Diabetes not so bad when faced against memory loss

By Armourer Latest Reply 2011-03-23 18:25:37 -0500
Started 2011-03-22 23:04:45 -0500

Went last weekend to visit my mother, and introduce my new daughter-in-law. I live 250 miles away in another state. My mom is 78, a widow, but doing well or so I thought. After an afternoon lunch with extended family, we went to her house and in the evening we're talking and she is writing out on a wedding card to my son & his wife. Suddenly she motioned me to her and is a whisper asked what the man's last name was. I thought she was kidding, but replied. She motioned to me again, and asked who this man was sitting there. I could see in her eyes that she was bewildered! I realized it wasn't a game. I told her it was my second son. She then asked who the woman was, and I replied my wife of 26 years. That then named my three children and she looked at me and said, "Your married? You have children?" The she said, "why can't I remember this? What is happening to me?" Her sister is two years younger but looks like she's in her late sixties. My mom looks like she is 90. Thought I had talked her into Assisted Living centers, but the cost in her city is around $4000-$5000 a month. I have room in my house but it is multi-level and nearly paid off. Not a place for her, but I believe in taking her in for the long haul and not shutting her away from the family. In fact what she needs is family. Suddenly having diabetes doesn't matter so much anymore.

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Graylin Bee
Graylin Bee 2011-03-23 00:54:01 -0500 Report

I am sorry your Mom is having memory issues. It is a very hard adjustment to make. There are so many decisions to make.
Perhaps there is somethng happening that has made her become more confused. Ahlzheimer's and dememtia can cause memory lapses. Sometimes dehydration, poor nutrition, even a cold or UTI can all make confussion worse. Sometimes just having a long, busy day can make it worse. Also whenever my mother-in-law was around a large group of people her confussion increased. At first she would reintroduce me to family members I had known for years. As her alzheimer's progressed she and I would sit together at family gatherings and I would tell her the names of her brothers and her children. We lved in the same small town as my in-laws, only a few blocks away and saw them at least once a week and missed many of the early warnings. In hindsight and with experience I have since gained in working with people with memory issues I learned some of the signs.

jayabee52 2011-03-22 23:34:32 -0500 Report

That breaks my heart! At least she remembered you. There may come a time when even that is gone.

I cannot advise you as to what to do as to her care. I can suggest you to get on Alzheimers Connect. You might get some insight there (its in the drop-down list which drops down from "visit another community")

Mrs. Alilce
Mrs. Alilce 2011-03-22 23:23:07 -0500 Report

I'm so sorry!. It is good she recognized something had slipped. Maybe she will be open to a good exam. Blood work, trauma history, brain scan for tumors or anomalies. Some confusion results from low vitamin B-12, poor hydration and nutrition. We found an outstanding team in Franklin TN. They helped the family as much as my sister. Good luck and let us know how she is. Mrs. Alice

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