cooking two different dinner,one diabetic the other not

By cupcake0923 Latest Reply 2011-05-25 08:49:02 -0500
Started 2011-05-20 21:14:03 -0500

does anyone know an easy way to cook that is not to stressful for me. please help; but my spouse loves his rice and beans and pork
chops fry

28 replies

PetiePal 2011-05-25 08:49:02 -0500 Report

There are plenty of diabetic recipes out there that taste pretty good but a true partner will make some sacrifices for you and realize that the greater good is for YOUR health together as a couple.

Sometimes it's best to prepare your own meals and have him do his own if you cannot eat the same things.

Te Ja
Te Ja 2011-05-23 14:32:05 -0500 Report

I quess I'm blessed for my husband said he wants to support me so we're both eating the same health foods.

SEEKINGHELP 2011-05-22 16:06:00 -0500 Report

Hello Cupcake0923,

I am in the same situtation as yourself. My boyfriend love all that fried foods and lots of pasta… And let him eat that way, lol I prepare my food in advance because i know what i can have and what i can't.. It makes it easier for me and i am not stressed. You can also cook in peanut oil … Good Luck to you cupcake :)

Gwen Morten
Gwen Morten 2011-05-22 13:51:42 -0500 Report

Another thing you can try is to use extra virgin oil or a non stick spray instead of deep frying with a lot of grease.

Type1Lou 2011-05-22 13:32:17 -0500 Report

My husband LOVES his potatoes and pasta…which are no-no's for me. I will bake grill or roast a meat or fish and add an extra helping of veggies on my plate without the potatoes that I make for him. When I make spaghetti, I'll cook pasta for him and pile on the sauce but instead of pasta on my plate, I put french-style cut green beans and put the sauce on top of that, sometimes adding a bit of ricotta cheese. That way, I'm only making one meal and just not eating the higher carb stuff that goes on his plate. For the high-carb choices he likes, try making him something that's not on your favorite list; that way it'll be easier for you to pass up. We also eat a lot of salads. I don't bake much any more at all because it's too much of a temptation for me but my husband also loves his cakes and now makes his own. (He doesn't like to follow box or recipe directions so he gets different and varied results but, hey, he's eating it, not me! When I do bake, I try to substitute as much of the sugar as possible with Splenda; with puddings and custards and cheesecakes, you can substitute all of the sugar with Splenda; with cookies, you still need a bit of sugar so the cookies will spread out and cakes don't rise as high if you use all Splenda instead of sugar.

Bon Appetit!

CaliKo 2011-05-22 13:51:35 -0500 Report

Sometimes I bake a spaghetti squash, which my son and I both love under the sauce better than pasta. Or I use the whole wheat pasta and just have a small serving. I do have to roast both white and sweet potatoes occasionally. I love the sweet potatoes roasted with olive oil and sprinkled with cinnamon and tumeric. I have to keep my portion small, but what a treat!

Type1Lou 2011-05-22 14:11:35 -0500 Report

I do indulge in half a baked sweet potato every now and then…YUMMMM! I tried the spaghetti squash but I prefer the green beans as a pasta alternative…I just pretend its spinach pasta…its a grand delusion but harmless, even beneficial!
It just looks a tad wierd.

runthe 2011-05-22 00:03:00 -0500 Report

Hi cupcake, I have begun using my george foreman grill and slow cooker to cook my meals. try baking those chops in the oven and try using brown rice instead of white rice. I hope that all works out for you and hubby.

runthe 2011-05-21 23:59:44 -0500 Report

I know that it can be rather hard to cook 2 different meals. I have tried it and it just left me tired and frustrated. My husband loves to eat stuff like beans rice potatoes and bread. I tried to tell him that eating all of those foods were not good for him. unfortunately for him at his last doctor appt. he was told that he was at greater risk of becoming a diabetic and now he wants a better diet. Now all he wants to eat is salad and vegetables. He is now eating salmon, lean cuts of meats and chicken baked. Fixing meals is not so stressful for me anymore. My husband is taking this new revelations serious because he don't want to become a diabetic.

sisson 2011-05-21 22:22:20 -0500 Report

Well Cupcake
What kind of aroze or rice and beans is it the pork chops first I steam cook them with a lid and then I take of the lid so they can fry in the steam water they pork has its on fat and its on greas so you don't need any more. Penny

