Very overwhelmed

By Anonymous Latest Reply 2011-05-30 00:03:29 -0500
Started 2011-03-20 00:15:31 -0500

Diagnosed just 3 days ago during physical. My blood sugar was 356. My doctor just told me to get a diabetic consult lined up. I did, but it is 2 weeks out. I got testing supplies yesterday. Last night my blood sugar was 388 then first thing this am it was 340.

I told my husband and a close friend. I do not want anyone to know. I do not want to be judged.

From my mid-teens until I was hit head on by a drunk driver, in 1984, I ran 5-10 miles a day. My neck was broken, my pelvis crushed, my unborn son was killed, both of my legs had compound fractures, my R foot crushed. I had 37 operations over the next 9 years. I am lucky and blessed. I learned to walk again. I have a 30% disability. My infant daughter suffered fractures in all 3 bones of her left leg, but is fine now. I was able to have other kids, truly a miracle, I have twin daughters and a son.

Over the years I have gained weight but it has been exactly the same for over 6 years.

Then the summer of 2007 2 of my kids and I went to visit my parents. On the way home from the airport we were t-boned by a flat bed tow truck. The only part of my body without lasting pain, my left leg was crushed and my ankle dislocated. 3 surgeries and a year later back to battling pain, and a roller-coaster of emotions.

Never a thought about any health issues, orthopedic problems and now this.

I did not want to tell my family. I feel I will be judged for my lifestyle. Overworked, stressed, bad eating habits (coffee or sweet tea all day, most days only eating dinner after 9 pm. And I hate water.

With my permission my husband told my parents, they cannot understand why I don't want to talk. I am so overwhelmed and just cry. I do not want them to worry. I told my sister and told her I did not want her to tell anyone. After asking why, she told me at least I can control it with diet and exercise. If that were true, I would not be overweight for the last 20 years. I have not been able to exercise as everything causes pain. I then cannot sleep which also makes everything worse.

I have taken a variety of meds including heavy duty narcotics. I alternate drugs and when my pain is below average I don't take meds and just Todd & turn all night. I am fearful of judgement, fearful of exercise, fearful of increasing pain, and the need for more meds, which could result in possible addiction.

I just start crying, in the middle of a store, sentence, etc.

How do I find the right professionals to help me? Maybe my biggest fear is I can't be helped.

I was a gymnast, then coached high level gymnasts. This included keeping them, thin. I had a diabetic gymnast and worked with her so she could maintain safe levels and win.

I cannot possibly do any significant exercise. I do not even know what numbers I am trying for?

29 replies

Drees moma
Drees moma 2011-05-30 00:03:29 -0500 Report

Okay,Okay… Believe me everybody here knows what you're going through right now. Didn't your doctor give you any medication to take to lower your blood sugar? He should have. Two weeks is too long to wait with levels as high as you are describing. You are shooting for numbers around 120 or less,you definitely want to be below 200. It will take time to get there don't expect to have this happen overnight. Cut any regular sugar that is in your diet on a daily basis out as fast as you can, if it's in your coffee or tea try Splenda* it tastes the most like sugar of all the substitutes out there IMHO.If you start to take proactive measures you'll be surprised how quickly you'll feel better and more in control. You don't have to talk to everybody about being a diabetic and it really isn't the end of your life, it can be unpleasant, or you can just handle it. You may have to turn down the cake at the next birthday party or just ask for a much smaller piece and tell them you are trying to loose weight or just not hungry.
For a while you will probably feel like your throats been slit,or at least your sweet tooth will complain a lot. I have the advantage of being educated about special diets,filling them and writing them, but when I got my diagnosis I went into a minor tail spin too. And I KNEW WHAT TO DO! I guess I should have expected it,my grandmother had geriatric onset, and I got my grandfathers Gout! Great heritage.
For exercise I share some of the same issues you have, except my aren't all injury related. I have psoriatic arthritis. It is part of the rheumatoid family,only the fun part isn't the deposits that make it very difficult to move your joints,this one sort of eats the joints. Starts at the narrow ends of the bones and works down to the broader base of the bones. I walk my dogs for exercise. There are classes available through the YMCA or YWCA's for people with arthritis that are done in the water(pool) and are very gentle. This might be a good option for you,since it provides movement and strength training without stress on joints and bones. Feels like you aren't doing a thing but you can over do easily,so try it as a class(there are scholarships available for those who can't afford the fees) first, before you try it on your own. I also have asthma which limits how much I can do during various times of the year. Like now,when the pollen is starting to get high. If you need any information about what's happening to you or just want to vent,just drop me a line and we can go over what ever you're having problems with. I won't say I know everything but I do have access to a lot of information,in my text books and charts. I am more then willing to help you control what's going on, or just to listen to you when you get frustrated. You will live through this and pretty soon you'll wonder what it was like to live without watching what you eat! You need lots of hugs!

