Reactions From People When They Find Out You're Diabetic?

By PetiePal Latest Reply 2011-06-12 06:21:43 -0500
Started 2011-06-09 09:14:50 -0500

I'm copy/pasting a bit from another discussion because this raised the question in my mind: How have other people reacted when you've disclosed you were Diabetic to them?

Diabetes is much more common than I really realized. I am currently back in the dating world and I'm always a little apprehensive to admit I am a Type II for fear I'll be labeled as fat, lazy, or that it was "my fault" or something. While I do weigh more than I should I wasn't guzzling sugar or anything it seems to be more a hereditary thing in my case.

I actually had a date with a woman on just Tuesday and found out SHE was pre-diabetic…got her numbers down luckily but was well on her way. Most people are like whatever when they find out.

What have your experiences been? Has it made relationships tricky at all? I'm adopting the stance if it doesn't bother me, it shouldn't bother you.

19 replies

Cheryl*G 2011-06-10 22:13:15 -0500 Report

Some people I find back away from me like they are afraid they will catch it. Then I have some you look at me and ask " How did you catch it?" I just look at them and say " Catch it? I didn't catch it".

WendyFR 2011-06-10 21:54:13 -0500 Report

I don't mind telling people that I'm diabetic and when I do tell someone, the reaction is "oh I have a relative that's diabetic" I never had a bad reaction or the shock factor. My insulin pump is visable to the public, if someone asks, I tell them. I'm not ashame that I am a Type I diabetic, it's who I am. I guess I'm naive, but I don't know anyone who would label Type II diabetics lazy or fat. Both my parents, my brother are Type II are whole family are all active.
My opinion, the people who put down other people are just not familiar or has not been educated about diabetes. I wouldn't care about their reaction until they really know what diabetes is all about.

eristar 2011-06-12 06:21:43 -0500 Report

I've never had a bad reaction, either, and I tell people all the time. I do tend to say it in rather an off-handed manner; don't know whether that has anything to do with it…I feel badly for all of you who get such poor responses from ignorant people!

roshy 2011-06-10 17:21:59 -0500 Report

i wish there was a dating diabetics only club!! ive had some suituations in which i wish i could have avoided because of the diabetes! im type one so injecting can be an issue when the time comes to inject and eat infront of men, esp ones that you are attracted to!

Sometimes i wish i met a nice diabetic bloke who knows exactly where im coming from! that would make so many thing easier!! Ive had boyfriends in the past ask which needle do i give you if you ever colapse!? eeehh hello dont come near me with a feckin needle! just ring for an ambulance !! ive made past boyfriends learn how to use my glucose kit to test my sugars , (why do men turn ito such whimps when it comes to blood and needles) if they can do that in case of an emergancy well at leas thats something!

Other men will use it as an excuse to get the meal in the resturant to come quicker!! em excuse me, sorry but my girlfriend is diabetic and we need the food to come a little faster!!

I suppose with every relationship there is going to be obstacles and sadly diabetes is not something you can leave at the door step outside your relationship! the main thing is if you find someone who is willing to listen and learn and be understanding about your condition; then youve found a keeper!! but there is no point in hiding it from another person!! diabetes follows you everywhere !! its like your shadow you cant shake it off!! you just got to live with it and so does your partner!!

SheliaDell 2011-06-10 11:40:33 -0500 Report

I'm overweight, although I've lost 65 pounds since October 1st. But I actually had someone at work say to me "I'm not surprised" when I told her I was diabetic.

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Graylin Bee 2011-06-09 22:40:40 -0500 Report

I've been selective in who I tell outside of my family. A close friend of my sister I told. She has diabetes and needs a little motivation. She hasn't taken it serious and has started getting some heart related problems.. So at gatherings we talk and she watches what I am eating and has made a few changes herself. I never said don't eat that to her. A brother-in-law of one of my brother-in-laws has diabetes and we ask each other how its going when we are at family things together.
My Bible study group knew. There were two or three other people with diabetes attending. We had safe snacks available whenever the group had treats.
At my new job I have not told anyone yet. Sometimes cake or cinnamon rolls or whatever food I don't want to eat shows up. I have just said I have food allergies. Which I do have in addition to Diabetes. Only one person has said being overweight causes Diabetes. A cousin said tht to me. Her father and I are the only two diagnosed with diabetes in the family. I tried to explain a little to her. However she got the "I'm always right" gene that runs in the family.
When I have asked about Diabetic friendly food when eating out I have met a few people who are also dealing with Diabetes.

Copperchef 2011-06-09 19:48:54 -0500 Report

I have found that most people are pretty flipant about the whole thing. They really don't seem to have much of an opinion. Those that do, are genuinely shocked that an active person like myself has such a disease.
I usually have to explain that the level of my activity has nothing to do with the disease. I also have to explain that when I am nodding off it maybe my low blood sugar and not my age or that I was real busy for the last 2 hours and just got tired.

