Insensitive and tempting food offers and temptations from those who are ur superiors...how do you handle?

nzingha
By nzingha Latest Reply 2011-06-20 22:40:29 -0500
Started 2011-06-17 17:46:09 -0500

How do you handle people who know you are diabetic but keep pushing food they know isn't good for you up in your face. They keep saying ..'Once wont hurt you.. you should have two.. ' This after you politely say 'OK I'll try one? Does anyone find that people tend to do this all the time. They order the kind of food they know must be hard for you to sit and watch them eat and every occasion for celebrating..all they ever come up with is ..
'Let's go to dinner or lunch or even breakfast and then they like to do buffet!'. and worse that person is your boss on the job!


19 replies

Gemm
Gemm 2011-06-20 12:46:17 -0500 Report

In my experience - what goes around comes around. Those who are so insensitive and rude will eventually be on our side of things and wonder the same thing.

nzingha
nzingha 2011-06-20 22:40:29 -0500 Report

yep i had my experience which i posted somewhere here with my sister-in-law… who bragged she didnt have diabetes… so she could eat all the icecream she wanted… next thing i heard she had lupus.. i was sad for her but she and her overweight daughter were insensitive to my sickness.. u r right what goes around…

NurseEmma
NurseEmma 2011-06-20 11:36:49 -0500 Report

That sounds so familiar. When I first was diagnosed I bet I said, No thank I'm a diabetic quite often. The nurses started saying No I'm a diabetic where they were around. Somehow they would slip it in our conversation and laugh. Little did they know I was just so disappointed that I became a diabetic that saying that out loud was just to get my brain to realize and to condition myself to accept my fate. The girls or nurses at first would tempt me but I would refuse. I think after they figured out that I was serious they now say, You can't have that your a diabetic. They scold me now if I just eat a gram cracker. I found just sticking to my refusal they eventually stopped. This works with some sets of people. Bless you in your struggle.

Emma2412
Emma2412 2011-06-18 11:30:14 -0500 Report

Yes, I know many people like that. The most outrageous ones who act like that are the ones who do the baking and cooing themselves.
However, I don't think there is much of a problem, Nzingha, unless you make it one. You know what you can and cannot eat and what will effect your BG levels.
So, to be polite, just say, maybe later (and then turn away). But do not let them (no matter how young you are) tell you what you should be doing to keep your health. You know what to do to help yourself and all of us here are pulling every second for you. So, just do what you know you have to do to stay well and before long you won't even be bothered by people like that.
Emma

nzingha
nzingha 2011-06-20 13:06:47 -0500 Report

I used to not want to tell the world that I am diabetic because they used to give me this sorry poor thing look .. I hated it… I would just say No thank u… but now with it fully blown… I will have to tell them… actually I dont mind them being sorry for me if it means that they will stop the temptations.. one person even exclaimed.. 'oh so now u have to stop driving because gosh u could pass out'.. I aseked y? 'Oh the body has a way of just flipping out ort shutting itself down with these things… u might have a drop in ur sugar level…just like that' … now I feel like a disabled person… all broken ! .. booo hooo!

nanaellen
nanaellen 2011-06-18 10:38:47 -0500 Report

I had to stop and read your post several times because I have just the opposite problem!! My family and friends will take food AWAY from me because they think it is not good for me!!! And I think if someone told me that I should have 2 even though they DO know it's bad for me I would probably have the same response as Harlen, "Are you trying to KILL me??" LOLOL Keep your chin up it'll get better! What the world needs now is EDUCATION!!!! Ellen :)

granniesophie
granniesophie 2011-06-18 09:40:02 -0500 Report

suprisingly, I find buffets the easiest to cope with. there are always choices I can find to pick from-salad stuff, fruit, proteins cooked plainly, and steamed veggies. carbs aren't quite so easy, but I can do a tiny bit of rice or pasta and it all works for me.
I usually just say no to pushy people, and luckily haven't have much issue with that at work-we all have issues with different food and diseases or illnesses that come and go, so we are pretty respectful of each others needs.
Actually, this is the first place I've ever worked where so many of us have food issues of one kind or another! Weird!!

MewElla
MewElla 2011-06-18 08:46:04 -0500 Report

We all see these insensitive remarks made all the time, but for me, I am committed to taking care of myself and will not be swayed to "eat a little something, it won't hurt you attitude." I simply annouce since I am diabetic this is not good for me and I move on…

Gabby
GabbyPA 2011-06-18 08:17:10 -0500 Report

The thing that stood out to me in your title was the word "superiors". When it comes to your health and your personal choices, they are not in that position at all. It can be intimidating to lay down the rules, but you are in charge, not them.

