thinking of mothers

By clj01 Latest Reply 2011-05-06 20:48:12 -0500
Started 2011-05-01 11:17:45 -0500

Having lost my mother almost 15 years ago, I thought it would be good if we all took a minute this week to remember our mothers and our wives. My own mother suffered as I have with diabetes, guess it is is the genes. I am truly grateful that she was always there when I needed her. My wife not only has supported me in all that I do in life, but also reminds me to check my blood sugars, eat right, and take my insulin. Oh and she does try to get me to exercise. I hope a few of you will share a little something about your own mothers or sweethearts.

51 replies

MAYS 2011-05-05 19:28:00 -0500 Report

I lost my mother last year 10.23.2010, but she will never be forgotten by me, without her I am nothing because she prepared me for not only life, but also for myself, to always set standards and goals that were within my reach but always outside of my grasp.

That way I will never lose sight of my goals and never, ever give up!
My legacy will be a continuation of hers, and she deserves the credit for what she has helped to create …


Jim Edwards
Jim Edwards 2011-05-04 13:33:12 -0500 Report

My Mom just turned 82. Her 6 children are all living, including me :).She has 16 grandchildren, and about as many great grand children (She knows, but I begin to lose count!) she is excited about her next great grandchild due in about a month. She and Dad provided housing, stability and love, not only for us kids, but once we were out of the house, there was always someone else, being cared for, being loved, being welcomed into the family. all but one still keeps in touch with her and as far as I know, they all cal her "Mom, Mom Edwards, Mom E", or some other affectionate name. Now that Dad has passed (4 years ago) she lives on her own, but the door to her home never stops revolving. Never has a week gone by when someone is not with her at least 2 days of each week. We have been blessed by this great lady and so have many others.

spitfirelady 2011-05-04 11:31:50 -0500 Report

My mom died at age 67 from cancer. She made sure the girls in the family had educations since my dad believed only the boys deserved educations back in the day. I miss my mother everyday. Believe me when I say, "The older I get, the more understanding I have of what my mother experienced…A lifetime of loving/giving/sharing/worrying/caring…for her family! Having children and grandchildren, I get it more every year! Happy Mothers Day to all you moms, too!

runthe 2011-05-04 09:42:07 -0500 Report

I lost my mom in 2002, she was a great mom. I miss her so much that I still cry. My mom suffered so with the complications from her diabetes but, she always had a smile or a kind word for everyone. RIP mom I Love you and Miss you.

JacquieB123 2011-05-04 00:07:39 -0500 Report

I lost my Mom 15 years ago also and there is not a day goes by that I do not miss everything she was to me. She died young due to complications of diabeties and I pray I do not follow in her footsteps. My mom is always in my heart and mind and I will pray for all Mothers here on earth and those who have now passed because they are Gods Earth Angels.

tabby9146 2011-05-03 20:48:45 -0500 Report

My mother is still living, and I'm very thankful, my father died when I was 22. She is the age most of my friend's grandparents are, 83. I am her caregiver, she is in a wheel chair now, but gets around well enough and doesn't have any major health problem.

Pynetree 2011-05-03 10:55:26 -0500 Report

This "MOTHER" creature is a wonderful thing. I too, along with my six siblings, was blessed to have had a good one. Her Mother lived two doors away from us. So we grew up with both Grandmothers with-in one block. And a huge bunch of Aunts and Uncles, and cousins. Never realized till much later, how blessed I was. Also realized, how unique it was to go to grade school with 30 or so cousins, and have all these family ties. Then in'74, I married and he was an only child…with only 6 cousins, He lived 12 places while growing up! And his Mom became another type of Mother I was blessed to have. So between Mother, Mother-In-Law, Grand-Mothers ,Great Grand-Mother, and Aunts..and two daughters, and now being a GrandMother's a great Gig! And I owe them all thanks and Love.
Happy Mother's Day to all!

