Feeling overwhelmed

By AshleyLamp2009 Latest Reply 2011-05-04 21:21:36 -0500
Started 2011-04-27 10:46:49 -0500

Hi! My name is Ashley. Im 24 and was recently diagnosed with type 2 diabetes this month. I was in the hospital last Friday, (Same day I found out I had diabetes) for having my BS at 699. I was immediately put on insulin but my body was rejecting the insulin and now also on pills to help my body accept the insulin. It feels like alot of this is all hitting me at one time. I never thought this would be somthing I would be worrying about at this age and so it is really depressing. I don't know how people deal with it. I work full time, go to school full time, and a single parent who takes care of my son by myself and I just can't find the time to take my insuln and kinda embarressed to take it when I am with friends and family. If I don't then I feel horrible. I know it sounds stupid but I don't have time to plan meals, and I am always on the run so thats as good as excercise gets. How does everyone manage their condition?

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Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-05-02 15:36:50 -0500 Report

Hi Ashley,

I am sorry to hear that you are going through all of this. You are really dealing with a lot.

It might help you to use some basic relaxation techniques to help to reduce the stress inyour life, just little breaks to catch your breath and introduce a little bit of relaxation into your life. Here is a link to a previous discussion.


Your use of the word "depressing" raised a read flag for me. I can understand why you would be feeling overwhelmed, with everything that you are trying to do right now. You might want to talk to your physician about any symptoms of depression that you might be feeling, and seeing if he/she has a recommendation.

I know you are busy, but it is also important -- really important -- to have regular support. Do you have people in your life who can listen without judgment and give you a chance to blow off steam and let out some of your emotions? YOu might also want to consider to talking to a mental health professional. Your company may have an employee assistance program that you could get in touch with and possibly get a few free sessions with a mental health professional. Or, you might see if your school has a counseling department.

Don't go through this alone.

And stay in touch with your friends here on DC.


AshleyLamp2009 2011-05-04 21:21:36 -0500 Report

Thanks Gary for your advice. I do feel depressed at times since being diagnosed but I am sure it is a normal reaction. I don't have alot of resources for someone who wont pass judgement, but I have always done everything on my own just as I will overcome this on my own. I respect your suggestion on seeing a mental health professional but thats not realistic for me. I don't have time. Best wishes.

tabby9146 2011-05-01 18:26:18 -0500 Report

I see you got lots of great advice, and there isn't anything I can add really, but welcome to DC!! Glad you are here. I feel pretty bad for everyone on here who has it bad, everyone who is on insulin (that seems so complicated to me and such a hassle) and those that have had some hard times, been in the hospital, etc. I just keep eating right and exercising everyday, and hoping for the best. Hoping you get it under control soon, which I know if you do all the right things, you definitely will, make a take a while, just try to be patient.

sisson 2011-04-29 21:32:45 -0500 Report

Hi Ashley
I kind of know what you are going threw . All though I was a 32 and I was merried but I raisd my 3 children by myself because my husband was a heave drinker and workd alot.
No I didn't work out of the home in till our children were much older because one of the children they always came first as they should.
It took me along time to learn my body and to lean how to cook for myself and for a family of 5 it wasn't easy thats why I became a diabetic in the first place.
My doctor at that time told me that if I would have took better care of myself that I wouldn't have became a diabetic until I was in my 60's because it runs in my framily because I wasn't eatting, drinking water, geting enough sleep or exercizing.
For16 years I was doing perfect with my bs and now I don't know my own body like I use to and the funny thing I am still eatting the same way when it was incontrol I haven'ty change anything.
So what happen 2 years ago or a little more they put me on insullion and gave me one more pill and raised 2 of my others and what happen I gain 61pd and end up in the hospital a few times.
So at first I by myself to me off some of the pills then I started lossing weight with change the way I ate and excerizing more and bye bye insullion and one pill.
You have to do it for yourself I know that you have a child and you love him.
But now that I now what I now I wouldn't always had put them first because alot of the time I was depress how good was I for them.
Ashley it is sad to say but along with diabetaus comes deprssion and if your not healthy for yourself then you won't be healthy for your son.
Eat brakfast togeather I don't know how old he is but you can eat dinner together
and your lunch eat with some friends. And just take some snaks to school buts most of all drink alot of water.
Take care

