Just joined DC

By EmeraldSea Latest Reply 2011-04-11 20:14:11 -0500
Started 2011-03-29 18:28:00 -0500

Just joined DC. I think more out of just pure frustration. Can't get sugar in control. I think I've been doing the "right things" ie; diet, exercise and medication. Still out of control.

I hope I can can some useful tips that maybe I'm not currently doing.

Last but not least… I wish my husband would educate himself on the subject. At dinner last night he decided he was going to and did order a banana split, how inconsiderate I thought. Oh I guess it's about me, not him.

44 replies

WendyFR 2011-04-11 20:14:11 -0500 Report

EmeraldSea you may want to get with your doctor and tell him/her your frustration. Let your doc know that you are doing everything correct diet, exercise and taking your medication. It maybe your taking the wrong dosage or type of medication. Even the times you eat, exercise and take your medication can affect your BS. and emotions, being frustrated, stressing can rise your BS as well.
Oh, about your husband…FYI, I was in a relationship and he use to eat all kinds of junk in front of me as well. He didn't stop and don't think they will unless they have to. Well, I can't speak for your husband. Generally, it's going to happen and relatives, friends, etc… will continue to eat whatever they want.

Mimi Betty
Mimi Betty 2011-04-01 16:05:22 -0500 Report

I am in that same place. I find it hard to keep it going and when I think I do weel it seems like my A1C is always up.

Hopieland 2011-04-02 12:20:56 -0500 Report

What do you need help with the most? Just when I'm thinking I'm doing well I find our I'm not. Goes with the territory, I guess. It's a battle, but one worthy fighting.

poppey 2011-04-02 21:17:19 -0500 Report

I like my sweets but now that i cant have them as much, Ive noticed that sometimes they are just to sweet. And yes its a battle but it is worth it. Having it form time to time is ok. stealing a bit works for me too.

Graylin Bee
Graylin Bee 2011-03-31 08:48:15 -0500 Report

Hi and welcome to DC. When my husband eats a food that I shouldn't eat I'll steal a bite. That way I get a taste without the carb reaction to my BG. Often I discover that the food doesn't taste as good as I thought it would. Then there are the times I eat what he can't, sweet revenge. : )

GabbyPA 2011-04-02 06:40:18 -0500 Report

I had that happen to me. We have cut out fast food almost 100% now (yeah!! and lot of work) But a few months ago I had my favorite burger (what used to be) and it was so unsatisfying...thank goodness. Certainly makes it easier to fore-go the food traps.

poppey 2011-03-30 22:44:23 -0500 Report

I hear you I was like that still am in a way. #s all over the place. But with the help of my family and DR. Im geting the hang of this. I know its hard. I WAS a sweet eater. But now I've learned to cut down a great deal. I still have a snack but not like I use to. Whats worked for me is to cut down on everything. Not eating as much, watching my carb intake, I only treat myself now if my #s are good. The way my DR. wants them, or lower. If my husband sees I'm geting a snack he will ask what are your #s like, and if there to his liking I can have my snack. Please let your husband know you need you need his support if your going to beat this thing. My husband is not realy educated on diabetis, just with what I know and the little his ready, but he knows I can't do this on my own. Hopfuly this helps. Here to help when ever you need it.

Jozelle 2011-03-30 23:15:50 -0500 Report

To Poppey…I can relate to your story. My #s are every where and I am still having trouble getting them down. I think sometimes it is like I am still in denial, even though I was diagnosed 10 years ago. I live alone so it is quite hard to get the support I need with all my eating issues. Hopefully,I will get some support from this website.

Hopieland 2011-04-02 11:30:40 -0500 Report

I live alone, too, but I'm used to it. Its a two-edge sword…non one to bug me about my #'s, etc., but no one to help, either. Getting our BG to level out seems to take time, experimenting with which foods work and which don't, portion control, how long between meals, types of snacks…a lot to take in at first. Its taken me way too long to take it all seriously. Not one to make myself track everything on paper, and being a creature of habit with foods, I've found my way to more consistent #'s now. Feel better for it. How to "educate" a hubby is a dilemma for many, it seems. My idea would be to dialog about whatever he says when he says it. Ask him why he feels the way he does about this or that, whatever he brings up. Some men don't know how to talk about their feelings about anything. Us D's have one main goal: stay out of trouble! Everyone here has or is learning what works for us individually. There doesn't seem to be any one-size-fits-all solution. Being new to this community about a month ago, I've learned so much and have grown considerably in my desire to change my bad's into taking better care of myself. Making friends here has been really motivating for me. Visit often. TOGETHER WE CAN!

poppey 2011-03-31 23:06:09 -0500 Report

Im always here if you need anything. I will try to help you in anyway. Like my family is here for me I will be here for you. You are no longer alone in your battle. As you can see we all try to help out.

