The Darndest Things

By Somoca Latest Reply 2011-05-03 21:22:40 -0500
Started 2011-04-24 16:47:30 -0500

Has anyone else noticed that people say some of the most thoughtless things when they find out that you have Diabetes? The latest thing I heard was, " well if you would lose weight, you wouldn't have that problem" It's kind of funny considering my mother is barely over 100lbs and all of her 5 brothers and 1 sister are skinny and have Diabetes.

Does anyone else have a story of what you say when you hear "stupid" things fall from people's mouths??

125 replies

waynealan 2011-05-03 21:22:40 -0500 Report

Somoca - first, you need to understand that people in general are incredibly ignorant. BUT… you have the advantage of the current age. I was diagnosed as a "juvenile" (type I) diabetic at the age of 11 in 1966. I was put in the hospital for ten days while they figured out the right dosage of insulin to use. I used glass syringes with detachable needles that had to be boiled daily. And after I got home MOST OF MY FRIENDS WERE NO LONGER ALLOWED TO SEE ME. In those days, people thought diabetes was "catching" (contagious). The parents of my friends refused to risk having their own children subjected to the disease. Of course, type I is an immune system disease, and weight has nothing to do with it; unfortunately, even today our society is completely unaware that types I and II are completely different diseases with different underlying causes, so they ascribe stupid "conventional wisdom" to all cases.

In the forty-five years since I became a type I, I've had experiences at both ends of the spectrum. I had a coworker (20 yrs ago) who was diagnosed with Type II diabetes; he was overweight, had poor dietary habits, and was put on meds to stimulate insulin production and absorbtion. Knowing I was also diabetic, he told me his doctor told him if he'd lose weight and correct his diet, he'd be able to reduce his meds; and he asked what I thought of that. I explained to him the difference between types I and II, and told him I'd trade places with him in a heartbeat. He learned to eat properly, lost more pounds than I weigh, and was off meds within about three months. He thanked me for my advice, and apologised for the fact that the same method wouldn't work for me (he'd done his homework and learned about the TWO diseases).

About a year ago, I got a new job. No one there knew I was diabetic. One afternoon, I experienced a low blood sugar episode; I left my office, and wandered through the halls of the firm; a co-worker spoke to me, and apparently, my reply made no sense. He spoke to the head of HR and wondered if I was drunk. She tracked me down and after speaking to me briefly, asked if I was diabetic. I said yes; she asked if I had any glucose with me or in my office, which I did. She led me back to my office and made sure I took it, then called my wife. It turned out, her mother was diabetic, and she was familiar with the symptoms and behaviours of diabetics suffering low blood sugar events.

Short version: Don't despair! There are a lot of idiots out there, but there are a lot of good folks as well. And most are willing to be educated, if you feed it to them in small doses. Good luck!

Aunt Nanners
Aunt Nanners 2011-04-28 18:33:03 -0500 Report

In all honesty, can they say anything that's OK? If they say "oh I'm sorry" then their compassion becomes "pity". If they ask any questions it offends. I know I don't know what to say sometimes when people tell me about something they have, or are going through. I can't really relate if I've never experienced what they are going through and I don't know the correct response. What would the correct response be? I don't want to be one of those people who say "stuipd" things to others. I honestly have never been offended by peoples reaction and I don't know if I even remember any. I'm not defined by my diabetes or maybe I'm clueless that they are insensitive or are trying to make me feel bad.

Stephie Lynn
Stephie Lynn 2011-04-29 09:36:59 -0500 Report

Honestly, for myself, I welcome questions. To me, people asking questions that are leading to a greater understanding of the disease, shows that they do care and that it isn't a pity thing. I love the chance to educate people about Type 1 as long as people are willing to listen and not immediately throw out perceived stereotypes such as "you used to be fat, didn't you?" or "maybe if you didn't have such a sweet tooth…" It's the people who pity without trying to understand that I have issues with, lol!