LabRat90 2011-03-30 16:09:42 -0500 Report

Welcome to the site. You will find lots of good information here as well as lots of support. Take it one step at a time and keep telling yourself "I can do this!" Positive thinking really helps. A lot of people with diabetes have trouble with depression. Don't go at this alone. If you have BS troubles, your friends, family, and/or co-workers ned to know what to do to help. Good luck on your new lifestyle. It's really not so bad once you get used to it. btw: you can't get friends on here if you stay private - add an anonymous picture and screen ID. It would still be private but you would get more out of the site. Just a suggestion.

eristar 2011-03-23 07:27:01 -0500 Report

Welcome, and as many others here have said, please feel free to vent to us! I can understand a little about your pain levels and the narcotics taken to try to lessen it - I just weaned myself off of both Vicodin and morphine after over a year, both pre and post back surgery. Couldn't walk or do much of anything until just recently, when the physical therapy suddenly started to kick in and I've been making amazing strides the last couple of months. I was diagnosed as a type-2 just prior to my original surgery date, which meant I had to push the surgery back until they could get my blood sugar under control (it was almost 400).
I hope you can get up the courage to tell people about your diabetes. It is truly nothing to be ashamed of, and you may be surprised at the support you will find. Bless you, best wishes, keep up your courage, cry when you need to, and come back to visit with us soon!

missduty 2011-03-22 20:16:03 -0500 Report

I am so sorry to hear about all you have, and are still going through! I can certainly relate to your pains. I was recently diagnosed with type 2 diabetes, but I have endured a lot of other medical conditons for the last 4 years, including breast cancer. I too, have to take meds for pain, and like you, cannot exercise because of my back! I am glad there is a site for us to go too. Hang in there!

Mair 2011-03-22 19:18:06 -0500 Report

First i am sorry you had to endure all that has happened to cause you such pain in your life. You are at the right place. Take some deep breaths and create a plan of action so you will not be overwhelmed. Ask your family doctor for a referral to speak with a counsler, (very important) second have someone you trust to talk with and write in the journal what you are thankful for daily.
If you look at diabetes as just one of lifes little sidelines it will help. Also write in your journal how you could make a difference in some one elses life that has diabetes. ( this will come later) Just take one step each day and keep posting.

jamiee16 2011-03-22 16:26:38 -0500 Report

I feel for you. i am only 16 years old anad got diganosed last year with type two diabetes and high cholestrol. the next day after i had found out my tacher had brought in donughts for the entire class. i got really upset because i knew i could eat much of that stuff anymore and started crying my eyes out. my teacher talked to me and offered me her apples she had gotten for her lunch which made me happy she'd help me out so i dint feel left out. Then a month later my class had won a pizza party. So i felt left out again. my teacher explained i couldnt have pizza so they got me a special sandwich which i could have. i felt so depressed when they told me i had diabetes and high cholestrol. i tried to hide it just like you and found that it wasnt so easy. eventually i had to tell people so incas i needed medical treatment and they also recommend having a medical braclet for it too. I the cause of it ws weight gain as soon as i started eating rigiht i lost a lot of weight but soon gained it all back when school started back up. Its tough keeping up with the diet and excercise but having your family there to cheer you on telling you it will be oky and that you can do it helps calm your nerves a lot. Thinking people will judge crossd my mind as well but im in high school people aoutmatiacally judge there but the kids didnt they asked me if it was okay to ask questions about it and i told thm yes because i was comfortable with it by then. the numbers you want to try for really abide by your weight. i weigh 145 so my numbers generally run from 100 to 125 which is good for me if it down into the 70 you need to eat! spider bites will alson cause your blood sugar to spike horribly. mine went up to 212 in less than an hour. eat a lot of baked chicken its good for you and turkey meat it helops with weight gain and lost amazingly.