Pynetree 2011-03-30 21:15:17 -0500 Report

Hi EmeraldSea, You are a work in progress! One helpful idea is to note or journal EVERYTHING! What your FBG was in a.m. when you woke, how you felt, what you ate, what was going on in your day, BG 2 hrs. after eating, or after exercise…etc. Soon you will have an idea of what is working for you and what isn't working. Write down every bite. You'll spot trends and even triggers, that make you eat wrong, or overdo, and learn to plan ahead. It will also help your Dr. to get you on the right Rx's. It also keeps you accountable. Welcome…this site is a great place, with great people…lots of smart advice here.

Mair 2011-03-30 20:35:31 -0500 Report

Hi Emerald Sea, I think most of us had or have the same issues from time to time. You are at a great place for support and education. here are some suggestions.
When a person has trouble controlling diabetes it is important to speak with your doctor why you are having a hard time with control. With myself it was oral diabetic drugs increasing my levels so I am on insulin now. Also some blood pressure medications increase glucose levels, example i am on Bystolic so I take that drug 1/2 hour before I eat and adjust my insulin.

Vernjr 2011-03-30 19:44:37 -0500 Report

I am lucky in that my wife takes care of me and helps me with the diabetes. i think anyone who knows a person with diabetes needs to be educated. My wife eats the way I have to in order to keep me on track. I am blessed and thank god for her everyday. I started with just pills and eventually ended up on shots, 2 types of shots one for daily after meals and 1 at bedtime. The doctors are extremely helpful if you voiice concerns about it usually. Good luck and don't get frustrated it takes time to get it where you can handle having the disease and live a great life.

realsis77 2011-03-30 13:05:15 -0500 Report

Hi and welcome! I had the SAME problem! I learned that not ALL diabetics can control there blood sugar with pills and diet. I needed to get on insulin. I'm so glad I finally got on the insulin because for the first time I can say my blood sugar is close to perfect now! I was always running high before insulin and my pills just wernt working! Everyone is different and this is my expirence . My doctor told me that not everyone can do this with pills and diet. He is right. As soon as I got on my insulin I felt soooo much better and when I got my dose right I was amazed at how good my blood sugar became! I'm now under nice tight control and have had no problems! Insulin has been a God send for me! I have more enegery than ever and as long as I take my insulins my blood sugar is perfect! I take one 24 hour insulin in the morning and another type of insulin with meals. The shots don't hurt at all and its fast and easy to do when you get the hang of it. I was scared at first of the needles but they are so small you don't even feel it! Its really been a great option for me. Id discuss your options with your doctor because if you continue to run high you run a risk of damage. So maybe its time for a change in treatment plan. I'm so happy I finally got under control! Its like a freedom and I feel so good now its really amazing. So know your options and discuss them with your doctor! I wish you the best and God bless!

northerngal 2011-03-30 20:22:44 -0500 Report

Love your resonse. I added a little to it, but never had problems with needles either. Also used Lantis and Novolog before meals. Worked great. I'm on a pump now and can't imagine life without it. (Never was a swimmer anyway). I'm beginning to see some complications, but it took almost 40yrs so I must be doing something right. Would like to help others through the tough stretches and no one knows more than those who've been there.

