulin according to my carb intake. i manage to get away with using only small amounts of insulin with my meals and exercise and eating a healthy balanced diet is my day by day now.

thanks for posting this.

Grandmama16 2014-03-15 01:49:42 -0500 Report

My brother in law died at 40, quite awhile ago, from thinking that as long as he kept upping his insulin he could eat candy etc. He lost his teeth and then a few years later died alone in his apt. He also messed with drugs. There are other relatives in that line who have had bad complications. Our grandson has type 1 now just like the uncle he never knew. He keeps in shape and is doing ok with insulin and watching carbs, at 24. So, why do I have type 2 with no diabetes on my side of the family? Go figure.
Then too, I had a neighbor lady who wasn't taking care of herself well, and smoked…had a leg amputated above the ankle. Still smoked. Still problems . We celebrated her 60th Bd. She moved to a handicap apt and later died from complications of diabetes. The older couple who lived in her house before her also had diabetes complications which killed them. I ate cake tonight but did well the rest of the day. It was at a Fri fish fry at church. No more of that.

Fefe12 2013-08-29 01:52:45 -0500 Report

Im sorry I don't understand why people don't manage this. How many times have we said to ourselves, don't eat this or that, well maybe just this once or I will eat better tomorrow! I think most of us have and now here we are. Now we have the chance to correct all those mistakes and be healthy and change our future. I know there are those who have been made very ill. but most of us have a choice. To me its simple, live or die. I choose life and all that involves. So if that means I have to eat better, exercise, and only have one glass of wine, so be it. Would having terminal cancer be better?

valentine lady
valentine lady 2011-10-29 13:56:53 -0500 Report

realsis77: Great story, glad you wrote about it. Valentine Lady…P.S. Hope we can be friends, I have a similar story I'll share later with the site. Hugs to you…

AuntieBear 2011-10-29 01:44:39 -0500 Report

Lottie, Portia, Tiny, Gloria and Jane WERE all friends of mine. They are all dead now from complications of diabetes. They all had the complications because they did not take care of themselves. A huge part of me misses them. But there is also a part that is angry because they either did not try or just flat out gave up. I saw my friends die from a wide variety of diabetic complications. It is a horrible way to die. So I try and when I fail, I try again and again to keep my diabetes under control. Hopefully I will not die as horribly as they did.

MEGriff1950 2011-10-28 19:40:14 -0500 Report

I had a nice visit with my cousin a couple of weeks ago. He is type 1, even though he has done all he can since being diagnosed he has little control over his diabetes. He lost one leg just below the knee, has a new kidney from his ex daughter in law, he wears dentures and is slowly loosing his vision. He has a pump and he and his wife measure and count carbs and calories plus he is very active. My heart goes out to you 1's your struggles are worse then us 2's.

karen7t2 2013-06-25 06:12:13 -0500 Report

That is so sad. My heart goes out to him and you and all your family. I pray that they soon find a cure.

karen7t2 2013-06-25 06:12:07 -0500 Report

That is so sad. My heart goes out to him and you and all your family. I pray that they soon find a cure.

Mickey/CCHT 2011-10-28 19:25:36 -0500 Report

That is a big reminder of what we have to guard against, among other things. I know i pretty much ignored my condition for a solid year until my body gave me a wake up call. Nothing as drastic as your friends' toes, but still a reminder. I got gastritis and it took a month for them to figure out what was wrong. It was not fun, i would eat a couple bites of food and get sick and my stomach would swell up like i was 9months pregnant! It hurt! That is what started my awakening and i'm grateful it was not as bad as having to have something removed. I hope your friend is doing well now and i hope your message reaches the ears of people whom need to hear it. Thanks for sharing. God Bless.