AshleyLamp2009 2011-05-01 05:42:18 -0500 Report

Thank you for replying. I found your story to be very inspiring and admire you for your devotion to you kids. It is hard to put myself first because I haven't really thought about myself since my little man was born. He is now 19months and has me on the go all the time, but I would trade it for the world. I know I have to get control so I can be healthy for the best of us. I have realized I need to make sure I am happy and healthy in order to give him the best of me! Thank you again and bless you!

bizzach 2011-04-29 20:15:11 -0500 Report

On the run and on the go is most peoples lives you have to find a way to adjust to plan your meals to be healthy and to take your insulin its not embarassing its to keep you alive and well.

roshy 2011-04-28 16:52:20 -0500 Report

overwhelmed i believe is something we all feel with this condition. its hard to ajust with the way it invades our lives and takes over, and trying to take control is always very difficult at the start. I was diagnosed when i was 16 with type one, and like yourself i did hide it from family and friends; how hard and isolated i felt. if i acted like ignoring it will helpit all go away, unfortunitly it doesnt. And once i went into the doctors office i could never speak to him i would just sit there and cry for 20 minutes!

But as time goes by it does get easier to accept. The more you educate yourself on the condition the better. the more steps you take forward the more you become in control.

Learn how to ask for help and never keep your feelings locked up on the inside, they eat away at you, and although not everyone will understand at least you feel like you are being listened to, let out all the poison!!

Speak to a professional, an endo or a dietition will be able to help you plan for your meals and snacks and will put you on the right track !

Just remember ignoring things will get you nowhere!!

Best of luck with everything!

AshleyLamp2009 2011-05-01 05:35:56 -0500 Report

Thank you so much for your advice. I have realized I need to talk with family and friends about my condition no matter how hard it is. I have faced the fact that this is apart of my life and it's not just going to go away. Best wishes!

KittyDog 2011-04-28 14:57:06 -0500 Report

One of the best things I ever gave my mom was a medication timer and since then she's never missed a dose. As far as friends and family, they NEED to know of your condition and how to deal with things like low blood sugars etc. I was shopping with a friend once and had a low blood sugar episode if my friend was clueless as to what to do for me I could've been in real trouble. I don't know how old your son is but if he is old enough to understand he can actually remind you to take your shots or medication. My granddaughters often remind me.
We want to be there for them so we have to take care of ourselves. Good luck!

clj01 2011-04-28 10:28:37 -0500 Report

I started to write this big long reply, and then realized that what you need is a hug and an assurance that there is no hurdle in taking care of diabetes that can't be overcome. Big hug from all of us.

sam1376 2011-04-27 20:26:57 -0500 Report

I was diagnosed this month as well ( just couple of weeks ago) I am on insulin 5 times a day but with some diet, managing what you eat all this can be cut Back to one shot in the morning (lantus, the long acting) plus don't be ambarrass you are not on drugs, you are on medicine. If your friends don't understand this, they don't deserve to be your friends

hy7898m 2011-04-27 20:23:10 -0500 Report

I am sorry you are having trouble adjusting. I am also newly diagnosed with diabetes, but also found out I have high blood pressure and high choelestrol. I can imagine it is hard at 24, I am 62 and it is hard for me to adust. I have always led a active liifestyle and never ate much meat and I still got all these conditions. I am finding it really hard to eat the right foods and eat at the right times and check blood sugar, as I work two jobs. I go to work at 4 in the morning and get home at 11 at night. I also have alot of stress at home, my daughter was just diagnosed with Graves diesease and I have to take her to the specialist on my days off. I am having a hard time keeping my blood pressure and bloiod sugar in check. Does stress take a big part in hign blood pressure. I can't seem to get either number down to where it should be right now.

ethansmimi 2011-04-27 21:51:37 -0500 Report

Stress is definitely a factor in any disease. I have RA, HBP, Diabetes and some other things that are all exacerbated by stress. My doctors don't want me working at all but it's hard not to worry about how to pay the bills when there isn't much coming in. I can't imagine working two jobs. I did try that several times but it was always too much for me. My body just can't handle it. I hope things get better for you and for your daughter!