When they say that "it won't hurt you" that is when you ask them if they are diabetic and when did they get their degree in nutrition. I mean, don't be rude, but you need to drive the point home. Yes, it does make a difference what you do. Yes, it can "hurt" you. Yes, you do know what you are doing, and they need to butt out.

At least at a buffet you can make good choices as well and just use a small plate when filing up. Try not making a big deal about it and they will eventually leave you alone.

Type1Lou
Type1Lou 2011-06-17 19:49:32 -0500 Report

I don't make other people responsible for MY actions. I decide what I put in my mouth. If a simple, polite "No Thank You" doesn't work, explain that "Yes, once may elevate my Blood Sugar and having two puts me at risk for heart attack, stroke, blindness etc..Sorry but I'll have to pass."

I am blessed to have understanding friends (mostly). When we gather together for a lunch, the hostess will have a low-sugar dessert option for me. When we go out to eat, I order a salad or low-carb meal and do not eat the bread…but I would not begrudge their eating the bread! (I hate buffets!…mostly because the food has been sitting around and is usually not that great…since I have to watch what I eat, I prefer to savor my choices. My husband always picks a Chinese buffet for his birthday meal…but even there, I can usually find low carb options that don't blow my diet.) One of my friends kept on making desserts with fat-free condensed milk, thinking it was a "healthy option". I explained to her that the sugar content was too high for me and I declined to eat it…my health is more important to me than her feelings about her cooking. We're still friends.

Remember, you are the one in control…or not.

nzingha
nzingha 2011-06-17 19:54:12 -0500 Report

right..right u r… but still its so insensitive I think.. we r still human beings with feelings… we still want to enjoy food.. its just plain selfish…I remember this woman literally scooped up some desert one night when we were dining and tried to shove it into my mouth even tho I kept saying no thnks… I think she knew I was diabetic and wanted to make me sick… deliberately.. I swear!! hahahaha.

Gabby
GabbyPA 2011-06-18 08:20:28 -0500 Report

Good grief! What a rude person! I would never do anything like that even to someone who would be fine with it. Sheeesh. I hope you slapped her hand away and gave her a stern talking to. That is inconceivable.

Type1Lou
Type1Lou 2011-06-17 20:08:42 -0500 Report

Dear nzingha, That is so sad!…and, it can be touchy if these bozos are your superiors at work…I guess I was lucky that even though I traveled and ate out a lot when I was working, my colleagues were more considerate; in fact, I was the designated driver many times because they knew I would not get blotto. Unfortunately, you have less control over who you associate with at work than over your circle of friends. Wishing you better experiences and the strength to endure the jerks

Harlen
Harlen 2011-06-17 19:38:17 -0500 Report

LOL LOL LOL
Yep ben there
Well it came down to
Yelling at the ( ARE YOU TRYING TO KILL ME )
They stopped doing it lol lol lol
Buffet is ez I know what I can have even a boss will get it after time lol lol
Best wishes
Harlen

ravenmoon33
ravenmoon33 2011-06-17 18:12:15 -0500 Report

It is really hard for me because I live with my 9 year old niece. She has HORRIBLE eating habits and lives on junk food. I try to help change it but her parents and my parents (her grandparents help raise her) don't seem to care. She is constantly offering me cookies, cake, ice cream and just about every other bad thing I am not suppose to have. It sux!

nzingha
nzingha 2011-06-17 19:45:50 -0500 Report

@harlen..I think I shall do just that next time 'they' do it…its just selfish..lol!

nzingha
nzingha 2011-06-17 19:49:23 -0500 Report

@ ravenmoon… poor thing she's a child so at least u can understand..she does NOT understand what she's doing.. but when adults do it… they are being just mean. One day I saw my niece who at the time could have been about 17 and she's already overweight.. digging into all this ice cream.. she and her fat mother.. so I said..'hey guys.. careful with the icecream'.. u know what their response was.. "we dont have to be.. we dont have diabetes'… well they say God isnt sleeping.. months after she found out (the mother) that she had LUPUS! talk about being insensitive!

ravenmoon33
ravenmoon33 2011-06-20 11:47:33 -0500 Report

yea it all catches up with them in the end. I wish when i was a child someone had shown me better eating habits. it's harder to adjust now that i am grown.