Diabetic Dialogue

By GabbyPA Latest Reply 2011-09-16 12:49:41 -0500
Started 2011-06-01 00:04:30 -0500

Dialogue: noun. A literary work in conversational form. Conversation

We talk to our friends about the latest movies, the hottest trends and the juiciest gossip in Hollywood. We share with our families about the day at work, our school projects and the neighbors dog. But do we have open conversations about diabetes in the same way?

Does your spouse know when you are feeling crappy because your glucose levels are not in control? Does your child understand that you have an illness that they cannot see, but is no less serious? Do you share with your closest friends the struggle of their seemingly thoughtless temptations?

I am in no way advocating that we become obsessed with complaining about every little thing. Actually, I am not advocating complaining at all. Just making conversation, and moving on to another subject. Do we openly discuss what our diabetes does to us emotionally, physically and even mentally just as if it were the norm? Why not? It's not all bad…but it is all a part of us.

I know we have a wonderful support system of people here that totally get it when we have to vent or when we had a great doctor visit. I would rather spew a little here and have a good family time at home. Sometimes though, we need to be honest with those we love the most about the seriousness of our illness. Sharing my up's and down's with you all is very helpful, but my family needs to know as well.

From day one, I have always discussed my goals, my hopes and my challenges with diabetes with my husband, mom and even my step-daughter. My best friend knows and we share a lot. When she was diagnosed about 6 moths after me, I was there for her, and I am glad to have been so open then, because it continues now. And she is not afraid to ask those hard questions.

I could not live a day without talking about my diabetes. I don't do it to gain sympathy. Often it gets a challenge from someone if my day is not going well. That is good for me. I am strong and I have grown much in this struggle. But I cannot do it alone. No one should have to.

13 replies

bleonard13 2011-09-15 22:03:03 -0500 Report

your right it is easier to talk to strangers on here than to talk to those at our house you all understand how were feeling because you have been through it. just wanted to say thanks for posting it and no you dont have to do it alone we are here for u

TsalagiLenape 2011-09-15 09:16:23 -0500 Report

Very well said Gabby! Thus the post I made about having support. When you have none or did and dont anymore, the struggle you deal with daily is hard. Yet thanks to this website and those of you, I am getting what I need. Then do my best to reply support and etc others on here. So thank you, wanishi, wado. Hugs

melota 2011-09-15 08:08:31 -0500 Report

I think my family choose to ignore that I have diabetes. When I have a painful day cause of neuropathy or sugar level issues. I get an, "Oh I know how you feel. I wake up with a new pain every day". Well, they do not have diabetes and do not know how I feel. I get so sick of advice from people who know nothing about diabetes. Thank goodness for all of you who do understand and have felt my pain and have even had worse problems that I can talk with you about and try to make your day easier.

MEGriff1950 2011-09-14 22:26:59 -0500 Report

Very nice post Gabby. It reminded me of the night that my sons finally took my lows seriously. Aged 41 and 30 they did not like hearing about my diabetes. One night they got home and my sugar had dropped to 53. This was before I had my sugars under control. I was scared, confused and screaming get me carbs. My youngest asked what do you want. Dang I had no idea and really do not know what came out of my mouth. My oldest headed to the door to go to the store. This was a very intense time. Finally while eating something my youngest asked what is wrong with mom. Oldest her blood sugar is low but I think we should call 911. By now my sugars are coming up a bit. I simply said I am doing better give me a few minutes. When I was able to talk like a person I explained a lot more to them then either wanted to hear. It was a great lesson. Now I know to keep an 8 pack of juice handy.
It really is a good idea to keep those around us informed about highs and lows. Some day they might save our lives. They might be able to forgive that lunatic that somehow got into our bodies.

Pynetree 2011-06-04 21:55:18 -0500 Report

My diabetes is so much a part of my life…I mention it freely with family and close friends, now. But that was not always the case…20 yrs ago, my family knew…but not my friends or co-workers. I wasn't hiding it…also went through a cancer threat, and didn't really share that either. Only on a need to know basis, I guess. I did tell the teachers that I co-taught with about both when I thought they should know…why I got blood work every 3 months, when I felt low, or when I had umpteen Dr. appts. scheduled. Maybe I have privacy issues…LOL!
I don't dwell on it, and don't expect it to ever be the main topic that we discuss everyday.

Somoca 2011-06-04 20:49:24 -0500 Report

Good post, but I hardly ever talk about it. Never at work and most people I speak with assume it is a problem because I am NOT a size 8. So it's easier to just come here and talk or listen. We may live in the +supposedly+ world of more tolerance but that isn't always true.

GabbyPA 2011-06-05 09:24:44 -0500 Report

I guess we miss the opportunities to educate the public when we keep it to ourselves. I don't dwell or make it main topic, but there are comments that can come out of me that will raise eyebrows every now and then. That is when I know I have dispelled a myth of diabetes and if they are curious, the topic will continue. Otherwise I just move on. But it's easier and easier now.

realsis77 2011-06-01 11:26:36 -0500 Report

Very good post! Sometimes I think our loved ones feel uncomfortable about talking about it. My husband is very good about it. He actually knows when I'm high or low by my speach or behaviors and tells me to test and he's always right! But others like my mother feels uncomfortable when I bring it up. Diabetes is part of us. It is with us forever and can NOT be ignored or pushed away! Its very important our family is educated about it! Thanks for posting!

GabbyPA 2011-06-03 09:40:26 -0500 Report

You are most welcome. I was finding that a lot of us tend to keep so much to ourselves to avoid being a burden. I think that if it is "normal" conversation and not a huge deal made of it, it just becomes part of everyone's daily lives.

Trudie Ann
Trudie Ann 2011-06-01 01:16:46 -0500 Report

I can talk to my husband and he knows enough through researching diabetes how it can effect me. We have been married 35 years so we know each other really well. But he does work long hours. When he is working I talk to my dog. I know some people may think that sounds stupid but it's not. I can fuss, gripe and rant out loud and my little Cody Bear always comes running to comfort me.
Also now that I have found DC I have lots of friends to talk to who are going through the same things I am. Or I can call my daughter. She had diabetes during her last pregnacy, so she also under stands. She checks her BS every now and then to make sure that it hasn't came back.

Jim Edwards
Jim Edwards 2011-09-15 12:37:13 -0500 Report

Heck, some of the most caring and heart warming conversations have been with my dog and she doesn't care how I am feeling or why I am sad. She just loves me.

GabbyPA 2011-09-16 12:49:41 -0500 Report

I love those four legged buddies. They are the best. They know when you feel crappy and always give you a kiss or a tail wag.

MEGriff1950 2011-09-14 22:12:47 -0500 Report

Trudie Ann there is nothing wrong with talking to Cody Bear at all. Our furry friends are the best especially when we need a hug and there is no one to give it to us. They love to be talked to, they hear *%*#$@ and don't care one bit. The more I talk to my cats the more the cuddle close and purrr.