unforgivinman 13
unforgivinman 13 2011-08-30 19:51:44 -0500 Report

i have been a type 1 diabetic for 41yrs i have struggled with this disease for a long time. it disturbs me that people who have it disrespect it.i have never had ins. till last month most of my life i had to buy my own supplies since the age of 16. iam an adopted child it never been easy for me i wet my bed for many years because my adoptive mother could not control it. when i turned 16 i moved out and learned to control on my own i was in two diabetic comas it really sucked the life out of me. so if any please again please anybody thats close to u or even if their if their not please give as much feedback or help. do not turn ur back!!! i never had anybody to really help me. so if u really care about ur diabetes do whatever GOD gives u to help any u can!!! lol the unforgivinman rich thanx every body.

p3j 2011-08-30 15:08:53 -0500 Report

Hi to u all here. I thx u for that im4, now that gives me a wakeup call. I needed that 4 sure. Wow!

Gemm 2011-08-30 13:15:46 -0500 Report

My father-in-law (now deceased) did this as well. He got a sore on one of his toes and didn't even bother to see a doctor about it until it had turned septic. He ended up having to have 2 amputations of his leg at different heights because it just would not heal, the 1st about 1/2 way from ankle to knee and the 2nd about 1/2 way from knee to hip. In the end he died from complications of not taking care of his diabetes even though the 2nd surgery did finally heal.

When my husband was diagnosed a couple of years after his father died he immediately talked to our doctor about things we could do to help take care of his. He is so-so about following the doctor's advice. It concerns me a lot as I've already had to bury one husband (heart problem we had no idea he had) and really don't want to bury another - at least not yet because he won't take care of himself. On his behalf though he does do a better job of it than 1 of his 2 brothers who are also diabetic so there is still hope :)

HUGS to all

flipmom 2011-08-30 12:26:16 -0500 Report

i have been away from my country for so many years and i heard a news about my childhood friend died of diabetes complications… sad to hear that he ignored the fact that he was one… im heartbroken..

LennyDenny 2011-08-30 11:43:53 -0500 Report

You know I've been gone for a while due to some heart and lung problems and it just make me mad when we fight to stay healthy and then have family or friends that just don't care. I have a older brother that found out back a number of years ago the he was diabetic. He cleaned out the bad food at home and lost about 100 lbs. a few years later he had 5 bypasses. We really makes me mad is that today he just does not care. He put back on the weight and has started smoking again. I have kept on him about changing but it does not matter and I'm almost to the point that I may quit trying. It goes against everything I believe in but what can we do.

judy makowski
judy makowski 2011-10-28 19:03:17 -0500 Report

We can't make them change they must do that themselves. My husband of metastatic lung cancer because he wouldn't go to the dr. He knew he was ill but it didn't matter. I believe he was depressed maybe your brother is also. It is a terrible shock to do everything yo can to change your health patterns for the better and then years down the road find yourself wih another life threatening illness. I guess all we can do is pray for them and be there for them if and when they decide to do something about it. We can only change how we react to the situation not the person who is going through it. Good luck and peace

LennyDenny 2011-10-31 08:31:28 -0500 Report

Thanks for the reply - I know he had his first wife pass away about 3 years ago and he was good for quite some time. About a year ago he remarried and that's when he started all his bad habits again. You know I have a brother and sister and it's sad to say but I wrote both of them off a long time ago. I have moved along with my life and I'll be darn if I'm going to let a few little things like heart and lung problems slow me down. We just keep on fighting.

judy makowski
judy makowski 2011-10-31 10:37:28 -0500 Report

We are in much the same position in some ways. My husband passed last year because he wouldn't go to the doc. In truth I think he used it as a way to commit suicide. I have had to write off my family as well and considering I am about 700 miles from them I didn't see them anyway.

We will make it. We have come this far and have no intention of quitting now. We have worked to hard. You have a great day,

lori lorchid
lori lorchid 2011-08-30 18:41:03 -0500 Report

That's so sad. I have a girlfriend I've known for yrs., who won't stop smoking who'd diiabetic, lost 113 lbs., has copd, got a infection in mouth almost died and lost all her teeth, and gumline, can't wear dentures, needs implants but who has that kind of green. She hardly eats anything now doesn't take any of her meds and has had a breakdown, found out she's bipolar. We must keep the faith for our family, friends when they've lost theres.

