TROUBLE in the deparment store.

Johnben or JB.
By Johnben or JB. Latest Reply 2011-06-25 11:22:04 -0500
Started 2011-04-13 16:24:55 -0500

Trouble in the department store.

There we went to a large department store to shop for some things. But not for what happened next.
When taking a shirt to the cash register the lady said, "Did I see you in the newspaper? My husband has diabetes for some time, can you inform us how to go for the medal for long time having diabetes?" so I told her where to write to, but then a fellow behind us blurted out " Don't you people make much of this sugar problem you have? Heck all you have to do is watch that you don't use sugar in your coffee and you will be fine! How about cancer eh? Should you not be ashamed to make so much out of nothing?" He almost shouted this loudly and it was a kind of embarrasshing to run into this person. Rather than having an argument with the man we walked away shaking our head over so much stupidity. Do you feel that we did the right thing?

JB.


65 replies

rjtexas
rjtexas 2011-04-18 13:03:55 -0500 Report

Good for you! Some people will learn thru life experiences then will think back on this day and hopefully will feel remorse for what they said and thought.

runthe
runthe 2011-04-16 21:57:21 -0500 Report

You did the right thing by walking away. That man was ignorant to the fact. I try to ignore people like that.

nanaellen
nanaellen 2011-04-16 18:32:59 -0500 Report

All I can say is what goes around comes around and I'm not quite sure I would have handled it as gracefully as you did!! I PROBABLY would have said don't get too close you might catch it!!!! LOL Seriously you absolutely did the right thing!!

digitaldoorbell
digitaldoorbell 2011-04-16 10:33:43 -0500 Report

Of course you did. Diabetes can be treated. Unparalleled stupidity cannot. You were gracious and did not reduce yourself to his level. Feel good about yourself.

tabby9146
tabby9146 2011-04-15 20:37:17 -0500 Report

yes you did the right thing. That man is was totally ignorant and way out of line. Gosh I got angry reading it. I would have walked away too most likely.

kittenpurr1
kittenpurr1 2011-04-15 18:16:23 -0500 Report

You did the right thing. Trying to reason with a person in this mindset- would only add to emotion, and getting upset can cause a spike in your sugar. We have to ignore people at times, and at times, it's very hard to do that!

1cookie :)
1cookie :) 2011-04-15 18:04:18 -0500 Report

I know you did the right thing…you did unto others and gave him a good example of how he should have behaved..Is your other cheek sore ;o)

Armourer
Armourer 2011-04-15 15:43:24 -0500 Report

You did right in your actions and how you controlled the situation. But…some days when I'm in that certain state of mind I could easily debase myself and reply saying things I would later regret. You did the right thing, and made a louder statement by not saying a thing.

melissa5786
melissa5786 2011-04-15 08:17:08 -0500 Report

It makes me sad and a little sick that people are truly like this. Someone who shouts out things like that is obviously not educated on it and I'd do the same thing you did and walk away. It's not worth the fight.

As diabetics we do everything we can to keep this CHRONIC disease at bay.

It reminds me of the time when I first went back to work and everyone was asking my questions about what had happened to me and my diabetes. One ignorant girl kind of backed away from me and asked if she could "catch it like someone gets AIDS." I was still new to this life and I was so hurt. I didn't say anything to her, just walked away, but our working relationship was never the same again.

You did the right thing. Feeding words to that person would have just made it escalate.

pixsidust
pixsidust 2011-04-15 00:46:46 -0500 Report

People who bark out stuff like that are not interested in listening just being heard. You could have talked and it would have gone no where because of his perception of reality. Walking away was the dignified and gracious thing to do. His only interest was to shut you up. Walking away shut him up

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-04-14 18:00:06 -0500 Report

Hey JB,

I am saddened to read your story. It is an example of how insentitive people can be, and how they feel they have a right to spout their opinion regardless of whether it is wanted or not, and regardless of how it might affect the people around you. I personally think you did the right thing. We can't raiise the consciousness of, or educate, someone who is only interested in being heard. Sometimes it is best to just walk away from playground bullies rather than engaging them. You have much better ways to use your positive energy.

But I am sitting here shaking my head, just as you did. As my mom used to say, "if that don't beat all!"

Wishing you happier shopping...

Gary

Tigereyze209
Tigereyze209 2011-04-14 13:29:49 -0500 Report

A persons ignorance is a very personal thing, and feeding into it only brings you down to their level. In my humble opinion, you did the right thing letting him continue wandering aimlessly in his own little private world.