CaliKo 2011-05-21 16:09:43 -0500 Report

Hi Cupcake,
Do you like slow-cooker recipes? The fix-it-and-forget-it diabetic cookbook has lots of low-stress great meals everyone can enjoy. Many of them you could serve over rice for hubbie, or brown rice for both of you. I never make two completely different meals, not for my child growing up, and not me me now that I'm, diabetic, either. I'm lucky my husband and son are both enjoying my diet, they love fish and vegetables. I was the only one addicted to bread, so they don't mind that's it's mostly gone. I will make them desserts that I don't eat.
Good luck! It's hard to be around food you shouldn't eat.

Somoca 2011-05-21 19:42:51 -0500 Report

I agree with Caliko, my crock pot is second only to my kitchen-aid stand mixer. I use it three times a week and the house rule goes like this: I buy the groceries and I do the cooking so we eat what mom cooks. I will buy my son juice even though I can't drink it but that is the only "extra" I go out of my way to buy.

Trudie Ann
Trudie Ann 2011-05-21 15:13:47 -0500 Report

My husband is happy to eat what ever I fix. He is wanting to lose weight so he doesn't get any medical problems from being over weight. I like to use fresh seasonings, and/or dried store bought seasonings if I can't get fresh. That helps the healthy diabetic safe foods that I fix taste better. He likes fried pork chops but only gets it when we eat out. I hope you are able to come to a better arrangement with your husband. I have a daughter who was picky but now she is married and eats what she fixes. Thankfully now she does fix some healthier foods too, since she has 2 kids. My prayers are with you.

frustated 2011-05-21 15:12:45 -0500 Report

yes i know you just have to learn to try new ways of cooking those i have made the pork chops on breading but baked and they pretty much taste the same cauce the pork has some fat on them and the fat toast them a little. as dor the beans and rice that is trickey cause in mexican dishes the are pretty meuch required but start off in smaller plates and smaller portions and you will see that they will get used to it and dont make so much that they can serve more add at the end of the meal like a friut bowl or a lite dessert so that they can get full mine personally like it when i make a cobbler or a diet cake they think is regular i learned to cook behind their backs and now they just eat it and say thank you mom that was very delicios.

pixsidust 2011-05-21 15:06:31 -0500 Report

Well I understand where you are coming from. I hope he understands that its hard for you to be tempted. The thing I would tell you first to do is cook on a full stomach. Do not start this hungry. Look for healthier ways to make this dish like baking the pork chops and try different coatings or just season yours. You can have the beans but must count your carbs. You also might adjust other carbs in your day if you know this is on the menu. You can have small amounts of this through out your day. Then you may feel like you ate something

Bunny Cakes
Bunny Cakes 2011-05-21 14:52:58 -0500 Report

I don't cook two meals, my family has mostly switched to my diet with me because they are all at risk for diabetes as well. There are a few things that they do still eat that I can't and on occasion I will make them something separate like when I make stuffed peppers and rice I make brown rice for me and white rice for my mother in law because she dislikes the flavor of white. But for the most part our meal is the same.

I still make the family fried chicken or fried pork chops every so often but I have changed the recipe to suit what works in my diet, I can't eat white flour because it spikes me so I've switched to using whole wheat flour that doesn't spike me. In all cases the family actually prefers the whole wheat flour to the white because it has more flavor.

After learning where I need to keep my carb count and what sort of carbs seem to affect me most I have been able to compromise with the family on most things or change our favorite recipes to work for everyone.

We sometimes have meals of soup beans, salmon cakes, fried potatoes and corn bread but now I concentrate more on the salmon cakes and beans than anything else sometimes I'll have a few potatoes and since I never really liked corn bread much I just don't eat that. If I count may carbs right I'm fine and you can be too.

If you want soup beans and fried pork chops just count it out. There are roughly 42 carbs in a cup of pinto beans and 8 carbs in a fried pork chop that's coated in flour. I normally limit myself to between 40-60 carbs a meal because that works for me so I could have a cup of beans and one to two pork chops as a meal. If you don't flour coat your chops you can have more. though i don't know about you but I find beans very filling so I probably would need two chops let alone more, lol.