Richknowbody 2011-08-30 10:44:34 -0500 Report

I have three sisters and two brothers that have diabetes. None are paying attention to it. I try to talk to them about it and they want to change the subject. One I asked about it in July and she said she is handling it with "Herbs". I dropped the subject. I had brought her some test strips and lancets and she wasn't interested. My youngest brother is 42 years of age and over weight by 150 LBS. He won't talk to me about it either.

berrykins0 2011-10-29 07:25:19 -0500 Report

so sorry to hear they don't want to listen what you have to say it somtimes make a person feel so bad when they try to help somebody out. i feel bad for you they dont want to listen to you. sorry to hear that.

MoeGig 2011-08-30 17:27:31 -0500 Report

Tough. It reminds me of when I was in high school (1962), and they showed us graphic movies of young people in car accidents. The objective, of course, was to motivate us to behave…who knows if it really works, but what else can you do??

berrykins0 2011-10-29 07:26:35 -0500 Report

your right about that some times trying to get a point across about how bad something can make matters worse.

JoleneAL 2011-08-30 10:30:42 -0500 Report

I talked to someone who knew someone who did the same thing. The heart attack dang near stopped him in his tracks permenantly. He now pays attention and does what the doctor says to do.

Abby888 2011-08-30 09:19:33 -0500 Report

My wake up call was getting Pancreatitis 2 weeks ago and being diagnosed with Diabetic Neuropathy at 35 y/o. Sorry to hear that your friend has to go through that procedure. I am certainly paying attention to my eating, exercising and my glucose numbers

lorene1212 2011-08-29 23:10:30 -0500 Report

I have had three friends die because of diabetes. Two chose to ignore and one must have passed out and was found dead. Such sad news for me. I am not sure if I had diabetes then or not. But sure dont want to die because of my ignorance. I can be ignorant and was. I am better now because of each and every one of you here on DC. Thank you so much I appreciate you and love you all.

princessbeiter 2011-08-29 22:17:59 -0500 Report

I have a friend who has known about her diabetes for decades. She was on insulin, but stopped it when she started getting a lot of really bad staph infections. She makes up her own medication instructions. She reuses her lancets.

She's been very ill for at least 6 years, now. The things she does would amaze anyone. I really don't know how she's still living and has all her limbs. It's scary.

Take care of yourself.

margokittycat 2011-08-29 21:12:20 -0500 Report

Realsis77. Thank you for sharing that with all of us. Yes that is a real wake up call and something for everyone to think about and remember when they just want to give up and not take care of themselves. Thank you!

Autumn's Mi Mi
Autumn's Mi Mi 2011-08-29 20:15:29 -0500 Report

Wow I am so sorry to hear about your friend. I am a firm believer that if you do't do what is right, then you will suffer the consequences. I am just sorry her consequences were so severe.

I also have a friend who has Diabetes he has had it for a very long time. I know that he is not doing what he is supposed to do because over the years he has had 3 toes an eye removed and a few teeth missing. This is scary to me because it is all new for me to understand and in the back of my mind I am thinking the same is going to happen to me.

Since I am newly diagnosed, I have been doing what I am told and doing what I have read. I still have issues with portions when it comes to my meals. There are times that I am told that I am under eating but it is hard to eat all of the meals that are planned. I guess as time goes on I will get it right. Your story should be a good example for us all. I will think about your friend when I want to eat what I can't have.

