What's the worst thing that could happen to you and what is the best thing?

rentintin
By rentintin Latest Reply 2011-04-21 15:00:47 -0500
Started 2011-04-19 08:40:02 -0500

What can you do to avoid the first and what can you do to bring about the second. Changes you can make and habits to start or stop. What do I need to change in my life? What do I have the power to do something abou?


25 replies

april404
april404 2011-04-21 15:00:47 -0500 Report

I guess the worst thing could happen to me right now is to die before the rest of my children are grown and able to take care of themselves. So I try to do all what the Dr.s say, and try sticking with this diet thing which is killing me softly, but I know what I must do. Im right at 7 so when I go back in 3 weeks hopefully the number will go down. The best thing that could happen to me is to hit the lottery and be able to afford to travel and do things for myself and my family in a financial sense. Being on disability takes some getting use to this income once a month thing is not easy for me—Im so used to working and making a good income but here I am. So hitting the lottery would definately be a good thing

jayabee52
jayabee52 2011-04-20 12:00:19 -0500 Report

For me the worst thing which could happen to me is to lose my mind —- and be aware of the loss. I don't think I'd mind so much if I would be unaware of losing my mind like in Alzheimers, but to be imprisoned in my own mind with out knowing how to get out would be devastating to me

tabby9146
tabby9146 2011-04-20 17:39:39 -0500 Report

they say my mother in law has early alzheimer's. She repeats so much in one conversation, she is very forgetful, and she is nervous lots of times. It got noticeable two or three years ago and she is only 64. her father died from it. I worry my husband is at increased risk. She has been on Aricept which did not help at all, and a patch which is not helping it seems to me.

Dixiemom
Dixiemom 2011-04-20 11:48:13 -0500 Report

The worst that could happen is for me to be totally unable to care for myself.This neuropathy limits my mobility, I do not drive anymore so am dependent on others. I do cook and can do some cleaning but cannot do heavy lifting or cleaning. I also cannot garden like before but I do container gardening which nkeeps me happy. By keeping active I am stalling the evident.The best thing would be to walk without a walker and no falling. How to achieve this I don't know. I'm just thankful I can get around with the walker and wheel chair.

kitcarson
kitcarson 2011-04-20 11:15:58 -0500 Report

for me would be the worst losing my sight the best i quit smoking and got a reality check about my life and body.

clj01
clj01 2011-04-20 11:05:42 -0500 Report

The worst thing that could happen to me is that I won't live to see my grandchildren grow up. The best is to live to see many great-grandchildren.

1cookie :)
1cookie :) 2011-04-20 11:00:04 -0500 Report

I have been injured for the 3rd time @ work for my neck and the first time for my back..The worst thing would be the need neck fusion and not be able to do my job again..I pay all the bills and live alone.. I would have NO HELP with all the daily chores, bills or recoup…I have purchased dvd's geared for my profession to reduce future injuries…I wish someone would have informed me about this in 2008..when my last injury occured..I am greatful that physical therapy has brought more knowledge for personal wellbeing.

What I need to change in my life..is to downsize my possesions and sell my home..I now see how difficult it would be to continue on my present course and be able to survive if/when I stop working..or become unable to work..if/when injured again.

The above mentioned is all the power I feel I have to change…I place the rest in GOD's hands and hope for the best…I see what I can NOT change..Social Security changes for those under 55…I am 50..to change my benifts because of 5yrs will not give me a chance to prepare for the benfit changes that WILL be set forth. WE/I am at the end of the BOOMERS..the sparks at that point and any changes in Medicare benifits are out of my control…so I pray I go into Gods hands before I have to deal with all that.

Graylin Bee
Graylin Bee 2011-04-20 10:38:59 -0500 Report

The worst thing that could happen to me is if I would stop being sensitive to others because of what I was dealing with.
The best thing is I would remember there is a reason for what happens to me.
Last year when I was in so much pain and scared I kept reminding myself of those two things. I met some amazing people during that time.
I am working on being more assertive in showing my care and concern to others. Assertive in a positive way not bossy or agressive. I need to listen more closely to others. So that I can cheer with them when a baby step of success happens in their life, Those seemingly tiny baby steps are often really the major mile stones in their life. Listening and responding during those self doubing moments is just as important. Encouragement is really vital for both the good and the bad times.
At work the approach is easier, if I miiss the mark of helping by saying or doing the wrong thing with someone with Alzheimer's or another dementia in a short time they will forget and I can try a new approach in a few minutes. Since I dislike failure it really isn't a failure. With people without memory problems this isn't so easy. I am afrid I will get it wrong and they will shut me out. I have the power to change my sense of failure. I need to decide failure is not attempting.

Gabby
GabbyPA 2011-04-20 10:47:12 -0500 Report

This is a wonderful goal and I am so glad you shared it. So many of us focus so much on our issues, we forget what others are going through, even in our own families.

