tired of the myth

By krystalm Latest Reply 2011-03-24 10:14:42 -0500
Started 2011-03-20 23:01:28 -0500

I have found there is a common myth so many people believe and it drives me crazy. when i tell people im a diabetic with high cholesterol they look at me and say "you" but ur not overweight. why do people think that that's the only way ur in "danger" of having those conditions? do they not get it that sometimes ur genetics play a big factor in what happens as you get older? my whole family on both sides are diabetics. i had hoped it would skip me but nope! anyway its not just needed to vent for a few minutes. and thank goodness for my neighbor (she's like my 2nd mom) that is a nurse and makes sure that i eat right and fusses at me when i havent had my medicine yet or forget my glucometer at home.

23 replies

Mair 2011-03-22 19:04:26 -0500 Report

Krystalm: I hear you on this one, I blame the media because everything is blamed on weight. I was much thinner when diagnoised and since on insulin am 25 lb overweight and middle aged. Take it form an older lady don't allow anyone to make seem as if it is your fault. i found by not getting upset and educating people it is better for me.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-03-22 13:46:32 -0500 Report


I just wanted to add to the great responses that you are getting to your post.

There is a lot of lack of information and misunderstanding regarding chronic conditions, diabetes being one of them. The responses you are getting are related to plain old lack of information.

But... it is also human nature to want to be in control of our lives, to think that we can do something to prevent "bad" thiings from happening to us, like medical diagnoses. When faced with a situation, like yours, that demonstrates how life just happens, regardless of what we do, that assumption of control gets replaced by uncertainty. And human beings don't do well with uncertainty. Not at all.

So those reactions you are getting might be from people who don't want their illusion of control questioned in any way.

You might want to gently remind them that things happen, including heredity, and we make the best of them by taking the best care of themselves possible.

Glad you have people around you who get it, and who are watching your back.

And have a great week!


Mair 2011-03-22 19:06:17 -0500 Report

Dr. Gary, thanks for your insightful response for all to read. I may print this for my husband who still has no clue about what people go through with this.

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-03-23 17:56:20 -0500 Report

That is a great idea! Sometimes we have to not only be patients but educators, not to mention educators with a lot of patience!

Hopieland 2011-03-24 03:42:49 -0500 Report

Great encouragement! Unwarranted flak is hard to take from any direction. The illusion of control…what a great insight. Not taking care of ourselves is a great illusion. I've lived there for too long. Thanks for the wise and caring comment.

Graylin Bee
Graylin Bee 2011-03-24 09:16:21 -0500 Report

About 3 years ago I started using that phrase. I have been wanting that blissful state back where I hd the illusion of control. Insted I keep facing new challenges that prove it was most certainly an illusion all along. I do not envy those who still have their illusion intact and untested. Instead I fear how hard the battle will be on them if they every have to learn it is what it is.

pixsidust 2011-03-22 02:42:17 -0500 Report

I think I fit the steriotype of becoming Diabetic brought on by my own lifestyle and weight. I can see where the misconceptions would lie that with a thin body, that this deadly disease might not lurk. I admit I am guilty too and that really is a lack of information, knowledge and ignorance. I also was under the misconception that people are thin generally have Type I. My apologies. I learn something all the time. I am sad you have so much on your plate with your young years. You are my sons age

0tina0 2011-03-21 23:42:28 -0500 Report

My mother was 5'4 and 100 pounds soaking wet holding her purse…when she had her first heart attack at 56 her cholesterol was 510 and her triglycerides were 1200. She had been "pre-diabetic' for years…at least that's what she told us. I guess my point is … it really dosen't matter what your body type is…it may be hiding all kinds of stuff!

Hopieland 2011-03-24 03:45:43 -0500 Report

Wowie. I think my mom was T2 and never knew it. I like your comment about it doesn't matter about body type. People are surprised I'm T2 b'coz I'm not huge. Information leads to wisdom.

WendyFR 2011-03-21 21:54:07 -0500 Report

The oveweight thinking from non-diabetics is because when you look up information on the internet or books about Type II diabetes the article usually says the major things that cause Type II diabetes is Obesity and lack of physical activity. We all know that there are other factors, but I think "non-diabetics" do not do a lot of research unless they become diabetics themselves. So, it's not a myth, the media, health magazines, etc…puts it out there. I hear it in commercials as well, I guess to get the publics attention. You're right they just don't get it. Remember most "non-diabetics" do not know the difference between Type I andType II diabetes.