Aunt Nanners
Aunt Nanners 2011-04-29 10:07:38 -0500 Report

I have never had anybody say things like that to me. And I have never considered them being compassionate as being pity. I don't get offended when people forget and bring me sweet treats. Just this morning a student that is leaving brought me a plate of cinnamon muffins that she got up at 6 am to make for me so they would still be warm. Her thoughtfulness is what I saw. I ate one and shared them with others and gave her a big hug. Everytime one of our professors goes abroad they always bring me back chocolate from Belgium or Switzerland. One actually brought me back a pill box from Paris since he helped contribute to my condition. I really got a laugh out of that. Love the pill box. Love that chocolate too:) I don't think they are being cruel, I honestly think they are thinking about me. We have a girl in our office that is Jahovah witness and when we have celebrations we still ask her to join in because it's easy to forget that she does not celebrate birthdays and such. I think, so what if my diabetes isn't on their minds, I am and I appreciate being there.

Stephie Lynn
Stephie Lynn 2011-04-29 10:19:32 -0500 Report

I agree with you completely. I love to bake and am constantly sharing treats and recipes with my coworkers. I don't mind at all when people bring me sweet treats or forget that I'm a diabetic and act accordingly. It's actually what I prefer, because I am being viewed and treated as "normal." Really all that I meant was that those who judge and comment according to stereotypes are those that I find annoying. I don't want my diabetes to be in the forefront of anybody's mind (especially mine, lol!) I don't mind if people say "I'm sorry" when they find out I'm a diabetic. I just don't like it when people make negative assumptions and act on them without bothering to check for accuracy. (Hope all that made sense!)

Aunt Nanners
Aunt Nanners 2011-04-29 10:58:05 -0500 Report

We are so on the same page girl. You make sense, but I swear I have never had anybody say stuff like that to me. I do know that most folks think it's only sugar that needs to be avoided, but really, until you became diabetic what did you think? Growing up it was referred to as sugar diabetes and I was never inclined to "learn" about it until I had to. But yes, I'm glad folks see Di (my name) not diabetes where I am concerned. I love to bake too. A student brought me some honey from his hives yesterday and mentioned that if I ever made backlava again he would take some of that as payment. Uh oh :0

GabbyPA 2011-04-28 20:21:37 -0500 Report

This is so true. Walk a mile in my shoes and the whole world looks different is so very true. As a kid, I experimented (no surprise there!!LOL) I had a friend who was blind. I asked him a bunch of questions, and then spent a whole weekend completely blinded. Day and night, and you know, it drove me more crazy at night. But I learned a lot from him and my experiment.

I know people will not experiment with having diabetes, but they could share a day with us and I think a lot would be amazed at how much we are "normal" folks. We just have a few more things to deal with daily.

tabby9146 2011-04-28 12:17:22 -0500 Report

so sorry you've been told that. I see where that is very hurtful. they don't understand that diabetes can keep you from losing weight, especially certain types of insulin, it's a metabolic disease we know, but they don't. I am skinny, but I was skinny all over when diagnosed, except for my tummy. My waist size was several inches what it is now, so I get the 'wow, you don't look like you have type 2 diabetes' that really does not bother me because before I was diagnosed, I had no idea that you could be skinny and have type2. I was only 30 lbs, overweight so I was shocked when I got the diagnosis. There are some in my family that really seem to resent the fact that i am at an ideal weight now but i have told them that I would gladly be 30 lbs. overweight again, any day, than have this. They act so jealous that I really hate that. I never would have taken care of myself ,and lost all the weight without the dianosis. I had tried off and on for years, and I would give up too easily. I guess I'd rather my family act like there is nothing wrong, like I don't have it, than to be too concerned, or try to tell me what to eat. Sometimnes they will say "have some more, it won't hurt you." that bothers me a lot.They don't get that it is progressive. They don't get that my A1C is not always going to be what it is now. I have days where I don't have much energy, but most of the time I'm feeling great. Someone on here told me i should not be on here, maybe since I was doing so well and controlling by diet and exercise. that really made me mad.
I have been fortunate to far, and I am grateful but i do take it seriously and I do know that I will eventually have to go back to pills.

Stephie Lynn
Stephie Lynn 2011-04-28 12:02:29 -0500 Report

I too have had my share of thoughtless comments made. My favorite was when a co-worker found out I had Diabetes and automatically exclaimed "Oh no! Will you have to have your legs amputated?!"

dietcherry 2011-04-28 19:29:03 -0500 Report

Did you offer to slap some sense in to her?

