daughter who has diabetes

By Anonymous Latest Reply 2011-05-19 11:39:09 -0500
Started 2011-05-16 18:08:37 -0500

My daughter has had diabetes since age 3 and is now 44. She has had laser surgery on both eyes several times, is a stickler on exercise, even when on vacation of a family outing. She now has a heart condition and has had cataract surgery on both eyes. I found out about the Omnipod and told her and now she is using the pod for two years. She is constantly running low blood sugars at night 37, sometimes 47 but she tells me this is normal. Her doctor told her that she is the one who has to program the pod according to her activity and meal consumption. Well she does not eat normally and has been on diet pills for several years, which I am sure has caused a heart problem. We always argue about her eating habits, orders food when out, or picks when a meal is prepared at home. Loves to drink all kinds of mixes and beer but she tells me this is the new diabetes. Am I wrong to worry about her? I know she is an adult but how come her doctors cannot see this. Her a1c1 is according to her okay and that is the way her doctors want it. She cannot live by herself because she runs low blood sugar too often and has to be woken up several times during her sleep. Please help me put my mind at ease. I am sure this is not correct but she is in control. She has has EVAC taken her to the hospital over a 4 year period approximately 6 times and out of the 6 times they have come to house to check her out.



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GabbyPA 2011-05-17 14:20:09 -0500 Report

Things have changed a lot since she was 3. The pump offers her a much more normal lifestyle ability. There are many things she can do now with the pump that older diabetics would never have dreamed about doing. However, the lows can be controlled by her pump. Like JayBee said, it sounds like it's giving her too much at night.

Does she need to loose weight? Is that the reason for the diet pills? I would not encourage those, but other than that, you hit the nail on the head. She is an adult and she is responsible for her own life now. 33 years of diabetes is a LONG time and the damage she has had may just be the length of time she has been diabetic.

You are mom, and you are going to worry. I would never say stop that. But you cannot control her. She has to do that. I share with my mom all my numbers and how I am doing. I keep her in the loop and she keeps me in hers. It helps us keep an eye on each other. But we don't nag each other about eating certain foods or how much we exercise. We know when we are messing up. Sometimes having a mom still be a mom when she is an adult is harder than when she was a kid.

You might want to ask her if there are any ways you can help. Knowing her A1c is a good starting point. An OK A1c can mean good, but I go low all the time. Or good and I am in control. Or OK might mean it's not really that good, but acceptable.

Sometimes a good old heart to heart without nagging or expectation can be helpful. Just express how you feel about what she is doing. Let her explain to you why and how it's okay. It might be rationalizations, but it is what she thinks. Don't push, just listen. Share how vulnerable you feel when she goes low. Sometimes the person with the disease doesn't realize how much they affect those who love them. Arguing will get you no where...try a little sugar next time. Or in her case a little Splenda. LOL

jayabee52 2011-05-17 04:18:39 -0500 Report

It sounds like the pump is set too high doseages for the night. I really don't know much more about it as I do not wear a pump, but I am sure there are "pumpers" here on DC who will be able to speak to the issue better than I.

What is your daughter's A1c number most recently.

My bride Jem had a good A1c number too, even though she had Blood Glucose numbers as high as 300. Since the A1c is an average of blood glucose readings that meant that she had some lows which offset the highs.

Obviously since your daughter said her A1c is "OK" that means she is having some offsetting high readings too. And it is damaging one's body if one is on the Blood Glucose roller-coaster. That's where a lot of the damage is done to one's body, the fluxuation between highs and lows.

Unfortunately she is in control of her own body and how she cares for it. Unless you want to have her declared incompetent — a long and expensive legal battle — you cannot MAKE her take better care of herself.

I pray for your daughter and for you!


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