DJackwon 2011-05-03 09:44:01 -0500 Report

I lost my Mom in 2003. She was a great mother, working two jobs to support and care for two children. My father I never met, he passed away 6 mos after returning home from Korea. Lost him to a heart attack at 29 years of age. Mom was a go getter, and never let anything get her down. I had an early bout of cancer in 97, mastectomy and chemotherapy. I had four children and the youngest was 8, I certainly didn't want to die. And by God's grace I didn't. I now am a grandmother of 9, and again am blessed. Shortly after my bout of cancer my mother got it, thought it was gone. A couple years later it returned, and metastisiced. She was ready to go home, and I remember most how she loved to dance and sing, now when I think of Mom, I just think of her and Dad being reunited after 50 years, and jitterbugging together again.

rentintin 2011-05-03 01:10:39 -0500 Report

Oh how l miss my mom she was the best. Shes been gone now for 11 years and it hasn't gotten any less painful . Enjoy them and let them know how much you love them;
while you have them. She was a real self taught person because she really didn't go to school. She taught herself to read by looking at books and magazines and asking people what words were and meant. She raised 7 of us kids through the depression and hard times, My dad didnt always have work but he said as long as your mother had an onion and a potatoe we had some dinner. She was raised in the coal fields of West Virginia and was married at 13 years of age. Had my oldest brother when she was 14 at home where all the kids were born except me. She lived her life for her family and taught us the importance of an education. She was so proud of me when I graduated from college.She loved God and country and was never afraid to tell you about both. She taught us the value of hard work and the importance of true love and kindness. She was the best friend I ever had or ever will have this side of heaven. That is where she is now with her Savior 'who she loved ! Mom I miss you and have a happy Mother's Day.

kittenpurr1 2011-05-04 12:38:55 -0500 Report

Your story sounds fimailiar, it is hard at times. I can tell by your words; she loved you very much and she was so proud of you. Know that you have an angel in Heaven watching over you.

ethansmimi 2011-05-02 23:33:40 -0500 Report

Mother's day kind of makes me sad, not because I lost my mother but because we can't have the kind of relationship I'd like to have. I am, however, very honored to be a mother and I have a fantastic relationship with my daughter and daughter-in-law. Both women are very loving and kind and I am blessed to have them both in my life.

kittenpurr1 2011-05-04 12:44:10 -0500 Report

This is just a suggestion…try talking to her, or write your feelings down, and mail them to her, let her know you want a bonding relationship with her. sometimes, it's easier to write, that way she can look back over your words from time to time, at least you can say- you tried.

ethansmimi 2011-05-04 13:03:56 -0500 Report

Thanks for the suggestion :) I have actually emailed her how I feel but she just takes it personally and starts screaming. She's 75 so I don't think at this point much is going to change. I just have to accept it for what it is but it does make me sad. I have some great mom substitutes though and thoroughly enjoy those relationships.

kittenpurr1 2011-05-04 13:21:17 -0500 Report

I am so sorry, I wish it was better for you. My children don't appreciate the things I do for them, and I have done a lot. So, I have decided to change thigs a bit. I have lived here since 2003, my children have never came for a visit. Yet, I always make the trips to see them on holidays, or close to holidays because some granddaughters have other places to go, plus the daughters do too, so- I am thinking of cutting back, I am tired. I am glad that you have some subs in your life, and sometimes- that's even better. Peace be with you, you have tried.

ethansmimi 2011-05-04 16:18:32 -0500 Report

I know it seems as parents that we do most of the giving and sometimes I feel like I am the one making all the effort but then I have to remind myself the reason I do it. My mom has never made the effort and it's very hurtful. I don't want my children or grandchildren to ever feel that I don't love them so I keep making the effort and I know deep down inside that I'm doing the right thing. I know they appreciate it, I think they just get busy and forget to tell me. I'm sure your children appreciate you, too. It would be nice if they'd remember to let us know once in a while! I do think it's ok to back off and take a rest when you need to. You have to take care of yourself or you'll be no good to anyone. I'm trying to remember to do that. It's hard to balance it all.

kittenpurr1 2011-05-05 19:03:57 -0500 Report

I am glad that what you have experienced with your mother shows no reflection upon the ability you have to love your children, we have to remember, they didn't ask for things to be the way they are sometimes. I am glad you have a good rapport with them.

ethansmimi 2011-05-05 21:54:23 -0500 Report

I got to spend a glorious afternoon with my grandson. There's nothing like hugs and kisses from a 3 yr old! I hope you have a fantastic Mother's Day weekend and get to spend some special time with your kids!

