Acceptance or Denial

By Goddess Latest Reply 2009-05-20 16:04:34 -0500
Started 2008-10-10 09:03:10 -0500

Who has accepted that they have diabetes and who is in denial of having it?

171 replies

cyncyn 2009-05-08 18:02:48 -0500 Report

My mother-in-law has had Type II, for several years. She is still in denial. Won't accept it, any way shape or form!!! My 27 yr.old was diagnoised, just last month, with Type II. He has completely accepted it!!! He looks at it, as a reason to eat and live healthy! He said he wants to see his two small children grow up
P.S. I see nothing wrong with the postings!!.

2009-01-06 05:23:32 -0600 Report

still seems to be a bit of denial, but more of, I can believ it, I just do not want it. Claudia
But will have to deal with it the best I can

Anonymous 2008-12-14 14:44:47 -0600 Report

I have always accepted it but sometimes I just hate the testing, shots, meds and want so much to be able to have not do any of it. I got diabetes first and the other diseases came on later. Many of them are worse but with those you just take a pill and it gets better or the pain is controlled but being diabetic there is alot going on. You have to make sure you have a meter with you and your pills and your glucose tablets, it is alot to remember. It reminds me of having a baby and making sure the diaper bag was packed. I carry a little bag with all my stuff in it to put in the car for the day or when we go somewhere for long periods of time. "My little diabetes bag" LOL

gma 2008-12-14 15:25:15 -0600 Report

you are so rite. I like the diaper bag that is cute. I sometimes forget to test my 2hrs after I get busy at work as far as the other problems I had them before this but now having Diebetes it has kinda helped the other problems I dont do salt anymore and I watch the fats so I guess that is a good thing now i need to get the diebetes in check

Vanilla 2008-12-14 13:57:10 -0600 Report

I accept that I have it but it does not make me happy about it. I am praying for a discovery that will CURE us all and I may add that I also pray for a cure for many other diseases that change and take so many lives of people who could do so much good in the world.

Goddess 2008-12-14 13:52:10 -0600 Report

Are there any others that want to comment?

2catty 2008-12-14 13:57:54 -0600 Report

I have days where I accept it and others where I totally ignore it. Which is denial. Harsh truth but it is reality. I have days to where I just don't want to deal with it and be like everybody else. I get mad and just don't want it. Then their is days to where I say, well I do have it and I am strong and I am going to do what I need to be doing. Because I know I can.

gma 2008-12-14 14:28:39 -0600 Report

I agree with you all the way. I seem to have my worst denial on the weekends and I just found out I have diebetes since Nov this is very hard for me to cope with because I feel fine maybe tierd or have to go to the bathroom more often but I also know it does us no good not to watch our bs and with the holidays it is alot harder for me to be in check Iam one of the week ones

2catty 2008-12-14 14:34:51 -0600 Report

When I found out I had diabetes it was near the holidays. And I was so confused and depressed and scared I didn't know what to do. Plus at that time I just got divorced and had two little ones who depended on me only. Thank goodness I have a wonderful husband that is supportive and helps me with our little one that we have. He also helps me to remember to take my meds too.

Anonymous 2008-12-09 10:16:22 -0600 Report

Why don't we all start saying what we do all day and every hour and see how ridiculous it all sounds. I am having coffee and a poptart. I am on this site and will be for a few more minutes. Then I will do something else.

gma 2008-12-09 20:34:29 -0600 Report

I dont mind telling you what I do all day I work 8hrs visit with my kids and grandkids after work and I come on to this site and try and learn afew things to help me live my life and then I end my day by praying and to sleep so that is my day

Anonymous 2008-12-07 14:59:55 -0600 Report

I am really tired of deleting all my posts because you open one with the same words, the same or next day. I am out of here

Anonymous 2008-12-07 15:09:10 -0600 Report

I've seen your comments to this effect on several posts. When you scan the posts, just don't read the repeats. I'm not sure why you're getting so upset over something so insignificant. It is easy to overlook that someone else has touched on a subject. If it was some time back, then it's very difficult to go back and review all the previous posts. There are new people joining daily, and some of these topics need to be brought to the forefront again. There are some posts on the site that I find useless and silly, but I don't see this particular situation as something to get upset about. Perhaps we do need to be more cautious, but it's really not a huge deal, in my opinion.