nanaellen 2011-03-30 17:57:18 -0500 Report

Hey are you serious????? Your needles don't hurt????? I've been on insulin for 5 or 6 yrs. now and I STILL have a problem with the needles!!! Am I using the wrong brand or something???? I have an anxiety attack EVERY time I have a shot!! Mostly cause I know it will hurt! I KNOW it only hurts for a minute but still!!! I think I have a high toleration for pain, I've had migraines since I was a kid, I've had 4 children (3 natural childbirth) so I'm no stranger to pain. Maybe it's just the THOUGHT of the needle I don't know. May I ask what BRAND of syringe's you use?? Thanks, Ellen :)

realsis77 2011-03-31 14:09:04 -0500 Report

I also use BD needles. They are lubricated and HONESTLY I feel NOTHING! BD has been great! I take a 24 hour insulin in the morning and I take another with meals! If you continue to feel pain maybe it is the needle or the technique? Do you use BD? Give them a try and I think you will be happy! They have worked out wonderfully for me! Also I use a numbing pad with benzocine and alcohol in it. That helps too! Good luck!

nanaellen 2011-04-02 21:04:02 -0500 Report

THANK YOU,THANK YOU,talked to my pharmacist (I love her she always helps) today and she's ordering me some new syringes!! Shorter needles AND thinner!! I'm SO happy and so MAD at the same time!! Only mad cause I didn't know about this a LONG LONG time ago!!!! THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!!!!!
Your friend for LIFE!! Ellen :)

nanaellen 2011-03-31 16:55:10 -0500 Report

Yes, I use BD Already. And Mair just told me about the pain free alcohol pads. I'm glad that your better with your D! I'm not sure about technique. When I first started taking insulin I got showed how to do it ONCE and have been relying on myself ever since! I ended up COVERED in bruises for the first 3 weeks! I called the "Nurse Hotline" and asked them if I was doing something wrong??!! The FIRST thing she said to me was "Well, they DID tell you to put the injection in at a 45 degree angle right?" NO they DIDN'T!! She said insulin is meant to be delivered JUST under the skin. Then she asked if I rubbed the site. YES, because it stings! You don't want to RUB the site because you've already broken small blood vessels and rubbing them together is actually CREATING the bruise!! I rarely get any bruises unless I'm tired or not paying attention anymore! Just apply pressure for a minute. When I fisrt was DX with D I had to have a shot of humalog before eating 3 times a day and a shot of lantus before bed. I HAD gotten it down to where I only had to have my lantus shot at night for like 5 years!! But because of that I kinda ignored my D and as an end result I had to have my gall bladder out this past Nov. and things have spiralled out of control from there!! Can't seem to get back to reg. #'s!! VERY frustrating to say the least!! Have Something wrong with my pancreas that they're STILL trying to figure out. Just got a phone call today to go back for a follow up next month and the results of the last test should be in tomorrow!!! Sorry, just realized I'm rambling on and on and on!! Anyway, thanks for all your help I feel really lost right now! Ellen (still smilin') ;)

realsis77 2011-03-31 18:00:54 -0500 Report

Hi. Don't feel bad. You know what helped me? Don't laugh. But this really helped me. I went online to you tube and I watched several instructional videos on how to give an injection correctly and I looked at them and it really really helped me. I was not given the instructons from my doctor either. He knew I was a dental nurse and I asembled literally thousands of syringes in the time I was a nurse so he figured I knew how to do it on myself. That was different than doing it for someone else. So I looked up the instructional videos. Also BD on their website has a instructional area that teaches how to do it. So basiclly I studied real hard and its soo much better now. No pain or brusing or bleeding. I'm so sorry your not feeling well! I sure hope you feel better soon and if there's ANYTHING I can do to help please just ask! Id be happy to help if I can! If you need to talk I will be here for you also. Just drop me a note! Take care, your friend, lynnette

Mair 2011-03-30 20:39:55 -0500 Report

BD ultra fine pen needles work the best. There are also alcohol prep pads now that have a small amount of analgesic in them called Pain free. You can purchase them at CVS. OH BD also makes ultra fine syringes

nanaellen 2011-03-31 07:12:51 -0500 Report

I use BD now. Didn't know about the alcohol pads though thanks, I will definitely give them a try!! :) Ellen

northerngal 2011-03-30 20:13:26 -0500 Report

I've been on insulin for 38yrs. I found that if the needle is placed straight, there usually was NO pain. I'm on a pump now, which means placing a new site every 3 or 4 days, but its much better than constant injections. I also used the very short needles, which helped. I also injected fairly slow. For some reason, it was much better than just stabbing it in. Maybe I'm an oddball, but its a necessary evil and You really don't have a choice. Stay relaxed and you'll be fine. You've experienced serious pain and handled it!!! Definately not a wimp. There are also various gauges of needle. Use smallest you can, they are thinner.