Stephie Lynn
Stephie Lynn 2011-04-29 09:58:35 -0500 Report

Nearly did so without even offering first! But after getting to know each other for awhile, she eventually became one of my closest friends and greatest advocate at work, life's funny that way I guess.

GabbyPA 2011-05-03 07:33:02 -0500 Report

That just shows you what a little education and compassion can do. Now you have an advocate instead of a nay-sayer. Good job on both sides of the issue there.

big momma 10
big momma 10 2011-04-27 19:54:07 -0500 Report

Aint that the truth Somoca ,It crackme up, every time I tell someone I am a congestive heart failure person, "they respone is Oh I am so sorry" and then my sister would tell everyone she introduce me to, this is my sister and she has heart problem and she had one of those tin thing in her chest, it would make me so mad, I kept saying you dont have to tell peoples about my health problem, she would keep doing it untill I told her off in a nice way(lol). it is really amazing how people respond. Just say thank you and smile.

DonHenault 2011-04-27 15:05:47 -0500 Report

Yea I have it is almost like we should be guilty for getting diabetes it are fault . On a funny note my co-workers do look after and try help. I will come some morning and find box of donuts or bag of candy all wait to see if I will eat them although temping I dont

Kysiall 2011-04-26 13:05:25 -0500 Report

That's why I never tell anyone I have diabetes. Not even my family knows.

0tina0 2011-04-26 15:36:02 -0500 Report

Not wanting to offend you sweety…but dang…if people didn't know I have diabetes then who would help me when I go low and I really don't think I could handle this burden alone. A few ignornant people can't make me not thankful for the many many good ones.

algretha 2011-05-02 19:18:18 -0500 Report

Agreed. so dangerous to not tell people. I tell everyone and yes sometimes I get dumb comments " were you a fat kid" ect. I take these opportunities to educate people. Please reconsider telling people for your own safety.

MarkieMarkie 2011-04-26 10:56:15 -0500 Report

I have dubbed diabetes as a silent disease for two reasons:

1) It comes about in a silent fashion and sometimes a person may not even realize they have it.

2) Once it has been discovered, because you may not appear to be sick, the rest of the world does not recognize your sickness.

The reality is you are sick and you have symptoms of sickness. Here is a list of mine:

a. High Sugar Levels – which I find hard to control even with diet, exercise and medication.
b. High Cholesterol – which affects my heart rate and in turn could cause a heart attack.
c. Kidney Damage – which can be controlled but not reversed.
d. Neuropathy – which hinders the nerve endings in my legs, leaves me with a feeling of numbness and excruciating pain to the touch.
e. Depression – as a result that I will never get better only progressively worse as time goes by.
f. Fatigue – severe fatigue – I never feel like I get enough rest.
g. Daily Low Spots – usually around 2:00 pm I start to sag or drag… by the time I get off of work at 4:00 pm my body is in a state of shutting down… I need to rejuvenate, but because I have other things to do, I can’t just sit down and rest… I have grandchildren that have to be taken care of… sometimes a bite of candy or something sweet helps, other times, I find myself in tears because my body is in such a demand for rest.
h. Anger – anger at the disease – the wanting to be able to do the things I used to do, like play baseball or jog around the block, or simply walk around the block without pain.
i. Enduring pain without recognition of pain – this is the hardest one of all for me. This is the greatest silence of all. You have the disease and even though those persons who know you know you have the disease, they do not recognize any of your pain. They are not helpful with relieving any of your stress nor do they call or ask you if there is anything that you may need when it could be something as simple as a nap. Can I watch the girls for you for 2 hours so that you can rest? Can I help you with anything at all to make your life less stressful? (The only two people that do this for me is my friend Donna and my fiancé Robert… I recognize in them both a great life of the living Jesus Christ). The silence and the avoidance of what you are truly going through is the greatest of pains. Just yesterday, Easter Sunday, my fiancé and I took my grandchildren to church. He went Easter Egg hunting with them because my legs were not going to allow me to. He also played baseball and as I watched him hit a homerun and run around the bases, I longed for the complete use of my legs again, when I too could hit a ball and run the bases (a favorite thing of mine when I was a child). And I realized because I can still walk it would never dawn on anyone that I might wish to run again, nor would they recognize the pain in my heart that I was not the one witnessing my little grandchildren so gladly participating in the Easter Egg hunt.
j. And so the list goes on – the list of silence – not recognizing when you truly need to eat and thinking if you say, “I need to eat” that you are being self indulgent instead of actually trying to keep from having diabetic hypoglycemia.
k. Saying – “I am tired” and truly meaning you feel as though you are about to drop and that you truly need to rest for a few moments.
l. Saying – “My head is spinning” – and truly meaning your head feels like it is floating and if you could just get quite for a few moments it would go away and you could resume your life.
m. Having someone bring you sweets for a present – knowing full well you are a diabetic and need to avoid sweets, or have someone tell you to “just sip” on a beverage that is loaded with sugar simply because there is nothing else to drink knowing full well sipping is not the issue. And I think the most painful thing I’ve experienced in the silence is being told one Thanksgiving, “We would like for you to come eat dinner; however, we don’t have any non-sweet deserts. If you want a desert, you might want to bring your own.”