Anonymous 2008-12-08 17:47:17 -0600 Report

Yes just look at all the post from the same person today. She does not care who posts about the same topic. She sees a need and goes right ahead. If you do not like the discussion started go on to something else. But getting upset is just adding more fuel to the fire. New people are coming in daily, they need to see unity, information and helpful people.

gma 2008-12-08 18:55:42 -0600 Report

well ya know what Iam sorry I thought we were all adluts with the same problem we all have questions and Iam sure there are answers for them here on this site I am new to this site and am still learning how to get around so what I read I learn something from it and if I read it 2 or 4 times I can find something alittle different in what others say so please get ovr it and I am very sorry if I have offended anyone by this comment

gma 2008-12-08 19:17:07 -0600 Report

it is so stupid there are alot better things to do like post things that help people and I feel it is always a good thing to get feedback on a site maybe someone has suggestions they like to share and should be able to no matter that is what this site is for I feel if you dont like a discussion then leave it be cause someone elese mite enjoy it so CANT WE ALL JUST GET ALONG and help one another PLEASE!!!!

JaredLahti 2008-12-07 10:08:33 -0600 Report

I think it has been one of the best things to happen to me. It forced me to look at my lifestyle and change. Since then I have lost over 50 pounds. My A1c went from 11.6 to 5.7 in 3 months. I went from blood sugars of over 200 every day to not having a reading of over 100 in the last 2 months. I realize this is a lifetime thing, but I am going to control the diabetes not the other way around.

LadyDi - 26259Miller
LadyDi - 26259Miller 2008-12-07 10:19:53 -0600 Report

Congratulations on your attitude and success! Wonderful! That's the only way to live with it - accept it and deal with it. We might slip occasionally, but it's our overall attempt to stay healthy and our attitude and mind set that keep us going. Good for you! Continued success!

BeckyJ 2008-12-05 19:17:43 -0600 Report

I have finally accepted that I am a Diabetic. For years I watched my uncle struggle with diabetes and when I was diagnosed I was in severe denial. This can't be happening to me, I eat well, exercise, why me, etc. Unfortunately my diagnosis came just a few months after my uncle passed away due to complications from his diabetes. At the time I was diagnosed the treatment plan was just for one pill a day (Metformin). One more pill but I refused to take them because I wasn't a diabetic, they had to be wrong. Now I take 5 shots (Lantus & Humalog)a day and 3 (Metformin X 2 & Avandia) pills a day. I have been hospitalized twice and even went into a diabetic coma in May. If only I had accepted the diagnosis when it was still in a manageable state. Now I have to call the Doctor twice a week to adjust insulin and still have an A1C of 8. No more denying it for me. I still fight it but I can't deny it.

Lisa Ann
Lisa Ann 2008-12-05 16:27:10 -0600 Report

I was dx in July and I think I'm in denial most of the time. I check my sugar every morning and take my meds, but some days I just eat bad because I get tired of eating salads every day. Breaksfast is so hard to do because I LOVE eggs and you shouldn't eat more than 3 a week(I think). I do eat oatmeal most days but I gets old too. Just trying to figure out what to eat gets me frustrated sometimes.

gma 2008-12-07 10:29:35 -0600 Report

I agree with Lisa Ann the hardest thing is to find the rite things to eat and still cook for my family. Iam not on any meds and yes I think Iam in denial I think it wont hurt if I eat today and not tomorrow I guess I just dont know what that does to you if your sugar is high then low is it hurting us I still have alot of questions that need answers so I guess Iam 50 50 acepting and still saying no I dont

LadyDi - 26259Miller
LadyDi - 26259Miller 2008-12-07 10:37:12 -0600 Report

Have you actually been diagnosed as diabetic? If so, you must be controlling with diet and exercise as I was able to do for a number of years. That is certainly the best way. Hope you can do that successfully. It is bad for your readings to be all over the place and sporatically up and down. Following good eating habits and eating more small meals during the day to keep BS levels steady is the best way. Remember to exercise, if physically possible. Walking does wonders for your overall health (physical and mental) and helps keep your numbers in check.

gma 2008-12-07 11:24:31 -0600 Report

yes Iam type 2 as of nov 08 not on meds I guess it is hard rite now it seems I eat the same thing over and over and that is the hard part it is hard getting the amounts rite

Sparrow - 16557
Sparrow - 16557 2008-12-07 16:44:07 -0600 Report

There are a lot more things other than salads to eat, even if you're not into cooking from a recipe. (I know that there are a LOT of recipes for diabetic dishes out there, but sometimes you just feel like eating something quick from the microwave…)

Has anyone (doctor, dietician, or nutritionist) talked with you about counting carbs? Or how different carbs affect the blood sugar? Understanding these things will help open the door to a LOT of different foods. In fact, the only thing I stay away from are the "simple sugar" carbs, i.e. candy bars, jelly beans, and things of that nature. (With carb counting, you can actually eat those, too, but just a little of it is so MANY carbs, I'd rather have something with fewer carbs that I can eat more of!)