nanaellen 2011-03-31 07:23:18 -0500 Report

Now see, when I first started taking insulin I was completely bruised all over my stomach and I called the "Nurse Hotline" and they told me to put the needle in at a 45 degree angle because insulin is MEANT to be delivered just under the skin and if I went straight in that I'm breaking small blood vessels and that rubbing it also would CREATE a bruise!! I DO inject slowly, learned THAT the hard way too!! I also warm my insulin to at least room temp. it seems to take some of the sting out! What's the deal with the pump? Don't know to much about it at all. Is it something implanted like the birth control thingy?? I guess I'll talk to my pharmacist about the size of my syringes. Thanks for all your help!

GabbyPA 2011-03-30 10:01:09 -0500 Report

Welcome to the community. We are your local frustration outlet, use us well. LOL

Seriously, it is good to get those issues out because sometimes when we do, we realize the answer in our own words, as I think you did here.

Diabetes is about you. How long have you been diagnosed? Getting into the swing of things takes some time and especially when you are trying to do so many things at one time. If it is hard for you, just imagine how hard it is to think that way when you don't have to make the changes such as your husband.

My hubby took a while to come on board. He was very supportive of me for a long time and still is, but it is my issue, not his. He is considerate of a lot of things, but still eats pretty much what he likes. I just have to have a tougher skin is all. He doesn't wave stuff in my face and tempt me that way, and for that I am grateful. But that comes with time and open communication. That is something you might not be ready to deal with yet. It is new to both of you.

One little step at a time is the way to go. It will feel overwhelming sometimes. It's okay, we have all been there. Just start new the next day and focus on just a couple of things at a time. When that becomes a habit, then you can build on that foundation. You are working on things, that is a great place to start.

nanaellen 2011-03-30 09:54:01 -0500 Report

Hi and welcome to the best thing you've found for your diabetic needs!! LOL THIS SITE!!! And let me tell you FRUSTRATION seems to be MY middle name for the past 5 months!! Can't get my BS's under control either. All I can say is there are great people on this site who have great ideas so don't give up!! Ellen :)

RAYT721 2011-03-29 20:08:20 -0500 Report

Start with the changes that YOU need to make. I know how you feel about "resentment" of being in a household where you feel as though you are the one being punished but you're not. You can have a banana split if you'd like. It may not be the size that you have to strap to the roof of your car but you can use moderation to have a sugar free ice cream/yogurt, sugar free whipped topping, sugar free cherry pie filling on top. And you CAN have a banana!!! Just watch it! There are many treats you can have if you swap some items for others. As you cruise the various recipe websites and make new friends (count me in), you will learn that eating to live instead of living to eat will help with your control. The keys to control are with diet, exercise and in some cases medication. Focus on one day at a time and each day gets easier. My hardest challenge was eating breakfasts because I thought I could lose weight by skipping it. Wrong. I have learned to eat smaller meals and snacks more often. I have learned to drink more water. Its about baby steps. What can I do or say to help you??? We all have our stories of successes and failures but we are here for each other. I don't know where I would be right now if not for the support of the people here who know where I was, where I am and where I am going. You will soon discover you will be one of them and in a few weeks or months or years we will be turning to you for the same advice you are seeking from us. Don't think about what you can't have… think about what you CAN have, what you CAN do, and what you CAN become… Diabetic is just one of many labels to add to: spouse, mom, child, employee, cook, taxi driver, consumer, and all over. You can fall but you can pick yourself back up again. Don't give up! The only thing worse than diabetes is uncontolled diabetes… so, tune in to portion control, weight control, emotional control and when all else fails slap the crap out of you husband!!! LOL.

EmeraldSea 2011-03-29 20:04:05 -0500 Report

Thank you all for sharing your insights and your personal experiences. I will try to remember I'm not alone in this battle. Yes I have adjusted my diet, however I know there's still alot I need to learn about foods. I look forward to our continued conversations and my learning process.

jayabee52 2011-03-29 19:48:40 -0500 Report

Howdy Emerald! Welcome to DC!