These are just a few of the silences that come with Diabetes… the misconception that you are not actually sick because you don’t look sick is the most deadliest because those who are around you do not take your disease serious enough to recognize that you could die if your needs are not properly met.

This comes from an incert of a sermon I just finished yesterday.

cottoncandybaby 2011-04-27 20:44:07 -0500 Report

That is so very true, the fact that we do not look sickly on the outside, like someone in a wheelchair, however we can be worse off than the person who is wheelchair bound, like my ex-husband is. Also, because the symptoms are not visible to the naked eye : the fatigue, thirst, tingling pain, depression, even sexual symptoms, all happen internally rather than externally, so a lot of people do not understand. I must comment on the person who told you on Thanksgiving that they would like you to come for dinner, but couldn't be gracious enough to pick up a box of sugar-free cookies or even sugar-free jello, if nothing else, and only costs a few bucks, was definately someone I would not associate with anymore, unless he/she is a family member and you have no choice, as that person is an enabler of the disease and underneath really does not want you to be successful in managing your diabetes, there are just some people out there like that. It would have taken almost no effort to pick up a little sugar-free dessert at the grocery store when they were getting all the other goodies for the holiday. I would avoid him/her like the plague! There are too many wonderful and supportive people on this site to have to put up with people like that. . . .keep your chin up, you are doing great!

ShelliB 2011-04-29 09:57:42 -0500 Report

It can be bad when it comes from your own in-laws. My mother-in-law is always telling me that if I would just get up off my lazy butt and work out and watch what I eat I could cure it myself. However the woman doesn't see that I eat small meals and that I walk miles here at work at the library and that when the weather is nice I am out in the yard in the garden or just puttering in the yard. Nope all she sees is that I have put weight on and she feels I have done it all to myself. She even told my husband she thinks I like being this way so I can have special attention from him and other people. HA I would have given anything not to have gotten it but both my parents had it. She makes my life hard but I still smile and tell myself it isn't her fault she is ignorante to what is going on.

Somoca 2011-04-29 15:32:38 -0500 Report

I had to come BACK to the convo when I read this. ShelliB thats not a "darndest thing" issue thats a "come to Jesus meeting" issue. Have you ever heard of one of those?..lolol sometimes you have to put the religion on the shelf, handle your business and then pick it back up on the way Hang in there.

Bunny Cakes
Bunny Cakes 2011-04-27 20:21:03 -0500 Report

My mother in law to be keeps telling me "Well you've got to live a little" when I tell her I don't want sweets or some carb loaded item she cooked up. I can't seem to get it through her head that:
1. Eating that stuff will only lead to killing me later, especially since this is said a minimum of once a week.
and 2. Eating the "Diabetic diet" isn't all that bad.

Though I think I may have won her over on the eating thing a bit since Easter, I made a frozen pudding kiss dessert I found on her and told no one it was sugar free, everybody loved it, including her. It was only after she noticed me eating it too that she learned it was super indulgent and sugar free at the same time and only 1 or 2 carbs per kiss!

cottoncandybaby 2011-04-27 20:46:41 -0500 Report

Sounds like a great dessert, you should post it here! I love kisses, too, and admit that once in a while I can't stand the chocolate craving and will indulge in 2 or 3.

big momma 10
big momma 10 2011-04-27 19:58:06 -0500 Report

I hear you, some of these things happened to me as well. Sometime even well meaning family member will do it too, sound like I could have written this!. keep your head up

Jim Edwards
Jim Edwards 2011-04-26 10:25:44 -0500 Report

I hope you are happy Somoca! Having us dig up all these hurts, insults and resentments. Why couldn't you have left them buried? Great topic, thanks for bringing it up! Lots of good responses too!