nanaellen 2011-05-02 23:14:42 -0500 Report

My Mom is still very much alive at 73!! I don't know WHERE I would be without her!! My Mom is the greatest. She could probably still work circles around any of us!! She even was a teachers assistant for "special needs" kids for years! I can't imagine losing her!! I will be tremendously distraught when she passes (and hopefully no time soon!) Dad is still alive too but Mom has slways been the strength that holds our family together!! She taught all 6 of us everything from sewing beautiful prom dresses to knitting, crocheting and cooking a 5 course meal from scratch!! She even went with me and helped pick the flowers from her friends garden to arrange for my wedding!! I could never brag ENOUGH about my Mom!! Happy Mom's Day to all the SPECIAL women out there!! Ellen :)

BandonBob 2011-05-02 10:50:03 -0500 Report

My mother also died of the complications of diabetes. Unfortunately she along with my sister and my now deceased brother did not take care of the daibetes. They all had many of the horrible things that diabetes can do to people. Also unfortunate that with all of that my sister still doesn't care about taking control of her diabetes. She can't get her husband to change his eating habits - mostly fast foods - and she says it is easier to just go along with him. I do miss my mother as she was quite a character and had an amazing life. Back in the twenties she played in a women's pro basketball league in Illinois. She also played baseball. She was very supportive all her life. My late wife was extremely supportive and was my best friend ever. Even though it is two years I still feel like she should be right here with me.

Gimpalong 2011-05-02 23:34:43 -0500 Report

I can understand many of your feelings about losing your wife. I lost my husband and best buddy almost two years ago, too. That's why I tell couples that they should cherish every moment they have with their spouses, because they can truly be gone in the blink of an eye. Life is too precious to not want to take care of ourselves. I've had so many blessings in my life, and it will take the rest of my life just to repay some of them. Take care of yourself, and have a wonderful week. What is you dog's name. I can tell he knows he's loved. God bless.

BandonBob 2011-05-03 00:05:39 -0500 Report

Thank you. My dogs name is Oz. He and my lovely granddaughter keep me going.

Gimpalong 2011-05-03 00:23:19 -0500 Report

I have 5 grandchildren in town near me, and 1 in VA. They sure keep me going, especially the 5 year old. Take care. Pat OZ's head for me.

LabRat90 2011-05-02 09:17:17 -0500 Report

My mother is still living. She'd kill me if she knew I was telling her age. (70) She has diabetes, too. My father died of diabetes complications (congestive heart failure) in 1995. Just about my whole life, my mother was teaching us children the correct way to eat. Sometimes genetics rule! Out of 5 children, 4 have diabetes and one has PCOS. Happy Mother's Day to my Mom and to my sisters, who are either Moms or want to be. Happy Mother's Day everyone!

eristar 2011-05-02 06:26:23 -0500 Report

My mom passed away nine years ago; she developed complications following her second hip replacement. I think of her so often; my home is filled with things she loved and used, so she is still with me in many ways! The thing I miss most is our daily early morning phone calls; my daughter has taken over that tradidion, though, and calls me each morning before she leaves for work.

JacquieB123 2011-05-04 12:00:41 -0500 Report

Your relationship sounds so much like mine with my mom and daughters. Just the other day I found out some stressful news and reached for the phone to talk to mom, and doesn't the phone ring, and it's my daughter calling to say she misses me. Mom is still looking down from Heaven and knows what i need. Happy Mothers Day to our Gaurdian Angels, OUR MOMS!

Pynetree 2011-05-03 10:25:01 -0500 Report

Love that you shared the phone connection too. Lost my Mom in '01…and still think about calling her - or I hear our phone ring and think "..oh, there's Mommy". We only lived 3 miles from each other..and I saw her couple times a week…but had multiple short phone calls every day! LOL! and there were 7 of us kids, and it wasn't just me she called. Now my oldest daughter, Meredith, is married, lives two hours away, and now she calls 2 - 5 times a day. Our youngest daughter, Ashley, has just moved back home, and teases both of us about this…thinks the telephone cord is our umbilical cord!

