Has anyone ever experciened rejection?

amyspeer
By amyspeer Latest Reply 2011-05-24 11:42:52 -0500
Started 2011-05-07 18:51:07 -0500

Has anyone ever expercienced rejection, Right know I am saddend that tommrrow is Mother's Day and my birth mom has done nothing but reject me and does not have anything good to say about me, it hurts because my birth mom has blamed me for all her problems in her life. I Was blessed That God Gave me a Spiritual Mom That Cares about and takes good care of me and loves me uncondtionally. And God also blessed me with a Spiritual Dad as well. Have a great day everyone.


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Steam hammer
Steam hammer 2011-05-24 11:42:52 -0500 Report

I know it's hard to understand why your birth mother is treat you this way and blamming you for her problems its not your fault for her problems , she doesn't want to take the responesabilty for her actions. I don't want to sound harsh but if your birth mother doesn't want have anything to do with you that her loss and ask GOD to help you threw this and I know he will. God Blessed YOU

frustated
frustated 2011-05-24 10:55:15 -0500 Report

be happy that god has blessed you with a loving family. I know you probably hear this alot but here it is that is her loss and their gain. she shouldnt blame you . She was the adult in this and knew what it is to be a responible person and now she needs to grow up and act like one no child is at fault they are gifts given to us on borrowed time so we need to enjoy them as long as we are permitted

0tina0
0tina0 2011-05-10 09:50:42 -0500 Report

My Mom has been gone 4 years in July. She never ever liked me, but I survived anyway. I didn't know why she treated me different from my sister and brother but I believe it made me who I am today. I am a great mother and granny because she was not…I am patient…because she was not…I am giving and loving…because she was not. I have come to realize that she was flawed and really did'nt know any better and did the best she could to cope with life as she saw it. I think she was bi-polar and she was an alcholic. In the end I was there for her anyway…and I know in my heart she appreciated it. I also learned in that time she did love me…just not how I wanted to be loved. We can't change other people, we can grow from their mistakes and learn.

Nova69
Nova69 2011-05-09 17:51:59 -0500 Report

Amy, You have a mother and father - great ones from what you say. That's all you need. You don't need approval from someone who was, in essence, an egg donor. Your birth mother obviously takes no responsibility for her life and her actions. Whatever her problems are, they are hers alone - not yours. She is the cause of herproblems - not you. Look at you, you turned out fine without her. Enjoy the life and the loved ones you have and don't worry about someone who doesn't appreciate you.

tj101
tj101 2011-05-08 08:04:13 -0500 Report

hi amy you are one of the very lucky ones, i was the oldest one of five always taking the blame for the younger ones, and even my mom she really didnt want any responsability at all .when i found out i was a type 1 diabetic and almost died with an a1c of 17.5 she found out i was sick, she called me i didnt know what to think i was happy, durring the call she made the comment ill never for get,aww, its to bad this has happened to you you were such a pretty girl ,its to bad you lost it all, i didnt know what to think out of pure rage and sadnees i hung up cried for days havent spoke to her sence, but on days like to day this really hurts,im not really sure why i will never be or mean any thing to her, but im very glad you have some one for you i hope you all have a very wounderful mothers day,

pixsidust
pixsidust 2011-05-07 22:41:46 -0500 Report

Some people take no responsibility for anything really. It sounds like your Mother is one of those. I wonder if there is not a little mental illness or alcohol is not part of the mix. Forgive her as the lords prayer says forgive us our sins as we forgive others.

My mother told me to stop calling her Mom when I was 13 or the men she was dating might guess how old she was. I was to say I was her sister. I cried my eyes out. I was raised 90% of the time by my grandma and wanted my Mom to be a Mom and want me. She does not recognize anything she ever did as wrong. Eventually she abandoned my much younger sisters too. She is mentally ill and I do not put my pearls out there to be trampled on. Even though I am middle aged, she is full of vim and vigor, self centered, loud and uncaring. There is not reasoning with her and I do not try. There is not relationship because she likes to have someone to be angry with. I am more peaceful without it. Its alright to let go. And yes, family can be found in many places. You and I are family on this wonderful DC board and here shared together is love

jayabee52
jayabee52 2011-05-07 19:14:08 -0500 Report

When a door is closed, God opens a window. I thank Him that he has provided you a spiritual Mom & dad for you Amy.

Yes, my #3 son has rejected me due to my divorce. It hurts.

James

Harlen
Harlen 2011-05-07 19:10:33 -0500 Report

Well I think we always have somone that rejects us and you know what I just tell them or myself it's nothing if they cant get over it forget them .
You are loved wonted and needed what els is there to life .
Stop looking to get what you cant have from somone who cant give it to you.
It will only hurt you .
Best wishes
Harlen

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