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ethansmimi 2011-04-27 16:19:48 -0500 Report

Hi Ashley,
I am a fairly new diabetic. I found out a little over a year ago that I was diabetic and had been for awhile without knowing it. I have a very strong family history of it so I guess I shouldn't have been surprised but I cried at the doctor's office. I have soooo many other health issues that I totally felt overwhelmed about it all. Checking my blood sugar, figuring out what to eat, injecting insulin at the right dose and time, etc. It just seemed to be too much. But after a few months, it didn't seem quite so overwhelming. I know that when I cheat with my diet, I feel terrible and I know that if I don't inject the right amount of insulin, I feel horrible so that motivates me to try and stay on track. I know it's hard with your busy schedule but the payoffs are worth it. I hate it when I am out with friends or family and I have to excuse myself from the table to go to the restroom to check my BS and inject before eating. One thing that keeps me motivated is my 3 year old grandson. I know he loves me and I need to be here for him. I want him to have good memories of our times together. I take evening classes at college and it's hard to juggle my insulin around that but I try to always eat a snack right before class to prevent hypoglycemia and then eat right after class. Good luck with everything. I know it's hard but it will get easier with time and won't feel so overwhelming. Hang in there!


AshleyLamp2009 2011-04-27 17:48:37 -0500 Report

Diabetes run very strong in my family as well. I am sorry to hear you are experiences many health issues. It's really great that you have your diabetes under control, I am sure your grandson would like to have his grandma around for a long time. I think that it's great that you have decided to take control of your future and health and do everything you can to beat diabetes. Best wishes!

MewElla 2011-04-27 16:07:56 -0500 Report

There comes a time in each of our lives when we have to move to the front of the line and concentrate on taking care of US. If you don't, this will create more problems for you and your son. Plse don't be embrassed to let friends and family know you have health issues ..make yourself a priority to learn all you can and learn to eat the foods that are best for you. You can get diabetes in control…I did and I have been at this over a year…but I make myself a priority and I want to feel healthy and be active, which I am. I make sure I eat right and exercise by walking each day and my testing numbers get better all the time. It is not easy and it is work to get in control, but hey, you and your little one are so worth it. You are not alone, a lot of great diabetics are on this site and we are all here for you…Good Luck to you, you can do this…

AshleyLamp2009 2011-04-27 17:53:03 -0500 Report

Thank you very much. I have already met so many great people who are supportive which is really helpful because my friends don't understand. They just stare and apoligise for my condition. I don't need sympthy, but for someone to just listen. I need people who know I am going through and I have found that here. I have realized that I need to put myself first and thats hard but somthing I am going to work on. I am going to get this under control and still live a happy and fulfilled life! Thank you so much for the support!

jenugen 2011-04-27 16:00:12 -0500 Report

I know the feeling. I was diagnosed less than a year ago. My first thought was "well my life is over". Now thanks to sites like this I realize that life still has fun and meaning in it. You are in our thoughts. You can do it, if not for yourself then for your precious children. Welcome to your new world.

AshleyLamp2009 2011-04-27 18:01:27 -0500 Report

I thought the same thing. I cried when I got in my car. I couldn't believe it was happening, specially at 24. I denied it at first, but I have finally realized I can't pretend it don't exsit or hope it away so now I am ready to deal with it head on and it has been such a big help with everyone's inspirational words! Thank you so much for your support!

