By qmissy2000 Latest Reply 2015-02-16 17:57:08 -0600
Started 2011-06-08 18:48:32 -0500

I was diagnosed with diabetes last year in April and there is still so much I need to learn. But I notice that lately I cannot get my sugar under 280 and I am on pills only right now. My doctor said I need to lose some weight or she is going to put me on insulin. Im so sad and depressed because I dont know where to start. Not to mention I crave sweets something awful. Am I just a loser who is destined to fail? (Gee cry me a river) Sorry to be a whiner but this stinks!

11 replies

limo-dan 2011-06-24 05:07:36 -0500 Report

i found out 2 i had diabetes last year I am typ 1 and i too crave sweets. I just got out of the glucose. was onethousend63.

qmissy2000 2011-06-10 10:25:39 -0500 Report

Good morning everyone and thank you for all your support and helpful emails. I have woke up feeling great today. For the past 2 days I have changed my eating habits by following Weight Watchers and last night my sugar was 160 which is amazing for me. From 280's to 161 in two days. My motivation is on track and I packed a very healthy lunch and am taking my meds as scheduled! hhhhmmm Im thinking there really may be hope for me after all!

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-06-10 09:16:54 -0500 Report


I am not a physician but I am a mental health professional so the word depressed in your post raised a red flag with me. I know you have a lot going on with you around your diabetes. I wanted to offer you some support and also tell you that a new medical diagnosis brings up a lot of emotions, including sadness. The sadness can pass over time, as you get informed and learn how to cope with your diabetes day by day. But the sadness can also become overwhelming, and lead to depression.

Here is a link to a discussion that I posted awhile back:

If you are having a lot of trouble dealing with your sadness, then it might be helpful to talk to a mental health professional, to learn some ways to cope.

Just a suggestion.

Take care of yourself!


Sopies Grandma
Sopies Grandma 2015-02-09 09:53:44 -0600 Report

Hello, Thanks for the web site, I will take a look at it later today. I have feeling so down and sad, I cry at just about anything and nothing. I don't really understand this. I have never been this kind of person before. I feel so totally overwhelmed. I sleep so much too. I ask my doctor about this and I was told to just get over it. the part that scare me is that not only do I feel down but I feel so angry a lot. Im not sure what to do. But I am very worried about this. could it get worse? god I hope not

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2015-02-16 17:57:08 -0600 Report

Hi, sorry to hear you tried to talk to your doctor about this and didn't get a lot of help. I hope you will continue to advocate for yourself. You might want to reach out to a mental health professional and set up an appointment to me, if this is possible for you. A mental health professional could talk to you about what's going on in your life and make some recommendations. Sounds like you could use some more support. Stay in touch with us!

thinker51 2011-06-10 00:59:57 -0500 Report

280 seems high , what are you taking and how much? Don't feel bad over feeling confused I still do too and sometimes get depress when Isee others eating the things I use to.

dmax32 2011-06-09 09:16:19 -0500 Report

I was diagnosed in 2008 and I thought it was the start of the end for me… I was so confused.. I still am sometimes… Ask questions here and to your doctor.. I got depressed after my diagnosis and resisted treatment for a while and my new doctor said it this way to me, "You can go on treatment now or in the next few years I can start taking toes or your feet." It made me mad but it wasn't a threat.. He simply wanted me to know the choice was mine he was only trying to help prevent the worst! It took me a couple weeks to get that.. Most doctors will say you need to loose weight and for me I noticed my numbers come down when I shed the pounds but I was also eating a low carb diet which helped the weight loss and my numbers.. I crave bread and pizza so I know how the craving can effect your mood and depression over the diagnosis.

I look at it this way. I want to be healthy. I need to loose weight and control my numbers. Take your time it all doesn't make sense at first.. Try cutting out carbs out of your diet or only eat slower acting carbs that are needed to maintain an even blood sugar glucose. (avocado, sweet potato, soy products, more leafy veggies into your diet)

Ask you doctor to suggest a diabetic nutritionist.. They will sit down with you and go over meal planning and how to incorporate some of your favorite foods and how to use the right portions and build you plate to best help you! Don't call yourself a looser!