Pynetree
Pynetree 2011-04-14 12:00:00 -0500 Report

Absolutely - You did the right thing in this situation. "A little knowledge is a dangerous thing" applies here. LOL!

MewElla
MewElla 2011-04-14 08:17:19 -0500 Report

Certainly, you did the right thing. To respond to someone, who is obviously upset will only add fuel to the fire. It just goes to show you how little most folks know about diabetes, so guess it is up to us to keep educating ourselves, getting healthier and showing all of them that we can take control. It is a everyday job, but one that can be worked on each day.

Graylin Bee
Graylin Bee 2011-04-14 00:12:54 -0500 Report

Irratating comment to say the least, but walking away was the right thing to do. As others have said maybe he or someone he knows has cancer. One of my sisters has said to me a few times, "Well at least it's not cancer." when I've talked to her about Diabetes. Our Dad had colon cancer, and a good friend of hers was diagnosed with cancer aout the same time I found out I have Diabetes. Her friend has had alot more complications from the cancer than I have had from Diabetes so far. However another of her friends has Diabees and is starting to have complications from it. Since her friend has been telling her about the Diabetes related problems, my sister hasn't made her at least it's not cancer comment to me. She has been asking me lots more questions about diabetes.

rentintin
rentintin 2011-04-13 23:17:45 -0500 Report

I think you handled the situation very well . Maybe the poor guy had just lost a wife ,mother,sister, child to the disease. Who knows ? But diabetes is equally devastating in its own way Ive lost a sister and brother to diabetic complications and I also have been diagnosed with a very bad cancer so I know both sides and neither one is fun—but doable with the grace of God.

Pynetree
Pynetree 2011-04-13 22:43:37 -0500 Report

So JB, inquirering minds want to know…was this in a Walmart??

Johnben or JB.
Johnben or JB. 2011-04-14 11:50:25 -0500 Report

No, Sears.

JB.

Pynetree
Pynetree 2011-04-14 12:47:07 -0500 Report

LOL…he just seemed like a Walmart kind of guy! ; )

AuntieM234
AuntieM234 2011-06-25 06:21:58 -0500 Report

Oh no Pyne! I love Walmart and I would never be so insensitive! Notice I'm not writing in caps, so I'm not yelling. I know the type, though! ;-) lol — I've not posted on this topic, because I agree with everyone, and have nothing to add. ;-) Mara

Gabby
GabbyPA 2011-04-15 05:49:16 -0500 Report

Now that Sears is just a glorified Kmart, I suppose it's fair. But stupid shops every where and sometimes the more money stupid has, the worse they behave.

VickieF
VickieF 2011-04-13 22:43:22 -0500 Report

JB, I certianly wish and Hope that I find your grace in handleing myself in many things. I bow my head nd thank God for Gentlemen like you.

squog master
squog master 2011-04-13 21:14:30 -0500 Report

Yes you did. Does this guy have a handicapped parking tag? Oh yeah! Stupidity is not a handicap.

jayabee52
jayabee52 2011-04-14 03:56:09 -0500 Report

Oh yes he is handicapped! But those plates/placards are for the physically handicapped, not intelectual, or mental or social handicaps.

Pynetree
Pynetree 2011-04-13 22:47:07 -0500 Report

Well, Stupidity IS a handicap…but you can't qualify for a parking placquard or Handicapped plates, in most states…LOL!

RAYT721
RAYT721 2011-04-13 20:12:12 -0500 Report

It's hard to have a battle of wits with an unarmed person. Let's face it… people believe they are experts in everything. Everyone has an opinion on how everyone ELSE should run their lives, the causes and cures of everything from diabetes to the national debt, experts in all kinds of fields except in how to treat others with respect. These same people are more screwed up than we are. Walking away and shaking your head was the best thing you could do. It's really hard to educate people who know everything.

AuntieM234
AuntieM234 2011-06-25 06:33:04 -0500 Report

I'm really impressed with all the eloquence that's happening in this discussion! Right on, gang! That includes everyone, of course. I love reading the remarks and knowing we're all on the same page! ;-) Mara

Gabby
GabbyPA 2011-04-13 19:47:01 -0500 Report

Yes, there would be no good outcome with someone like that. Not in a way that he was already arguing before you started. Walking away is sometimes the hardest thing to do, and I commend you for not starting a scene that would have been bad for everyone.