Gimpalong 2011-04-28 19:40:58 -0500 Report

Ashley, you have such beautiful eyes, and I bet from your photo, you have a great smile too. It's hard to find you have an illness that is all consuming. You are special, to us and to your family and friends. If you don't put yourself as the priority, look how many people would miss you. You can find a way to deal with it, and as Sidehack said, we're all here for you, too. Hang in there. I'll be praying for you that you will find an endo or nutritionist to help you gain more information about diabetes and what to do. This is not an overnight process. You can do it. We all have the rest of our lives to learn how to dig deep, and find our inner strengths to help us. Take care of you. God bless you.

Caring hugs and prayers,

Sidehack 2011-04-27 15:35:17 -0500 Report

It's important to put your meds 1st. Your health should be your #1 priority…without it you won't be able to do the other things in your life! Remember, you are not alone in this.

AshleyLamp2009 2011-04-27 17:58:22 -0500 Report

Thank you very much for your support. I have realized that I need to take my health very serious. Finding this site have been so inspirational and can't thank everyone enough for all their support even though they don't know me, Thank you all!

knit57 2011-04-27 14:14:25 -0500 Report

Life just chenged. You just deal with it one day at a time. You have to take time and take care of you, if for no other reason than you have a son who needs you. The insuln and meals will have to come first. Soon it will just become part of you. Even a little exercise will make a differance. They ask that you do 30 mins per day, it doesn't even have to be all at one time. You don't want to end up in the hospital again, and you don't want the complications that come with this one. If you can work, go to school and take care of your son, you can do this. Good Lunk, remember there are always people here to give a hug or a kind word. Hang in there!

AshleyLamp2009 2011-04-27 17:56:27 -0500 Report

Thank you for your support! I have done alot of research today since I have the day off and already feel full of knowledge and confident in getting this under control. Best wishes to you as well!

Jim Edwards
Jim Edwards 2011-04-27 12:07:04 -0500 Report

Hi Ashley, I am Jim. I think it is always a shock to find out you have a disease like diabetes. I found out at a routine physical. Doctor said, How long have you known that you are a diabetic? I said, for about 30 seconds! Happy 50th birthday to me. what a present. I did the work full time and single parent full time to 2 girls, but never had to toss in full time school. I take my insulin at night. I shower, go to the bedroom, sit on the edge of the bed and inject. It takes awhile to form the habit, but I rarely miss. Take good care of yourself and take good care of your son. I know you are overwhelmed, but hang in there and keep plugging. If you don;t take care of yourself, you won't be able to care for your son, work or go to school. Self care is the cornerstone of your foundation.

AshleyLamp2009 2011-04-27 12:14:01 -0500 Report

Thank you. I know I am not the only one who lives a busy life style and been diagnosed with diabetes, but don't know anyone else who is going through the same thing. It was great reading your reply and knowing I am not the only one. I am definately trying to work through this and research what could happen if I don't maintain this is very scary and think it was a wake up call. I have a new respect for individuals who do have diabetes. I didn't realize what a serious condition it is until I was diagnosed and now want to be apart of educating young adults. Thank you for the support.

Jim Edwards
Jim Edwards 2011-04-27 13:06:10 -0500 Report

You are welcome. When I am 80, I still want to have my legs and feet attached. I suspect at least one of my knees won't be original, but that has nothing to do with the diabetes!

Gimpalong 2011-04-28 19:50:49 -0500 Report

Jim, thanks for giving all of some good information. It doesn't matter how long we've been a diabetic, it's how we come out of denial and take it seriously. I found out I was a diabetic after I had foot surgery. My foot was completely infected with staph. The doctor asked me how long I had been a diabetic, and all I could do was stare. Good came out of a bad situation, and I still have my foot, a little unusual compared to the other, but it is still mine and I plan to do everything I can to keep it. Take care of you. God bless you.

Lots of caring hugs and prayers,

Aunt Nanners
Aunt Nanners 2011-04-27 11:36:58 -0500 Report

Hey Ashley. Girl you are just going to have to find the time. It is overwhelming at first and very depressing. You would take medicine for other things in front of family and friends wouldn't you. Besides I'm sure they want you to be healthy so start with that issue, take that medicine when you are supposed to. Tackle things one step at a time. 699 is really bad so please don't ignore that. You will be surprised how small changes can make a big difference. Educate yourself on this website, the American Diabetes website, anywhere you can. What are your eating habits now? I can try to help you plan meals if you like. Let me know. I want to help you.

