What would you like for non-diabetics to know or realize?

By Somoca Latest Reply 2012-03-31 23:22:35 -0500
Started 2011-05-08 12:15:15 -0500

What is one thing you would like for non-diabetics to know about you or diabetes on a whole?
Personally I would like for people to stop assuming that because I am NOT a size 6 doesn't mean I was bound to get diabetes. My mother was barely over 100lbs when she found out she inherited the "family gene".

I would like for them to know that I get cranky not because I'm a mean person but its the diabetes talking…sometimes LOL.

32 replies

alesiafae 2012-03-31 23:22:35 -0500 Report

I would like them to stop telling me you can't have sweets or scrutinizing me if I do have something sweet. I don't need a "mother hen". I know what to eat and how much of it I can have!

shorty31 2011-05-23 07:58:27 -0500 Report

AMEN sister i am so glad you said this my mom said i got it because i am fat, that eveytime i see food i eat that is not the case my family on my father side had it, now everone including me are finding out they have boarder line or some even found that they had to use insulin. and when they did who di they call me. now i am not angry but i told my mom that they come to me because i founded out first that i had it now everyone knows to cook their food different,drink more water and we can't eat all that good old sourthen home cooking we grew up on.maybe one day my mom will come to grips with me having diabeties and instead of finfing fault will find support. i guess some people get scared when a family member get diabeites it's funny though they can hadle cancer cricker then they can handle diabeties.

ZannaSu 2011-05-23 02:47:50 -0500 Report

I would really love non-diabetics to just back off. I really don't ALWAYS want to talk in depth about my diabetes and my blood sugars and what works or doesn't work and how I manage my insulin, and whether heredity or my fat self is the cause of my condition every time someone at work decides to bring in treats or there's a potluck. Trust me to know what I can eat and what I can not eat and that I'm grown enough to take responsibility for my choices (even the less than perfect ones - ok, but it was CARROT CAKE! Come on, I had to have at least a little. -lol-). I get really tired of explaining myself over and over anytime I have to eat with others. And if I turn down food, don't worry and fuss, I'm usually pretty aware of how much and when last I ate. If I'm turning food away, it's in everyone's best interest to let me do that.

And I'd really love it if non-diabetics did not believe (and feel a need to share) every single ancient horror story they have ever heard about diabetes. I can scare myself quite well without anyone elses help.

I would also really love it if my friends and family and others that really care would try to find it in their hearts to be friends and care about me over something other than a meal.

Thanks Somoca for giving me a chance for that vent. I feel much better now. :-))

Everybody have a great week!

Ms Julie
Ms Julie 2011-05-23 02:00:44 -0500 Report

I like ur dicussion . I would like my friend to understand diabetes so that she quites bringing me sweets to eat when she comes to see me . She alwaystells me just a little piece of cake or whatever she brings wont hurt u . But it does hurt me .

mcomp 2011-05-22 23:24:50 -0500 Report

Was dx'd in March and since that day, have been learning so much..it's almost overwhelming. My doctor said one in three people are diabetic (both he and his wife are). I would like non-diabetics to know each and everyone of us are not 'sentenced' and life goes on. So many say do this or do that..when they have no idea what it takes to live with bs going up and down, trying to master the task of what to and what not to eat & carb control. Even the nutritionist (who is not diabetic) had so much to say, which I found was wrong and does not work for me.
But mostly, I wish each and everyone sunny days, and even if it rains..dance, it's
good exercise…lol…Take care my friends!

pixsidust 2011-05-22 20:44:42 -0500 Report

I would like them to know I can eat some carbs, so do not act like I deserve to be sick because you saw me eat a cracker or a piece of bread. No one deserves to be sick and even if I did bring this on myself which i think I did, it is not any easier to deal with day in and day out

MrsCDogg 2011-05-22 20:34:57 -0500 Report

What I'd like for people to know is that I didn't cause myself to get this disease. I got it from my mothers side of the family. Every one of her siblings except one is a diabetic. You do not need to watch what I eat! I am a grown woman and I will take care of that. And please just because you once knew someone who was diabetic does not qualify you as an expert on it.
Those are just a few things I'd like non-diabetics to know about me!

Toledo Judy
Toledo Judy 2011-05-22 19:43:50 -0500 Report

Hi all, I am a newbie to this forum but I was diagnosed as Type 1.5 back in the 'dark ages' of 1983 when I was 40. I thought I was lucky until two days ago; I had no complications, my last A1C was 6.7 and all was right in this world.

Then, on Friday, I was told that my constant UTI's and bacterial infections are caused by what this urologisr calls a "Diabetic Bladder." I feel very overwhelmed right now as he told me that, like all other complications, there is no cure. He also told me that I will probably have to be on a prophylactic dose of antibiotics for the rest of my life. As if testing 4 or more times a day and at least 3 shots of insulin daily (plus my other meds for all my other 'conditions') aren't enough!!! I feel very old right now, not 68.