Compromise and alternatives will get you through without cooking two meals and with much less stress. And for those days where no one wants to compromise I tell the family to cook for themselves if they don't want what I'm making.

RAYT721 2011-05-21 14:10:01 -0500 Report

I would give them all two choices: take it or leave it! Since McDonalds is such a happy place, perhaps they could consider living or working there???

RAYT721 2011-05-21 14:12:59 -0500 Report

Seriously there are no easy answers when you have two, three or more people in the household with his or her own diets, likes and dislikes, etc. My suggestion would be to consider cooking in batches and then freezing leftovers so you can build up a collection of freezer-friendly entrees that will satisfy everyone. When planning meals and shopping, try to build a collection of things that everyone can agree on. Substitute healthier ingredients for less healthy ones. Recognize and stick to serving sizes. Get everyone to pitch in with the cooking and prep work.

EJMac 2011-05-21 10:14:27 -0500 Report

I cook the chicken, fish and sometimes pork or red meat for bot of us in a healthy way. This part of health should be for everybody. Once in a while I cook 2 completely separate meals.
spouse only eats veggi's in salads so I cook up a bunch of broccolli and cauliflower for myself. The cooked vggi's have made a big diference in my blood sugars and hunger in the evening. I do put just a little REAL chedar cheese on top before I nuke them for extra flavor.

Copperchef 2011-05-21 06:59:07 -0500 Report

Try this, for the rice and beans, use brown rice, much healthier plus it is a whole grain. Another good whole grain, which you can substitute for rice is Quinoa (pronounced keen-wah). Has a very similar mouth feel to rice.
Also, if you are worried about the fats, use grapeseed oil. This oil is extremely light and really works well for frying and sauteeing without alot of excess. can also use it in salad dressings in place of canola oil or olive oil when you want something lighter.
I would also use more seasonings to add more punch to the dishes. Old Bay, Cumin, Fennel, Red Pepper Flakes.
There are a lot of low carb cookbooks on the market you can use as references. They have some great ideas in them, which will help you make better choices. One author chef is George Stella. He has great recipes and ideas that help you to be more creative. Just some suggestions.
To be honest though, as a diabetic I would eat the meal you described up above, and just change the rice.

Harlen 2011-05-20 22:26:53 -0500 Report

I do the cooking and if they dont wish to eat what I make DONT EAT lol lol lol
it works O-there where some grumbling but they got with the program lol
Got to do what we got to do
Tuff love lol
Best wishes

Cookie Roma
Cookie Roma 2011-05-21 00:55:15 -0500 Report

Must be nice. It's not just the kids. My husband is the same way. In fact when I ask for suggestions on meals for the week my husband is the one most likely to suggest a meal that would be under the category of "junk food"

Harlen 2011-05-21 21:54:29 -0500 Report

You iether eat or dont eat if they dont like what you make they dont need to eat lol lol
it worked for me

jayabee52 2011-05-21 05:27:07 -0500 Report

You are the cook, correct?

You don't have to ask him for suggestions. Or you can pick some nice recipes from DC or other diabetic site (he doesn't have to know where they're from), and give him a choice between 5 or 6 of them. You can let him know that these are the meals you are prepared to cook. Otherwise he gets to cook. Don't let the grumbling discourage you from trying to feed them healthy, and you too.

jayabee52 2011-05-20 22:15:25 -0500 Report

Howdy cupcake!

The only thing I would avoid from the meal you suggested, would be the rice. And you might even have a spoon or 2 of that.

The beans (pintos?) are a protein and the pork is a protein. The fat doesn't raise your Blood glucose numbers ("BG#s"). Use your meter to see what your BG#s are after the meal. Take a baseline reading before the meal and then 2 hrs after. If the rice spikes your BGs too much (more than 50 pts) then consider testing again another day with a smaller serving of rice.

you might be thinking of trying to control other conditions by avoiding the fried pork chops, but from a diabetic standpoint, that would not be a terrible meal.

Blessings to you and yours


Cookie Roma
Cookie Roma 2011-05-20 21:53:55 -0500 Report

OMG. I know what you mean. I often can eat what I fix for my family and then occasionally I have to eat something different. I really messed up this week. I had to make myself something different 4 days this week. I hate that!!!!!