Lisa Ann
Lisa Ann 2008-12-08 17:22:31 -0600 Report

One of my biggest problems is I don't like most veges, so its hard to eat right. I love pasta and have found the new brand called Dreamfields. It's better for you than reg pasta. Everything that is quick and easy to cook is either high in fat or carbs. I eat alot of chicken and pork chops (baked not fried), but I like to have potatoes with them and that's way too many carbs. Sometimes I just get frustrated. I started out counting carbs all the time and my 7 year old daughter was counting with me, but I have been slacking off alot lately.

Goddess 2008-12-08 17:35:33 -0600 Report

i don't go by the carbs i do the calories. that's the way it was done when i was dx and i lost 60 lbs.

gma 2008-12-08 20:26:54 -0600 Report

yes I have seen a dietcian and she gave me my numbers of servings I guess that is the hardest thing to get use to and like alot of people have said it is all in reading & counting and that is where I get frustrated. I need to learn new ways to eat no more quick and easy I feel I dont get enough to eat

Goddess 2008-12-11 18:36:59 -0600 Report

It will take some time to accept it. If you are like me I go back and forth.But I have had it for 25 yrs.

Sparrow - 16557
Sparrow - 16557 2008-12-05 15:43:38 -0600 Report

I've been an insulin dependent diabetic for 34 years now. I have never had a problem with accepting that fact or "going public" with it. In fact, when I was a Recreation Therapist, I would voluntarily go to the ward where newly diagnosed diabetics were and help them deal with their new diagnosis. This was especially important for the young kids who thought they wouldn't be able to "live a normal life".

Two painful feet
Two painful feet 2008-12-05 10:09:20 -0600 Report

Hi! Goddeess,
I not fully acepted it yet. There are so many things to learn. But I do know I will be fight one more battle the rest of my life.


LadyDi - 26259Miller
LadyDi - 26259Miller 2008-11-25 14:27:47 -0600 Report

I've had Type 2 diabetes for many years. I had no symptoms, so, like many people would have been unaware if not for annual exams. I have been so fortunate and have not had to go through what so many of you have. Some of your comments are so inspiring. When I consider the things some folks live with daily (not just diabetes), I feel very blessed to have something that can usually be controlled and dealt with. Not easy, of course, and not something I like having, but things definitely could be so much worse.

Richard157 2008-11-25 15:26:45 -0600 Report

Yes Lady Di, that is my belirf too. Feeling and living that way reduces the stress we would otherwise have and we are much healthier for that reason.

Goddess 2008-11-25 14:12:19 -0600 Report

This is a little difficult to answer. I have had it for over 25 years and I have or so I thought had accepted it. But there are still times when I feel in denial.

BethP 2008-11-14 15:42:38 -0600 Report

I would say based upon my behaviors and lack of action…I am in denial. Geez..the truth can be brutal.

John Crowley
John Crowley 2008-11-17 10:07:32 -0600 Report

You've come to the right place. With the encouragement and support of friends here, you can get on the right path. Take care of yourself and you'll be amazed at how much better you'll feel.

Let us know what we can do to help.

John Crowley

kyladee 2008-11-10 12:36:08 -0600 Report

About two years ago my doc told me I was a borderline diabetic, but not full blown yet. He prescribed pills and I was supposed to take them. Well, I went on with my life as though I didn't hear him. I didn't want to take all those meds, and I didn't want to believe I was in any real danger. I had tested my blood sugar once and I didn't see any danger yet. This past September, I was diagnosed with type 2. I now have to take the insulin shots. Once at night, (Lantus), and thru the day if needed, (Novolog). I couldn't believe how drastically my life had changed overnight that week in September. Now I'm no longer living in denial as I used to be.

nancyUT 2008-11-10 13:29:38 -0600 Report

i have accepted that i have diabetes and even thou there isnt a cure i know i have the tools, information and family and friends to support me

dtonovitz 2008-11-08 15:43:19 -0600 Report

i have accepted it but honestly have had very bad control up until a few years go because i simply was to stubborn to do what i needed to do to stay in good health. i ate and did what i wanted to for years and have payed the price for it by now having many compucation. now im doing better but regretting that i didnt take better care of myself.

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