So Happy Mother's Day to all the Mom's out there!

eristar 2011-05-04 06:51:31 -0500 Report

I can't tell you how often I go to pick up the phone to call her in the mornings - it's no longer every day, but it still happens! So glad to hear that your "young'uns" keep in touch - it makes up a little for all those sleepness nights, doesn't it? :D

Graylin Bee
Graylin Bee 2011-05-02 02:47:26 -0500 Report

Mom (aka The Cake Lady) has been slowing down very little. She will be 81 this November. Her hearing is growing worse. Her spinal stenosis is causing more pain. She is even taking naps more frequently in the afternoon.
Last month she made over 40 cakes. Wednesday afternoon we spent together decorating a cake for the Royal Wedding. A friend of hers is from London and wanted a wedding cake for a 4:00 AM party on William and Kate's big day. Mom gets intimidated whenever anyone asks her to make a wedding cake, thus my help 2 times this year. Any other cakes I just listen to what she plans to do and admire their lovliness after she is finished. I think she believes she can pass the cake title on to me if she shows me her techniques.
Mom invites me over to play in her kitchen. She will call and say something like "I wish I had some of your molassses cookies." Then on a Tuesday we bake and send cookies home with all who come to Ladies night out at Mom's. For a few weeks we made macaroons, I taught, she learned the mystery of whipping egg whites and playing with the ingredients. We improvised and came up with Smore macaroons. The first week we made two other types.
Mom doesn't understand the complexities of carbs. But she will let me pick out the ever present marshmallows from her salads. She might not understand about BG tests and A1c. But she cheers with me when I tell her mine have been good.

Hopieland 2011-05-02 12:57:28 -0500 Report

You got me. My heart is pitter-pattering over your sweet story. My mom didn't spend much kitchen time, but her mom, my Nana, did. As a child she'd roll out a pie crust and give me some dough and a rolling pin. She'd make the pie, I'd make a cinnamon scone and we'd bake them together. Some of my fondest memories of of her & I in her kitchen. My G-ma on my Dad's side had a kitchen as big as my house! Two stove/ovens, four freezers, miles of counter tops, two big tables and loads of cabinets. She baked everything, made candy for all her 22 g-kids, cooked Thanksgiving and Christmas dinners for 30 each year with roast duck, ham, turkey, this bird and that bird… I love your mom already! Smore macaroons…my mouth is watering. Thanks for sharing this. I'm blessed.

jayabee52 2011-05-02 01:08:57 -0500 Report

My mom's still living. She was 81 yo last month. Gonna have to call her on the phone and talk with her. I am looking forward to the family reunion in OH in July where I can get to ((((((HUG)))))) her.

(Been trying to get her on DC — to check up on me and keep me in line, LoL! — mother's work is never done!)

EDIT: Just recently I invited (actually more like goaded) Mom to join us here. She's been here now for about 1 day. She goes by the screen name of "Honeycome" Please look her up and invite her to be your friend, and send a "Howdy welcome to DC" message to her


Gimpalong 2011-05-03 00:31:25 -0500 Report

Hey Jim, how are you doing? I hope your mother has a wonderful Mother's Day. You know that July is just around the corner! How are you doing? I don't think that boys are harder to raise, but of course, I didn't have any girls to compare them with. I know that each of my boys have completely different personalities and interests. My son finally made it home to VA. He spent the night in the Dallas airport coming, and he had a 5 hour delay in Dallas going home. He called to tell me he made it home. I told him that I didn't know what to say, his truck didn't want to go west, and the plane didn't want to go east. He says," I know what it's telling me. It's saying stay out of TX! I just had to laugh. You take care of you. I hope all is well with you. God bless.

Hugs and prayers,

Hopieland 2011-05-02 12:59:55 -0500 Report

Well Jim, everyone says boys are harder to raise (lol). It would be interesting to have here checking up on you…and us, too, no doubt. When you see her, give her a huge Hopie Hug from me, will ya?

jayabee52 2011-05-02 17:59:01 -0500 Report

I most certainly will, hopie!

I had been told that boys were easier to raise. My 3 boys were pretty well behaved, but their mother and I started training them up well since age 1 or 2. All we needed to be was consistent with them and treat them fairly.

Of course, the personality of the child whatever the gender, has a lot to do with how they behave.

edvel54 2011-05-01 13:16:17 -0500 Report

As a mother, I thank you. I lost my Mom 3 years ago and my Dad 11 years. They both had diabetes. I wish I could go back in time and spend more time with my Mom. Getting to know her better, finding out more about her early life. But I didn't. I was too busy with my own life, I lived 800 miles away.I could have called more, but after her last stroke, she was unable to talk.
Give all your Mom a HUG and tell her how much you :LOVE her.