Hopieland 2011-03-24 03:50:05 -0500 Report

Lotta lotta ignorance out there. I was one of them until I was diagnosed, and then I went into denial for two years! Misconceptions are fluent-speak in mainstream media. I think ur right-on about non-diabetics. T2 is an epidemic these days and still they have no clue. Maybe we should start a "Tea Party" for Diabetics!

Graylin Bee
Graylin Bee 2011-03-21 19:56:15 -0500 Report

The first thing my cousin said to me when I told her I have diabetes was "My Dad is Daibetic because he is overweight."

alanbossman 2011-03-21 14:28:37 -0500 Report

I sure can relate I'am also not over weight and it runs in my family on both sides. Most people say how can you be diabetic when you are not fat. I tell them its genetics, some people just don't know and only hear what they think is causing diabetes.

realsis77 2011-03-21 13:57:40 -0500 Report

I agree with you! I get that a lot! I'm not over weight either and I have diabetes. It does run in my family! Its strange the sterotypes people think of when diabetes is mentioned! It does drive me crazy!

MewElla 2011-03-21 12:22:57 -0500 Report

I think so many people out there have no idea what diabetes is, or all about it. Most of them, sterotype their answers, "too much sugar, too fat", etc. It gets very frusterating when you run into these folks…but oh well, we know what's up.

Hopieland 2011-03-24 03:57:26 -0500 Report

Hi MewElla! Goes with the territory. Ignorance is not bliss. I was probably T2 for years b4 it was discovered during a physical related to my job back then. Until I was diagnosed I was stereotype in my thinking about T1 & T2. Most of my friends think I cannot have ANY sugar or sweets. They don't believe me when I tell them my nutritionist told me carb foods in moderation and balanced with healty foods are allowed, but limited. If I have a cookie at a pot luck lunch, I feel everyone is staring at me. My Pastor, however, loves the emails I get from DC and uses many of the recipes. She's a TOPS member and shares them there. I told about this web site and she will be looking into it. So maybe I've won one non-diabetic over? She's very supportive of my efforts and prayers to eat right, and how I appreciate that!

mimi3727 2011-03-21 10:46:53 -0500 Report

lol! I totally get it, but the other way, I am over weight, and eat a carefully planned diet because of medical needs and I have high cholesterol and now diabetic. my dr. says it is genetics as it runs in my family and I have been on the same diet for years. people think I don't eat right because I am over weight. its frustrating to say the least!

Hopieland 2011-03-24 04:04:47 -0500 Report

Genetic is just that. Inherited. Overweight does not always mean overeating. It can be slow metabolism or other weight related imbalances. I won't say ignore their ignorance, but consider the source. You are clearly working to stay healthy. Our society is far too "size" conscious. I have a friend who claims to want to lose weight but eats at least 5 high carb foods each meal. He won't listen to me when I mention it, ever so cautiously, to him. He says he eats only one meal a day. Not. He grazes all day but doesn't see the trees for the forest. I have have MUCH more respect for you. I like your dedication to a carefully planned diet. Has your MD ever checked your metabolism? If it's slow, there are foods that help… at least that's what I've read. Wish I could be of more help.

mimi3727 2011-03-24 10:14:42 -0500 Report

I thought by checking my thyroid that was checking my metabolism? is that it? my thyroid tests came back good. I do take a plethora of medication for other conditions that the side effects include weight gain. but to be honest I have a active family who are all on the large size, I think my funniest point was during one bout of cancer I lost alot of weight, went down to a size 10, and you know that ol saying fat people say " I'm just big boned!" well it turns out I am! lol! I looked all bony and terrible at size 10! its crazy lol!

sc1boy 2011-03-21 09:05:49 -0500 Report

I can understand that I get fussed at as well by parents and wife when I don't eat right or forget to do something so you are not alone.

Hopieland 2011-03-24 04:06:30 -0500 Report

When it comes to food, or diabetes, we're not alone, that's 4sure. Your wife and your parents are caring about you, so do the right thing: honor their concern.

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