I thought i was eating right too when first Dx'd. Instead of eating cakes, cookies and doughnuts, I was eating rice cakes, and too many of them. I really had no concept of carbs. The rice cakes were light, so they were OK, right? I have learned a lot since then, a great deal of it here on DC!

As Alan asked, what meds are you on to control your diabetes? Do you have other conditions for which you take meds which could affect your blood glucose numbers ("BG#s")

What is your idea of eating right for Diabetes ("DM").

All these questions may seem intrusive, but answering them helps folks here on DC to get an idea of where you may need to adjust your self-care regimen and get your BG#s under better control.

Your thing with your husband, well, IMO you're right. It's about you. But it would be nice if he'd be more considerate. But at least he's not teasing you like another lady on DC said her husband did to her. He got out a bowl of ice cream and waved a spoon over it in front of her saying "Ha Ha Ha! You can't have this!"

Perhaps you can ask Dr Gary to teach you how to properly use "I" messages to let him know how you feel about that behavior without seeming to attack him.

Blessings to you and yours


you should also have a friend request waiting from me too!

edit: Just noted you posted your meds and your BG#s in response to Alan's post.

Bunny Cakes
Bunny Cakes 2011-03-29 19:48:16 -0500 Report

Hi, welcome to the community and on a more somber note welcome to the club no one wants to join (Diabetes).

You mentioned meds and exercise but have you changed your diet any? While medicine and exercise both help they are not going to fix your numbers if you are still eating like you used to or even just still eating too many carbs, especially fast acting and empty carbs.

Try cutting out bread at least a little and switching to whole grain varieties, watch out for starchy veggies ans start testing as much as you can to see what your body reacts too. Once you figure out the right diet you might really start to see a drop in those numbers.

Harlen 2011-03-29 19:40:07 -0500 Report

Hello and welcome
It;s a big job and it will take time to get it all down it was over a year for me to get things all worked out .
I would be upset if my wife didnt have a banana split if she wished to have one just that I can not have it dose not mean she can not.and I mite just have a little bite of it too lol
Best wishes

Kirla 2011-03-29 19:39:30 -0500 Report

This is what helped me. A1C has remained below 6 since being diagnosed. I follow a low carb diet and it works great for me.

Feb 2009 I was diagnosed with a fasting blood sugar of 366 and A1C of 14.1. Started to eat a salad every day at supper. Also started to eat lots of low carb vegetables like broccoli, cauliflower, cabbage, cucumbers, spinach, pickles and sauerkraut. Started to drink 8+ glasses of water every day.

I then bought a meter and started to test my blood sugar before and after each meal. At first I was testing 2 hours after each meal and when my numbers dropped a lot I started testing 1 hour after meals. I was testing 5-7 times a day. I cut back or eliminated foods that spiked my blood sugar more than 50 points after eating.

By testing I found that foods like bread and most foods made of grains along with pasta, rice, corn, potatoes, oatmeal, cereals, chips, crackers, cakes, cookies, candy, soda, fruits, fruit juices, milk and most foods that contain more than 5-6 net carbs per serving as found on the package label all spiked my blood sugar. Some people can cut back on these foods and some people like me have to stop eating them.

After about 6-8 weeks my blood sugar readings were almost normal levels. After 7 weeks I quit all meds and my numbers continued to get better and better.

I found by reducing and eliminating high carb starchy foods helped me a lot. By adding small amounts of chicken, beef, pork or a hard boiled egg to my meals helped reduce blood sugar spikes also.

Good luck

EmeraldSea 2011-03-29 19:24:55 -0500 Report

Meds are: Metformin 2x daily @ 500 mg. Januvia 1x daily @ 100 mg. Just went to doctor on Monday and these are the new med adjustments. Also on Atenolol 1x daily @ 25 mg. I walk two miles every other day (weather permitting) and sugar still at 300+. Today after my two mile walk sugar at 447. SO FRUSTRATING.

alanbossman 2011-03-29 18:45:31 -0500 Report

Hi and welcome to DC family,what kind of meds are you on and the dose. You my need to see your doctor and have him adjust your meds. What are your numbers?