Debbiejf 2011-08-30 15:31:40 -0500 Report

I fianlly figured out that if I couldn't eat a very small piece of something that I love then I wouldn't eat any of it at all. I hate it but as I'm still waiting for grandchildren I have to do this. Years ago when I was first married my then mother-in-law ( who is so religious-her whole life) told me I didn't have to accept being diabetic! That all I had to do was pray and accept the Lord's healing. This was all the devil's doing. What do you say to that? By taking care of myself was that saying that I didn't believe is God's healings? That was tough to deal with but years later, after the divorce, she seems to have accepted that I have diabetes and wasn't going to be healed by the Lord whether I prayed or not.

jayabee52 2011-08-30 16:09:31 -0500 Report

About those folks saying you can be healed if you pray and believe hard enough, I read to them what the apostle Paul wrote in 2 Corinthians 12:7-10

"or because of these surpassingly great revelations. Therefore, in order to keep me from becoming conceited, I was given a thorn in my flesh, a messenger of Satan, to torment me. 8 Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me. 9 But he said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.' Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. 10 That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong."

Paul had strong faith. God answer was "no" on the healing. God had His reasons. In your case He has his reasons too. That does not mean He does not love you or that you don't have enough faith. It just means that His plans doesn't include your healing at this time. If you are healed miraculously, Praise the Lord. If not Praise Him anyway because God is using your weakness to speak somehow to others on His behalf.

digitaldoorbell 2011-07-26 00:00:15 -0500 Report

It is very obvious this is a very touching incident for you. I have noted others below who have experienced and also share outcomes of this nature. Thank you for your kindness is reminding, alerting or if necessary shocking some of us to take care of ourselves. Hopefully in some small way, we can help take care of each other here too.

All the best to you all.

Gimpalong 2011-07-25 22:34:19 -0500 Report

Thank you for sharing. We all need a reminder once-in-a-while to what can happen if we don't pay attention to our bg's and exercise.

RAINDANCER1950 2011-07-25 13:55:03 -0500 Report

hello friend…i too have lost 2 toes…my doctor said it was not from diabetes as a primary cause…but , because i was an uncontrolled diabetic the post op infections were directly related to consistant high sugars…mersa…got the toes…going bare foot in a dog run,where there had been a very sick dog…with terriable open infected wounds…i picked it up there…but…had my diabetes been under control , the surgeon felt sure…the infection could have been restrained and antibodics would have saved my toes…however…then , my mind set was , " if i don't claim it…i don't have it " !
that attitude could have cost me, my legs , vision, kidneys…severe nerve damage…and a very long painful path to my grave…NOW ! this lady , knows what not caring can bring ! and i encourage evryone…be diligent…ck. your B/G !!…and as a diabetic, care for your feet ! and never ever go barefoot…truely ! …i deserved what happened , because…coming from a family , with nearly everyone being diabetic…i knew i was playing with fire…!!!!

Turtle 2011-07-25 12:14:36 -0500 Report

Indeed this is sad. I know I have not been monitoring myself like I should and I have healing knees. It is sad what we expect our Higher Power to do and we do not help. He should not be expected to do it all when we can do some of it. Here I am talking like I am so smart when I, too, have been off my diet since I left rehab. There was plenty of food there. I cannot tell you how much was wasted but it seemed like a crime to me. Now, I am waiting for food stamps so I can get the food I need. I will keep your friend in my prayers.

berrykins0 2011-07-25 07:23:12 -0500 Report

saddest thing is we need our eyes and feet to take care of our selfs and take control of our diabetes and if we have any other health issues to.not eating right and exersising is the worst way for it to get out of control plus your weight gets out of control to. sorry to hear about your friend.

2011-07-25 22:21:02 -0500 Report

Sad thing is, I watch what I eat, take the meds, exercise, and because of this disease I'm loosing my eyesight. I'm glad when the dr said that Lasik eye surgery would help. I'll still have to wear specs but at least I'll still have my sight.