Somoca 2011-04-26 13:12:01 -0500 Report

OMG…I wasn't trying to be hurtful..just wanted to know if someone else had the experience. Gosh, I won't submit anymore..Keeping mouth shut now.

roshy 2011-04-26 09:26:12 -0500 Report

i had a similar suituation happen to me a couple of years back!! i told a guy i was really into that i was an insulin dependant diabetic and he turned around and said
'god i didnt know that, you dont look like the type!'

I just said to him well we dont go round wearing labels!!! ! people shock me sometimes with their lack of sensitivity or their stupidness!!

cottoncandybaby 2011-04-27 20:51:57 -0500 Report

What did that guy think we are supposed to look like? LOL!! Aliens?? There are many ignorant people out there that just have no idea what they are talking about. I have been fortunate enough not to have that happen much, as most of the people I know either know someone or are themselves diabetic. The more educated people become, the better it will be, but will take a while.

pinder 2011-04-26 09:15:42 -0500 Report

I haven't had the experience yet but I am sure it will happen. I hope I choose to be amused and try to educate the person. If that does not work I will consider the source. It is uaually the uneducated and those whos lives have not been touched by diabetes.

jayabee52 2011-04-25 22:55:35 -0500 Report

By the title of this discussion I am reminded of the TV show by Art Linkletter in the '50s or '60s: "Kids say the darndest things." (May be too old for some of you) but I was a kid at the time and found it amusing.

susiemaeemily 2011-04-25 22:51:31 -0500 Report

Do not feel bad she probably did not know any better, if she did she would have tried to help you think of what you had eaten, or if you had any emotional stress lately, or if you were coming down with a cold. There are other things that could have contributed, but she probably does not have that much knowledge, but since she is someone in your life and has other members of the family with the same condition you could inform as much as possible.

Somoca 2011-04-25 23:11:50 -0500 Report

its interesting that you say that. people do not realize that such things effect diabetics. Stress is my nemesis and if I am having a bad day, I don't even bother to check my numbers because I stress out more when my reading is high..ughhh

Bunny Cakes
Bunny Cakes 2011-04-25 21:42:02 -0500 Report

My insensitive moment came a few days ago from one of the people who, up until that point, was one of my biggest supporters. I was talking to my soon to be mother in law about a random high BS I'd had the night before and trying to puzzle out why it happened so I could avoid whatever it was in the future.

She accused me of being obsessed and said I should just give up on ever having a normal blood sugar. She knows I've only been diagnosed for about six months now and that I'm still learning and she knows where uncontrolled diabetes leads as her mother and brother are both suffering bad side effects from not caring to control theirs.

I'm still hurt over it, I know I shouldn't be, it's not her disease to deal with but I've never been told to "just give it up" before by anyone and especially not by someone I considered more of a mother than my birth mom. I don't want to give up but I'm already feeling the support slipping this early and it scares me.

pinder 2011-04-26 09:06:00 -0500 Report

Could you future Mother in Law possibily have been having a bad day and not relise you needed support at the time. When someting like this happends again contact the web support group. I to sometime don't feel I get the support I need from family members, but then I think this is my life I will work hard to control and cope dispite every one. I also struggle with the ups and downs of BS and I have been dignosed for 2 months. I keep a daily diary that i refer to when my BS is high. It helps. Keep on keeping on, and you will prevale. We are all here for you.

Bunny Cakes
Bunny Cakes 2011-04-26 10:19:48 -0500 Report

No she's the type of person that expects things to go away so even though this still feels new for me she's over it and doesn't want to hear about it anymore. I guess she expected it to just go away or something, she may also be a little miffed that I no longer cook a lot of the things I used to because I can't eat them anymore and I won't eat much of what she cooks because it's mostly high carb/sugar city.