Best of Luck!


jayabee52 2011-06-09 08:52:23 -0500 Report

Howdy Missy!
There's a lot in your little discussion question.
First of all, I am sorry to learn of your Dx. It DOES really stink! And don't worry about whining, complaining, kvetching, beyotching, ect. Let it out! Here is the best place to do that because we UNDERSTAND what it's like. Folks who don't have this condition have NO IDEA what it's like, but we DO! So bring it here missy! We got yer back!

And you are NOT "a loser who is destined to fail" At least you don't have to be, as long as you continue to try to control your diabetes ("DM"). You didn't get where you're at in your life instantly, and it'll take you a while to get back closer to where you'd like to be — in control of your DM. If you give up trying to control your DM, THEN you'd be the loser.

If you don't know where to start to try to better control your DM you've got a lot of company. I really didn't know what to do when I was first Dx'd either. I wished something like DC was around in 1995 when I was first Dx'd. Had that been, I might not have made the mistakes which led to the complications I suffer now. But it's here now for you NOW, and it's a fantastic resource for learning about DM, and finding support. I have learned so very much since I've started here, I am amazed.

And what your Dr said about putting you on insulin, may sound like a threat or punishment but I don't think it was intended to be like that. Insulin does not mean you failed somehow, it means your Dr wants you to get your Blood Glucose numbers ("BG#s") under better control. Insulin can be a good way to do that. Insulin is just another tool in the Dr's (and your) toolbox to get better control.

I have been on pills, and on insulin shots, and now I'm trying to control my DM through what I eat, and so far, so good. But it has taken me a few years to get where I am now.

You say you crave sweets. So do I, but once I had to have sweet things, now they don't taste all that wonderful any more. It is all in what one gets used to. I have cut out all sodas and other sweet drinks either sugar-sweetened or sweetened by other means. I no longer crave the sweets like I used to.

I also have radically reduced the number of carbohydrates I consume every day. Since I have started that, I have dropped about 35 lbs or so of weight, and I am wearing pants with a smaller waist band.

Yes, Missy you CAN do it! It will not always be easy, nor will it be quick. But it is achievable!

Ask more questions. Learn how to count carbs, and "eat to your meter". Get feedback from the folks here about how to control your DM.

I am praying you will be able to get this condition under control.

Blessings to you and yours


qmissy2000 2011-06-09 15:26:17 -0500 Report

What does DM mean? And how do you "eat to your meter"? There is so much I dont know. Boy have I gotta long way to go.

jayabee52 2011-06-09 16:55:21 -0500 Report

DM is a shorthand for Diabetes Mellitus, the condition which we have. Both type 1 and type 2 are DM.

Thanks for asking Missy! I believe there are really no little or foolish or stupid questions here on DC. The only question which is foolish or stupid are sincere questions which are not asked.

"eating to your meter" is shorthand for letting your meter's Blood Glucose readings ("BG") tell you what substances you should consume or avoid.

You can do that by taking a BG# before (called a "baseline" reading) you consume a recommended serving of a substance (could be food or drink) and 2 hrs after ("post prandial") you consume it. If the postprandial reading is 50 pts higher than the baseline, then you might want to consider reducing the recommended serving and test it again at another time. If it is a lot over 50 points higher, then perhaps you should avoid that substance altogether.

You are embarking on a marathon run, not a sprint. Ray731 urges us to take "baby steps" at first. I agree, start slow, and learn only what you can handle.

You don't have to know and do everything all at once right now. I have been a person with diabetes since 1995, so I have learned a lot over the years. I continue to learn things as I go through life with DM. You have a long way to go Missy, and you will have a long time to get there!

I pray that it will be with as few complications as possible.

Please feel free to ask again about whatever puzzles you. And if you think my answer's all wet, ask someone else. There is a lot of experience here, and several different ways to approach a problem.

Best regards


Harlen 2011-06-08 19:54:59 -0500 Report

First dropping weight will not fix D !!! If you need to go on insulin then thats what you need!!!
So hun dont get down ,If you need a typ of food do you get upset that you need it ??? If you need sox do you get depression ???
It;s the same thing ,dont let it get you down that will make your blood sugars go up .
Doc's always tell you to lose weight somtimes I think they dont know as much as They think they do !!! thats right I sed it !!!!!
I have benn to a great D Doc and he was right on what was going on today not back when he was in school.
Best wishes