Autumn's Mi Mi
Autumn's Mi Mi 2011-08-29 20:23:29 -0500 Report

When I was diagnosed with diabetes, my main complaint was that I had blurred vision. I wear glasses for distance I also use glasses to read because I sit in front of a computer all day. Now I am not using my regular glasses because I can't see with them. I am usig my reading glasses all day because I can see throughh them much better. My eye doctor says my eyesight is fine and continue to take my medication and my eyesight will get better with time. It has been 3 weeks and I am still wearing the reading glasses. Maybe I am inpatient or I am being told the wrong information

Type1Lou 2011-07-25 07:19:42 -0500 Report

I met Connie nearly 2 years ago. She was ailing from kidney problems and lugged oxygen around with her. She, too, ate what she wanted; even when there were diabetic, low-carb snacks available she went for the really high-carb stuff. Was she in such bad shape because she hadn't taken care of herself or had she decided that she'd gotten so bad, it didn't make any difference anymore?…I'll never know, she died this spring.

Turtle 2011-07-25 12:16:45 -0500 Report

I am sorry your friend passed away. I hope she is not suffering any more.

Type1Lou 2011-07-25 17:34:33 -0500 Report

Thank you for your kind thought. When I met Connie, we bonded because of our shared diabetes. She was a gifted quilter and a kind, loving individual. It was hard for me not to judge her food choices, but, she was on a bad path with increasing health complications. She is in a better place now.

berrykins0 2011-07-26 07:43:41 -0500 Report

when you care about somebody you try to get them to do the right things for there health. not a easy task sometimes. it's the thought that you try that matters.

melaniebecerra 2011-07-09 00:56:59 -0500 Report

WOW, i myself been stupid about my diabetis for the ast 21 years out of my 22 years of having it i now have 46 % of my kidneys left my eyes getting bad with blurry vision i got nerve damage in feet and periodonal deasease with my teeth but after readig this i thank god that i have my toes and all still and still able to control it now..it aint to late for me yet and it is scary :(

mysticalrose53 2011-07-08 22:50:20 -0500 Report

that is my greatest fear is losing body parts.I work in a nursing home and see one toe then another toe then part of a foot till the leg is gone above the knee.Guess this is one reason I am trying so hard to control my blood sugars.

Richknowbody 2011-08-30 10:48:20 -0500 Report

That is my fear and motivation for taking care. I have numbness in my left large toe. Scarey,
I do work hard at it. I am sure it would have been worse if I had not taken care of it.
I got on the pump because of the numbness in my toe.

berrykins0 2011-07-25 07:27:02 -0500 Report

you see how bad it can be you learn from what you see happens to people like us.it's a easy way to learn how bad it can be seeing happen to other people.sad way though.

AuntieM234 2011-07-08 22:23:13 -0500 Report

Well, I hope that has knocked some sense into your friend's head, but don't be too sure. My Daughter has a friend whose Father is Diabetic. He refused to give up anything. He was quite adamant about it! I think I may have shared this story before, but I'm going to finish it here. Anyway, it began with a big toe having to be removed. He still refused to give up anything and go on a healthy regimen. Several surgeries later, piece by piece, he HAS given something up: both feet and legs to mid-thigh! And, guess what? He still refuses to live correctly. He very well may be giving up his LIFE soon! Suicide by stupidity!

herrera,david 2011-06-21 21:06:50 -0500 Report

thank you so much for this reminder that we need to live our lives in rightful way or it could be worst. : like blindness heart di. etc.

ston3xc 2011-06-21 12:48:53 -0500 Report

I have some pictures on my profile page of my son and what happened to him after ignoring his diabetes. He's on dialysis and has a prothesis, but he has gotten on with his lifeand is doing well. He knows he is the only one to blame for his problems, now he is taking care of himself very well.

berrykins0 2011-07-25 07:30:52 -0500 Report

you are doing a good thing by showing people how bad it is to have bad things have happen to you from diabetes. i'm glad you are trying to help people understand the dangers.