AshleyLamp2009 2011-04-27 11:58:22 -0500 Report

Thank you so much Aunt Nanners. I have been doing alot of research in my spare time. I am really determined to overcome this. I currently have set my phone alarms on for when I need to take my medicines to help remind me. I also have been looking up recipes for me to make that both my son and I can enjoy that is much healthier for the both of us. I have looked up what I can eat when I go out to eat to certain restraunts. I am feeling very empowered to beat this and kow that my journey has just begun. I have found the recipes available here very helpful. If their are any fav recipes that you would like to share then please do! Thank you for the support. It has been hard to discuss the issue with my family and friend and notice they seem to brush it off and say it will go away but the more research I do the more I realize that it's not going to go away on it's own. Ty again, your post was inspirational and really helped me realize the facts!

Aunt Nanners
Aunt Nanners 2011-04-27 12:48:45 -0500 Report

Good for you for your determination. It does take a little while for the meds to kick in. I don't do insulin so I don't know what you need to do when you take it. I was on metformin twice a day and now just once a day. My Dr. says if I stay on this path I will come off it completely in July. I'm determined to stay on this path. But not taking it means it's totally up to me and that's a bit scary. This may sound silly but, I kind of look at my diabetes as a hobby. Always reading stuff and trying things to "show it who's in control". Most of the time I am but there are still times I play with fire:) and I'm lucky to be able to have rice, pasta, potatoes, and white bread as long as I have a portion of it. Don't get as much as I want, but I have it. I try to stick to whole grains but sometimes I want that good stuff. This is way cool, cake doesn't seem to have much effect on me at all. Nutshell, I eat healthy and balanced 90% of the time. If you get a chance check out sparkpeople.com. They have some really good tools to help you track your fats, calories, carbs, fiber, protein and I think balance is the key. You can do this you know you can. I will help you anyway I can.

AshleyLamp2009 2011-04-27 15:22:27 -0500 Report

Thank you so much. I have really found your advice helpful and educational. I have been checking out the sites you have suggested and they are really helping me get an understanding of my diabetes. LOL I am very competitive and I think it's awesome that you look as it as a hobby and going to do the same. I take insulin four times a day( More if it runs high) and pills three times a day. I have a kwik pen and lantus which are conveinent (all I have to do is screw on the needle clean the area where I inject myself and click to the amount my doctor suggests) I must admit that my fingers are a little sore from poking them. I am also taking classes at my clinic for student education for diabetes which I go to my first class soon! I really am going to miss pasta, I know I can still have a little but right now I am trying to stay away completely for a while so I don't get tempted. I love pizza and my doctor says that it will raise my BS right away so I have stopped that as well. I must admit I have to put alot of effort into what I eat but I am finding not as hard as I thought it would be. I CAN DO this and I will beat it. My doctor says he feels confident that we can get rid of this! Thank you so much Nanners for your insight and faith in me. I know we don't know each other but I feel really drawn to you and see you as someone I can look up too!

Aunt Nanners
Aunt Nanners 2011-04-27 15:39:26 -0500 Report

You are so on the right track. I stayed away from the "oh, God can't have it's" until my meds kicked in. Started adding back a little at a time now and then. Sometimes when I have that little extra portion I can do jumping jacks, a few girly push ups, some squats and they seem to keep me from getting to high. I was drawn to you to kiddo. I'm a control freak so that's why this thing is a hobby to me. I will not let it control me. I think you are going to be just fine, you have the right attitude to show it who's boss! Gotta run, time to go home. So glad we met.


AshleyLamp2009 2011-04-27 18:08:17 -0500 Report

I know I am going to be okay! I am all about easy meals but I realized I can make healthy easy meals. Thank you for all your support today, I can't tell you how much of a difference you have made for me in fighting this condition.


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