0tina0
0tina0 2011-04-19 22:04:01 -0500 Report

The worst thing that could happen to me is to die and my youngest grandbabies not remember me. I am not afraid to go but I am afraid they won't remember how very much I adore them. I have started letters to each of my 3 sons and their sons (6 grandsons)…and I will update them as long as I am around. …and of course the best things that have happened in my life are my boys and their families…and my husband Bobby…I am truly blessed. My joys outweigh my problems…

1cookie :)
1cookie :) 2011-04-20 11:03:34 -0500 Report

You are blessed and the preporations you set forth now will carrry on..Photos and things to show them will be nice..I made a scrapbook for my grand Daughter with my grandparents pictures and some medical unformation..to help if any issues happen for family history..I applaude your efforts.

June Tademy
June Tademy 2011-04-19 21:30:51 -0500 Report

The worst thing that could happen to me is to loose this fight with the big "D" through my stupidity and ignorance. The best thing to happen would be to take less meds ( I am working on that:)

JACKIEROTHGEB08
JACKIEROTHGEB08 2011-04-19 14:28:48 -0500 Report

OK HERE I GO … AND PLEASE FORGIVE ME FOR TYPING WITH ALL CAPITAL LETTERS …ITS EASIER FOR ME TO SEE AS I AM LOSING MY SIGHT TO MACULAR DEGENERATION .[.SO I'M NOT YELLING JUST WANTED YOU TO KNOW] BUT ANYWAY I ALSO HAD A LIGHT STROKE A FEW MONTHS AGO AND NOW MY HEARING IS GOING SO THEY SAY I NEED HEARING AIDS BUT CANT FIND HELP TO GET THEM…BUT MY BIGGEST FEAR IS MY BRAIN ANURSEYM BUSTING AND UNFORTUNATLEY I DONT FEEL I CAN DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT … AND THE BEST THING I FEEL THAT COULD HAPPEN IS JUST TO WAKE UP BREATHING EVERYDAY. AND BEING HERE ON THIS ..EVERY NOW AND THEN …THEN I DONT FEEL MY PROBLEMS ARE SO BAD …I MEAN I AM STILL HERE …AND EVERYONCE IN A WHILE EVERYONE HERE MAKES ME SMILE AND LAUGH OR JUST SAY ..AWWW… … BUT I NEED THOSE SMILES … MAKES ME FEEL BETTER … LOVE YA ALL … I DO FEEL LIKE IM GETTING CLOSER TO ALL YOU .

Flustrated
Flustrated 2011-04-19 14:07:29 -0500 Report

You have one special lady. Sometimes I get angry because I have to use hearing aids. But I wouldn't be without them.

MewElla
MewElla 2011-04-19 08:54:31 -0500 Report

I saw first hand, all the problems my late husband had, with his diabetes. I do not want to go thrugh any of those serious problems. I agree with Gabby, would hate to lose my eyesight.independence. This is one fight no one can do for me. It is all up to me. Priority to me to watch carefully and test my foods, keep acute journal of food intake, weight, test #'s of bg, steps walked ea day. It is the combination of things I do daily that keeps me diet/exercise controlled, no medications taken.

Yasmina
Yasmina 2011-04-19 09:23:06 -0500 Report

My family has a history of diabetes on both sides of my family. My mother's side has more than my father's does, but there were different results. My father's dad had kidney failure and kidney disease, but not the diabetes. My grandmother on his side had cancer of the bone first, then the heart problems and then the diabetes.
When it comes to my mother's side there were plenty of instances of diabetes, from third cousins to my great grandma. My aunt {mom's sister} is a severe diabetic ranging from 49 to 400 and hard to control even though she is watched extremely on her diet in the nursing home and even before that.
One of my third cousins fell asleep with a lit cigarette and died in the fire because his sugars were uncontroled and very high. My aunt has eye problems where she sees only about half of what she looks at because she sees black holes in her line of vision. I had another third cousin that had such high sugars that she was considered mentaly unstable for several months until they could control them. But she never was the same and eventually she committed suicide.
I have severe neuropathy in my feet to the point of not having enough feeling 100% of the time. It comes and goes. I believe in having energy work done and that has helped me to a degree. I can now feel if there is so much as a peice of kitty litter under my foot, but not on the sides or by my toes.
If I get a blister, I might not feel it right away…that's how I ended up with surgery on my left foot from a blister from five years ago which caused a callous on the side of my foot, then became infected under the callous and ended up in surgery this last December.
It isn't much fun, and I can only hope and pray that by watching myself and trying my best to behave, that I will not get into any more problems. I had an infected callous on my big toe two years ago that had to have the bottom sliced off.
So watching what you eat, exercise, drink, stress…anything that can affect your sugars is important. I don't want to end up blind, in a wheelchair, or metally deficient.
So I can fully understand why there would be fear of what diabetes can do. So more power to those that can control the disease and keep their health problems to a minimum.

Gabby
GabbyPA 2011-04-19 08:44:28 -0500 Report

The worst thing for me would be the loss of my independence via loss of feet or eyes. What is the best thing? Finding a way to get me off my meds.

So I suppose my efforts would be two fold, as I would do the same to prevent the one and bring about the other. I have to limit my carb intake drastically, I have to log, and I have to exercise. That is what power I have to do things.