gorrilla
gorrilla 2011-04-13 17:54:31 -0500 Report

Ron White's buddy,"Larry the Cable Guy", had another saying that's likely applicable here. "You can't fix stupid!" While the other party was dealing out of ignorance, and possibly their own pain, that doesn't excuse them. As for your handling it, I commend you for not striking back. It wouldn't have helped, either of you. Advising them to get some education would probably been a waste of breathe, but that's what they really need. Even lot's of folks that have the disease are labouring under mis-information and incorrect assumptions, look at the range of questions on this site! That's one of the best things about the site, it puts lots more educated answers out there. More(correct) info is always helpful.

jayabee52
jayabee52 2011-04-13 17:17:47 -0500 Report

I agree with Donna and Tina. You can't fix stupid! There's a saying: "It's hard to have a battle of wits with an unarmed man." —— You did the right thing IMO, JB.

Perhaps he was also hurting over someone he was losing or had lost to cancer.

To continue a fight he had picked would not have been helpful to either the un named man or to you, jb.

donna62M
donna62M 2011-04-13 19:06:25 -0500 Report

you are more compationate then I am…I cant stand stupidity…when did commonsense go out of fashion I want to know…and maybe that is something I have to work on…being more tollerant.

dietcherry
dietcherry 2011-04-13 22:16:26 -0500 Report

I think it went out with the advent of reality TV! teehee Just sayin… ;)

AuntieM234
AuntieM234 2011-06-25 06:46:52 -0500 Report

I know what you mean, Cherry, but (Lord help me) I enjoy most reality TV. [Not the real housewives. Not Paris Hilton, not the Kardashians or anything in that vein.] ;-) I don't mind stating that its my guilty pleasure, because I know no one here will hold it against me. ;-) And, yes Cherry, teehee! ;-)

dietcherry
dietcherry 2011-06-25 10:52:10 -0500 Report

Mara I love Reality TV too!
But instead of serving as a lesson in What Not To Ever Do, Say, or Wear, it is instead spurring people on and on to new heights of stupidity! teehee

Gimpalong
Gimpalong 2011-04-16 01:51:06 -0500 Report

AMEN! I totally agree with you. I know that my parents would have reminded me that I'm not too old to receive a "attention getter" on my backside. I just can't understand people not having common sense, or having good manners. No one needs to have to tolerate such rudeness. Have you noticed how many rude people cannot talk without cussing and raising their voices? I think that you did the right thing by walking away and shaking your head. By doing so, you defused the situation. The man didn't have an avenue left for getting the attention he so wanted. Have a wonderful weekend. Good luck. Also good luck for trying to educate others about diabetes.

jayabee52
jayabee52 2011-04-13 19:21:26 -0500 Report

I thought that I was using common sense when I picked up that clue from what he said about cancer.

Of course I had the luxury of being able to read and think about what he said. Had I been in JB's shoes, I might not have picked up on it until after I walked away and had time to think about it.

And I have trouble being tolerant at times too. But my intolerances may differ from yours, Donna!

dietcherry
dietcherry 2011-04-13 17:13:32 -0500 Report

Hey JB! While I do agree with the ladies that alot of the statements made by non-diabetics are real eye-rollers, sometimes we can use these situations as opportunities to spread knowledge about D. Oftentimes, as this gentleman proved, they really have no clue about what we deal with on a daily basis. I like to tell them what its like to walk a day in our shoes (they would stumble in our footsteps) and if they have any conscience, they usually apologize and thank me for the heads up! Keep it real with 'em, JB!!

AuntieM234
AuntieM234 2011-06-25 07:01:13 -0500 Report

I understand what you're saying DC and I agree with you, but it would cost me too much in pain to engage. If I were to give in and respond to such nonsense, I would pay for it with pain for hours afterward. But hey, I'm going to be 70 in six months. I'm not very resilient these days … I'm just sayin' … ;-) Mara teehee

0tina0
0tina0 2011-04-13 17:21:16 -0500 Report

I can remember when I had that kind of energy to correct stupid people…but the older I get the less important it seems. Still I do get mad and tell off the people in my family that bathe in stupidness…(is that even a word?) O and by the way DC your picture is so pretty…

donna62M
donna62M 2011-04-13 16:57:30 -0500 Report

absolutely! …I agree with 0tina0…ignorance cant be fixed…even though we would like to wack them upside of the head and tell them not to comment on something they know nothing about.

0tina0
0tina0 2011-04-13 16:49:04 -0500 Report

You absolutely did the right thing…because no matter what you said to this jerk he would have had an equally ignornant statement to make. Ron White, the comedian, says "You can't fix Stupid"!

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