Hopieland 2011-05-02 13:05:55 -0500 Report

Hi sweetie. I lost my mom 12 yrs ago, Dad 8 yrs ago. I think my mom probably had D but was never Dx'd. Like you I was so busy with my own life…Mom lived with my older brother a yr before she died very suddenly of a blood clot to her heart. Like you I often wish I could talk to her now. Sometimes, even now, I go to the phone to call her. I used to feel guilty, but not anymore. One day we'll have a very, very long time to make for all the time lost here. Mom's Day is tough for some of us, but you know…b/c they were our moms…they understand. Somehow Mom's just always understand and take their kids for who the are, just as they are (although mine would gladly tell you about all the things she'd like to have changed in me!). I hope you have such a beautiful Mother's Day this year, you will only be able to remember all the good things. Hugs

kittenpurr1 2011-05-04 12:54:38 -0500 Report

This is for Hopieland and edvel54, your Mothers are looking down on you from up above, they understand that life gets busy, with every new generation, it seems lives get even more busier, don't feel bad, or kick yourself, they don't want that, they love you, and they knew that you were thinking of them, and they know it now. Life is short- so if you need to express yourself to someone, do it, while you can, we never know- but don't hold onto the regrets. There was love there.

edvel54 2011-05-02 13:46:27 -0500 Report

Thank you very much for your reply. I get teariy when I remember Mom.
You too, have a wonderful Mothers Day.

Gimpalong 2011-05-02 23:51:47 -0500 Report

I hope both of you, Hopieland and edvel54 have great Mother's Days. I still have both of my parents, Mom (87) and Dad (93). I am losing my mom to Alzheimers'. I'd love to be able to be in the kitchen with mom to help her, but she has her routine, and I'm allowed to set the table and watch. We often have interesting meals that I have never tasted before, but she tries, and we can all laugh together. I have been blessed by such wonderful parents. I wouldn't trade them for the world. My parents will be married 70 years on May 17. I really love them and appreciate them. Happy Mother's Day to all of you. Take care and have a great week.


Graylin Bee
Graylin Bee 2011-05-06 20:48:12 -0500 Report

My Mother-in-Law had Alzheimer's. Laughter is vital when coping with it. I remember some of her interesting routines. Wanting to help but having to patiently wait for permission to help has to build character.

kittenpurr1 2011-05-02 18:11:02 -0500 Report

I lost my mother at the age of 14, my mother had a brain tumor the size of an orange, it was removed, they told her, "You will never walk again." She went back to work. I left to go to school, and my mother either committed suicide, or someone killed her, it was ruled as a suicide. That happened in April, in November my dad was remarrying, with a already made family, I was used to being the only child, so I didn't adjust to well to any of this- I was a child of choice, since I was adopted. My dad cut me from his will, he signed for me to get married at 14 years old. So, 14 was a year for me. I got beat by 2 husbands, ran around on. I knew when I got old enough I was going to leave. I was too young to even get a job. So, I really don't know if someone killed my mother because we had several businesses, and the door was open, or if she found out she was getting another tumor, or if something worse happened. I try not to dwell on it, I will never know the answers to my questions. I always knew I would never sign for my children to get married at 14 years old.

Pynetree 2011-05-03 10:38:00 -0500 Report

Oh what a tough road your life has been…and look how far you've come..You are a strong women. You are fighting through all these obsticles..and it isn't easy. But, you have survived! You are a winner! I'll pray for strength for you!

jayabee52 2011-05-03 00:46:24 -0500 Report

Wow! This brings tears to my eyes, Janet!

I have no doubts as to Jem died a natural death. I do wonder which of the 3 or 4 deadly conditions she had finally caused her to pass away. I don't think I will ever know, and once I am with her with Jesus, it won't matter anyway. Then it will be ALL good!

nanaellen 2011-05-02 23:01:14 -0500 Report

OMG I can't even begin to put into words!!! I can't even imagine!!! You've got to be one of the strongest women I think I know!! All I can say is God Bless You!!