She starting to become a bad influence and doing the "One time eating something bad won't kill you." thing but when it's for almost every meal or at least every other day those "one times things" add up and she doesn't want to understand that.

I'm going to do it anyway, it just hurt because she is one of the people I'm closest to and I didn't expect her to be that way with this because she should know it doesn't just go away.

I also keep a journal to watch my numbers and how things affect me, still not sure why the numbers got so high that night, for now I'm chalking it up to either pain (I'd hurt my back the day before) or complete randomness.

big momma 10
big momma 10 2011-04-27 20:03:16 -0500 Report

Dont let her keep to you, we have all been though this some time or another. Ingore her if you cant talk to her. same your time and energy.

cottoncandybaby 2011-04-27 20:58:57 -0500 Report

I agree, don't let her pull you down! Sounds like you are doing great with your daily charting, I do that some days, but not always good about doing it everyday. Just don't talk about it with her anymore, just keep doing your b/s checks and staying the course. There may be some underlying resentment or jealousy going on that she just won't admit to.

0tina0 2011-04-25 20:32:29 -0500 Report

The absolute worst comment was from an older lady that used to be my patient at a Dr.'s office where I worked… she said I should be ashamed of myself getting diabetes … since I was a nurse I shoulda known better… I said…'Ya…I'm really ashamed…I shouldn't have let them take out my cancerous pancreas' and laughed all the way home!

Mimiewal 2011-04-25 20:16:18 -0500 Report

& you know who are the worst at the core… meaning well family members… i have a niece who thinks she is an expert..duh dummie i read the same books u did, not only that i had to take diabetes educational courses…but of course someone who doesnt have it can perfectly explain what u need to do

RAYT721 2011-04-25 18:04:14 -0500 Report

A story??? :) Some people are proof that not all nuts are in cans. Funny how people with zero knowledge of diabetes are experts. I dropped 30 pounds and guess what… still diabetic. Just remember that it's hard to have a battle of wits with an unarmed person. There's noplace like home … welcome home!

maggiejay 2011-04-25 16:13:24 -0500 Report

another one is well since your a diabetic we knew you wouldn,t want any weather it is desert or a beverage i would at least like to turn it down myself

dietcherry 2011-04-25 15:47:03 -0500 Report

The most insensitive remark I get is when I tell people and they exclaim, "You take SHOTS?! How do you do that-I couldnt!" I explain that the alternative is death so the decision to stick a needle in my flesh is quite easy in light of that.
My family still gets my highs and lows confused, even after 31 years! I'll say my BS is low and one of them inevitably asks if I have my insulin with me. Much eye-rolling ensues from me. Still gotta love em!!!! :)

roshy 2011-04-26 09:30:24 -0500 Report

ahh that really gets on my tits iswell!!! 'How can you take shots, id rather die'
well maybe you should go off and die somewhere with that attitude!!

dietcherry 2011-04-26 10:04:35 -0500 Report

hahaha Roshy you know I love pinching your Irish slang but Im not sure I can repeat this one! lolololol

roshy 2011-04-28 17:00:39 -0500 Report

wmahahahaha!! u can have that one for free diet cherry!! if someone was gettin on your tits it basicly means the are pi**ing you off!!!

dietcherry 2011-05-02 20:09:29 -0500 Report

So is that gender-specific or do guys use the expression too? Or do they have their own body part that gets got on? LMAO

0tina0 2011-04-25 20:27:05 -0500 Report

OMG!!! This is way too funny…The other day at work I was low…I had a co-worker panic…wanting to give me insulin, or the other shot…she couldnt decide which… love her…but told her to get as far away as she could! When I was finally up to about 100 and not shaking I couldn't quit laughing at her…she just didn't understand. And ya…I really prefer shots to death, so much less paperwork for the funeral people…

dietcherry 2011-04-25 21:11:31 -0500 Report

teeheehee… ;)

cavie2 2011-04-26 21:22:49 -0500 Report

God it is so refreshing coming on to this site you all make me laugh out loud with your hilarious comments. This world is a miserable place but diabetes connect certainly makes up for it. May the good Lord Bless you all.