I would like people to know that I know I have a pretty face and that I would be so-o-o-o beautiful if I would just take off 75 pounds, and do they think I haven't tried??? Also I would want them to know that I did NOT get diabetes from eating too much candy, cake and ice creme when I was a kid. I probably got it because my husband had a very severe case of Hepitis A about five months before I was diagnosed…he was hospitalized for five months and almost died a few times. You do NOT get Diabetes, IT gets you!!!

Thanks for letting me vent, I feel a little better now, {lol}.

Jackie375 2011-05-22 17:48:21 -0500 Report

We didn't ask to be this way and I don't understand the weight thing myself and I am tired of people thinking i want to be this way. I don't and I would love nothing better than to be like I was before the diabetes. People sometimes think we caused this because of the way we eat or don't exercise but I was and active person, I raised 4 children and did lots of things with them. I don't enjoy not being able to do the things I used to do but even when I try I get so tired that I can't finish. People that are non-diabetics need to understand that diabetes affects in multiply ways and everyone is an individual. It affects everyone differently and each person's bs's are affected by different things and in different ways.

Gwen Morten
Gwen Morten 2011-05-22 13:08:38 -0500 Report

That I think I know better than you what this food is going to do to me if I eat it! Save the lectures! Yes I know I need to lose weight, that I need to eat right all the time and take my meds everyday. Most times I'm on point and my bs are normal but when I slip understand that I'm working full time at this everyday without a break so give me one!

hajegranz 2011-05-22 11:50:48 -0500 Report

That diabetes have been diagnosed…and when your blood pressure is too high or too low…I would like the non-diabetic folks to know that when a flare up with your health problems start…the non-diabetic shouldn't pay attention to my shutting myself out…and that blood sugar levels can cause you to become a little more unplesant…and irritable…If there is a history in family then the non-diabetic should be more patient with us until we get regulated…

CaliKo 2011-05-10 18:58:56 -0500 Report

That I'm not "cheating" when I eat one home-made cookie. Or one Hershey's kiss. But when I say 'no thank you' to a donut, I mean it. Quit waving them under my nose. I do like them, but they have too much sugar and make me sick.

roshy 2011-05-10 18:06:20 -0500 Report

do ya know what!! you ask some funky questions that would put anyone into a philisopical bubble of thought!! im really liking your questions!! fair play to you for all your input into the site!!

Id like people to know that diabetes is not the be all and end all. There is more to me then my condition. Infact the condition itself has made me into a stronger independant, more capable person and has helped me flurish throughout my life!!

id like people to know that its not fxxking easy iswell!!! theres alot of responsability that comes with this condition and can sometimes feel like a full time career!! its something that can have a major impact on your life both physicaly and emotionaly.

and finialy id like people to know that just because im diabetic doesnt mean i can have food with sugar, and there is only two types of food that i cant eat

1. poison
2. cookies with poison!!

Jackie375 2011-05-22 17:41:43 -0500 Report

You are so right on and also that just because we are diabetics doesn't mean we can't have any sugar just a limited amount and sometimes that small candy bar can keep us from gorging on more foods we shouldn't eat, ones that could really harm us.

Guardianstone 2011-05-09 04:29:56 -0500 Report

That it isn't contagious. That I didn't cause this, and I can eat most of what I want just in moderation.
Guardian stone

Cookie Roma
Cookie Roma 2011-05-08 21:33:53 -0500 Report

I get it. About 6 years ago I had to have a hysterectomy. At that time My weight was good. For about the next year or so I was gaining weight. Soon after surgery I was back to eating a healthy diet and exercising. But I kept gaining. About 75 or 80 pounds later I finally stopped gaining. I continue to eat well and exercise. Nothing helps.
When I was diagnosed with diabetes I went tj see a diabetic educator/dietitian . We tracked my eating and exercise. She constantly told he how great I was doing but couldn't explain why no weight loss. If the answer isn't diet and exercise none the "professionals" seems to know what to do.
Then there are people who say I DESERVE to be diabetic for being this huge fat slob.

JACKIEROTHGEB08 2011-05-08 21:01:32 -0500 Report


June Tademy
June Tademy 2011-05-08 20:40:44 -0500 Report

I would like for them to know that I am a diabetic and I do not eat a lot of sugar and I only gained weight in the last four years because of my medication and I am still a beautiful person. I do live a wonderful life and enjoy every minute of it, this is just a minor part of whom I am:)

Somoca 2011-05-09 10:09:43 -0500 Report


Gimpalong 2011-05-22 12:13:09 -0500 Report

I agree with June, too. I'd like people to realize that there are just sometimes that I can't always have the energy that they think I should have. If I try to push myself that hard to keep going, I know that I am going to pay and it won't be pleasant. When my bg's are high, just leave grumpy alone!! Everybody, have a wonderful week.