berrykins0 2011-06-21 07:17:45 -0500 Report

learning the hard way is is bad enough. but watching some else is very sad.i have seen someone wothout diabetes have this happen.but it was do to poor cirulationfrom having other health issues. not a pretty sight or smell for matter.my grandma died at the age 89 with this issue.

nzingha 2011-06-20 22:57:54 -0500 Report

I've got a new attitude.. when i go for lunch now.. usually at my desk.. I close my office door.. I say no calls.. and I eat my home cooked meal that I now take to work, have my fruit… find a comfortable position in the confines of my office.. read and reply to my personal e-mails for the remainder of my hour.. and then take a five minute walk before coming back to my desk.. yep.. no more eating and working for me.. and i have made this very clear,. I told my secretary… eating for me is no longer a luxury.. its survival.. DON't disturb me or allow anyone to disturb me! and when i know I have long meetings that will cut into my snack time.. I take a nature bar with me or some nuts and I am sorry.. but I whip them out and have them right there… no one has commented so far…in fact they ask me to pass my nuts and I dont mind sharing..! see u do what u know u have to do…!For the first time since having diabetes it has made me sick because i got careless and forgot i cant eat like ordinary people…and it shot up out of control… i am just getting it down and have to be using insulin… I hate it but its now my reality.. well for now anyway!

Type1Lou 2011-06-21 07:48:07 -0500 Report

Congratulations…you are the master of YOUR life! I'm confident that you will continue to make the right choices!

nzingha 2011-06-21 09:11:25 -0500 Report

thnks I need the encouragement.. as some days I feel so weak and miserable and I just cant explain but i know its that flipping that has invaded my body and wants to take me over!! have a great day.. I plan to…

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-06-20 22:19:18 -0500 Report

Hey realsis,

I haven't been in touch with you in awhile. How you doing!

Wow, this is really a sad story. I hope your friend is doing okay. You are absolutely right, we can't hid from reality. Denial lasts but for so long. Life on life's terms.

A sobering reminder and a wake-up call.

Hope you are doing well!


DJackwon 2011-06-20 17:17:33 -0500 Report

How sad, I lost a friend to diabetes also, she had a low and lived by herself, apparently she didn't realize it and went into a coma and passed. A beautiful soul, gone too soon..it's true we must be diligent, keep things on hand for low bs times and if no longer able to deterrmine a low…test, test, test.

- Debbie -

VickieF 2011-06-21 23:44:18 -0500 Report

I am so sorry to hear that, DJackwon. I can only tell you what my Mom told me one time. She was type 2 like myself. She knew when her time was getting close and told me, "I hope I go into insulin low in my sleep. It is so peaceful and no pain. Just like drifting into a peaceful sleep." I tell you this so you know your friend went peacefully.

MarkieMarkie 2011-06-20 15:41:48 -0500 Report

That is some very sound advice… this disease is not a player… my little 7 year old granddaughter summed it up for me the other day…she said, "Nunah, when you're diabetic and you eat what you want, you might as well call the Grim Reaper cause he's gonna come get you." She always makes sure Nunah takes care of herself and knows what to do if I have a SL or or SH. You have to take care of yourself and watch your feet closely. Thank you for your post… it is important for us to understand the ugly facts of diabetes.

jladytiger1979 2011-06-20 08:37:01 -0500 Report

I've watched my mother go through the diabetic process while in denial and not taking care of yourself and now she does. She has lingering problems but not nearly this severe. She has a lot of nerve problems.

Type1Lou 2011-06-20 08:25:31 -0500 Report

I met Connie when I joined the quilt guild in October 2009. She was already suffering from renal failure among other complications of her diabetes. I tried not to be judgmental but she would load up her plate with high-carb choices, even if low-carb/no carb options were available. Perhaps her health had gotten so bad, she figured it didn't make any difference anymore and she would just enjoy what she wanted to????…or did she get to the point she was at because she hadn't made the right choices all along???…I'll never know…she died a few weeks ago.