Jim Edwards
Jim Edwards 2011-04-25 14:27:58 -0500 Report

The only 2 people i hear stupid or inconsiderate comments from are my wife and my brother. If I go totally vegan, I could lose 100 pounds and no longer be diabetic. Little do they know the struggles I face each day making as healthy of choices as I can. At times I feel as if I am being judged. Maybe I can do better and get better. Sadly, I do not think their insensitivity can be healed.

roshy 2011-04-28 17:02:59 -0500 Report

haha!! at least they are working for a cure for diabetes, theyll never find a cure for peoples stupididy!! haha i think i spelt that wrong!!

Somoca 2011-04-25 14:33:51 -0500 Report

Sorry to hear about that Jim. Sometimes we have to ignore family just like we ignore strangers who claim to know us. But it hurts when "family" does because they are suppose to know us.

pkwillhoite 2011-04-25 15:38:49 -0500 Report

I so agree with both of you… Its hard when strangers say things like that but it really hurts a lot more when family says mean and hurtfull things…

MrsCDogg 2011-04-25 10:50:34 -0500 Report

So many times I've had people tell me what I should eat. Everyone knows just exactly how I should take care of myself. I used to be in the healthcare field for many years. The most hurtful thing that anyone has said to me was a nurse I worked with. I was talking with him about finding out that I was a diabetic and what I had learned about how to take care of it. He thought he was "putting me in my place" so he ended the conversation by saying "Yea I know all about it. You want a cookie?" He is still a friend but I look at him completely differently now. I'm very selective about who I share any information with now.

cottoncandybaby 2011-04-27 21:11:28 -0500 Report

That was very insensitive of him, but it showed you how people sometimes have a different and dark side to them that you normally may not see, but it is still there underneath.

Somoca 2011-04-25 12:07:18 -0500 Report

I know what you mean. I am selective about who I tell and my MED ID bracelet looks like a regular bracelet so it doesn't draw any attention so I do not have to answer any questions unless someone looks at the bracelet for a long time. sometimes you give them the , "I can't believe you said that" look. gotta shake your head.

cherokee925 2011-04-24 19:41:09 -0500 Report

It is very hard for people to under the life of a diabetic my family does not understand it in their mind if you take medication you should still be able to eat whatever you want. There are 5 of us and myself and one of brothers has diabetes both of us are type 2 and when we have family dinners the meals are not diabetic friendly and when I ask for them to have something I am told well I am not diabetic I guess you will have to bring your own food. It is sad when your own family does not want to understand the disease so no wonder strangers act that way.

Incmeister 2011-04-27 21:28:45 -0500 Report

sorry to hear that. My mom is great, looking at carbs, sugars, etc. for me. Easter dinner was a mix of pork and veggies along with other stuff I didn't want to eat but that was my choice.

cherokee925 2011-04-28 07:03:14 -0500 Report

It is sad when you really do not have your families support but what can I do except stick my eating habits so I can remain healthy.

JenS12 2011-04-25 16:48:58 -0500 Report

That is sad. We need and can use all the support we can get and who else to count on more for that than our own families. They couldve at least made one dish at minimum to help you a little. I hope they at least offered diet pop. Recently for my nephews bday party, there were 2 people diabetic there- me and my sisters father in law whos been diabetic for years. They didnt have any diabetic food either, but they did offer mostly if not all diet pop. It was Super Chill brand (Jewel sells it). Ive never had it before then and I must say, it didnt taste anything like diet pop. It was quite tasty! My favorite happens to be Pepsi One, but that tastes very good. Just thought Id share that helpful hint to all the diet pop likers.

cherokee925 2011-04-25 16:56:08 -0500 Report

Sad to say no diet pop either I was on my own with water and a salad that had fighting lunch meat in it I had to pick it out. Hopeful for the next family dinner together someone will at least have diet pop or diet tea.

theladyiscrazy 2011-04-25 14:07:48 -0500 Report

You know I have always worked with food when I have people over. I guess when there are life threatening food allergies, you become more sensitive to the nutritional needs of others (and their limitations). To me, diabetes is the same.

Incmeister 2011-04-27 21:30:54 -0500 Report

Yes indeed! I have beef, lamb, shellfish, and other food allergies that could literally kill me so I am aware of the complications of all that - some people forget to ask since they don't have an issue and some are rude. Hope most fall into the first category not the second.

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