I have learned that I can eat anywhere I want to as long as your not afraid to speak up and order what YOU want. I have found most resturants are accomodating. I don't eat fast food anymore, but I enjoy eating a great steak or a seafood platter and enjoy a 1/2 glass of red or white wine.
Monitor, monitor monitor. Takes 2 seconds in the mens room to know where I'm at. Never leave home with out the kit.
I refuse to let this disease get me down or rule my life. It has to learn how I am going to live and this is just a hiccup in the road of life. I take care of my illness, but I won't let it get me down.
Just my observation!!! Thanks for the vent.

tabby9146 2011-06-10 07:34:18 -0500 Report

I'm at my ideal weight with typeII, and I was 30 lbs. overweight when diagnosed, but I quickly lost it all, and ever since then on occasion when it comes up people are shocked. I always say you don't have to be overweight, and when a person does lose it all, or most of it, diabetes does not go away. I get tired sometimes easier than I should some days too.

Somoca 2011-06-09 18:41:40 -0500 Report

I was hestitant about telling my new boss ; but when I found out that they have fired people for dosing off, I thought that I better share my condition really quick since I do have a sugar low between 2-3pm. They were very understanding. I was shock, but of course now I have allllllll this extra help on how to lose weight everyday LMBO.

jayabee52 2011-06-09 11:17:03 -0500 Report

In my case, it had helped my dating life, at least with my "Jem" She was also t2 and one of the things she said interested her was that I had kidney problems and had been on dialysis. Since we were both t2, (as was her mother) it gave us just another thing to discuss.

I met Jem online in "" It worked out well for me on D4D as there wasn't the expectation that I needed to be perfect like other ladies on other dating sites seemed to expect.

Yes, I had my share of rejection because I couldn't do this or that because of my various medical challenges, but I am glad things worked out the way it did, as Jem was the sweetest, nicest, bravest, most loving lady I could have ever hoped to meet and eventually marry. Unfortunately Jem passed from this life much too soon for my liking.

So when I'm ready to enter the world of dating again, I'll probably look on D4D.

nanaellen 2011-06-11 17:47:58 -0500 Report

Hi James, Just had to say I am so envious of your Jem. The more posts I read about you and her the more I envy your relationship. You just sound like the perfect couple and I am SO sorry that you lost her. She sounds like she was an amazing person! I'm flabergasted that there really is TRUE love out there!! And as long as you continue to think of her often her memory will stay alive. I'd give my right arm to have that kind of love! You are a lucky man! Even though she is gone from you now at least you got to be a part of her life for awhile!! That's more than most people can say!! Some people NEVER find TRUE love!! Many prayers for you and Jem! Ellen :)

jayabee52 2011-06-12 01:48:32 -0500 Report

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts, Ellen.
She was indeed an amazing person.

I am honored to have been a part of her life.

Thanks for the prayers for me Ellen, as I need them. Jem is with Jesus in heaven I firmly believe, and beyond the need for any prayers (Rev. 21:3 & 4). I'm just at the place where I am doing what I can here on this planet while I wait to join her and, of course Jesus.

I pray you can find such love too, Ellen. I didn't think I would after my divorce, but I was blessed beyond measure with Jem.

ravenmoon33 2011-06-09 10:23:24 -0500 Report

I haven't really had to experience it yet. Most of the people that know I'm diabetic are in my family or close friends. I am very nervous about dating post-diagnosis. I have had to change many social habits (dining out and consuming alcohol are off my list now) and I am afraid how it is going to effect my social life. I think that since diabetes is a hereditary disease that men won't want to seriously date me because there is a chance that if they want children, they could be diabetic because I am. It doesn't bother me that I am diabetic…but it just seems to be one more challenge in my love life :(

PetiePal 2011-06-09 12:20:15 -0500 Report

I think it's just another reason to edge your children to stay healthy!

ravenmoon33 2011-06-09 22:07:05 -0500 Report

Good way to look at it..wish everyone did. My grandmother, uncle and I are the only diabetics in our very large family so i'm thinking it's nurture rather than nature that caused my problems..but i've done a 180 in my lifestyle and habits and teaching my niece the same.

edvel54 2011-06-09 09:50:33 -0500 Report

Let's say you go to a birthday party and you politely refuse the cake, they look at you funny, you mention that you are diabetic and they say, "Oh, I'm sorry" It's not an infection, you are not going to catch it, What is there to be sorry for. I am still the same person, It doesn't bother me, Why should it bother them?

JoleneAL 2011-06-09 10:04:00 -0500 Report

I tell them not to apologize. Actually now its funny to see their reaction because I don't "look" like what most people consider a diabetic to look like. I did a blog post on it once, may have to dig it out again. I don't care now really if they react or don't react; I just want them to respect my food choices and other needs. So far in that area, I am lucky.

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