Nonna2Three 2011-03-22 09:26:32 -0500 Report

I can empathize with the feeling of being overwhelmed. I was overwhelmed in January when I was diagnosed. This site is a good outlet for feelings. It is also a good source of true "hands on" experiences from real people - people living with Diabetes.
As for controlling it. You will need to work closely with your doctor and Diabetes Counselor. It may be that you will not be able to control yours with diet & exercise and may have to use meds and insulin. But that does not mean it cannot be controlled. One formula does not work for all diabetics. And maybe a Physical therapist to see if they can assist with some exercises that your body can work with and build up from.
And, for the time before your appointment with the Diabetes Counselor I recommend eliminating as much sugar, pasta and white starch foods as you possibly can.
As for not wanting to be judged, I think that is a normal feeling, but unless you plan to live the rest of your life in isolation from everyone you may find it hard to keep it completely private. You will need to monitor at regular intervals and depending on the course of treatment you may have to give yourself insulin at times when you don't have the privacy of your own home. I personally wanted all my friends and family to know immediately so that I would not have to explain to one person at a time - so I posted it to my facebook that day. And I received a lot of comments in support of me getting a better understanding of the disease and a good grip on how to control it. Did these people judge me or my lifestyle? I don't know, but if they did then I hope they watch their backs because Karma has a big appetite and bites hard!

BronxnyBob 2011-03-21 19:21:48 -0500 Report

You have touched my heart! I too was very disturbed when I got the news from my doctor I was borderline Diabetic. I had a massive heart attack, (M.I.) at a very young age in 1979. I kept thinking I was never going to come back from it. Here it is 2011 and God is still blessing me. You just have to maintain a good diet. Watch you Carbs and ask God to give you the discipline and strength to do it.
Exercise does not have to be strenuous. Walking at a liesurely pace staying active will do wonders. I will pray for you. Also, don't hesitate talk to your family. No one should judge another. Blessings to you.

MrsJgKENT 2011-03-21 18:41:29 -0500 Report

wow…You have been so much! the folks here have written you so many helpful thoughts,,,, I will add you to my prayer list and I pray that the Lord will give you the strengh that you need each day, ,,, I can relate to crying in stores I have done that so many times… I just carry a hankie with me. hugs to you… one day at a time… gods blessing on you.

MewElla 2011-03-21 18:08:49 -0500 Report

Your story really touched my soul. You have endured so much and my heart goes out to you big time. Never hesitate to share on this site. No one will judge you, but we will listen to you with our hearts. Just to be able to release our emotions is good for all of us. Please, please remember, you are not alone, we are here for you. You are in my thoughts and prayers. God Bless you..

nanaellen 2011-03-21 17:42:21 -0500 Report

Hey There! Just reading your story has truely touched my heart, and reading all the replies even more so!! I so can relate to your pain. I was in a really bad car accident myself At the tender age of 21 fortunately for me no broken bones but my ribs sure felt like they were for months. UNfortunately my pain was 146 stitches and all of them on my FACE! And my dear I cry ALL the time usually NOT in FRONT of anyone but ;)sometimes anywhere!! There's NO SHAME in that!!! You will find AMAZING people here and we ALL care!! I've had type 2 for 6 years now and I thought I had it under control then had pancreatitus had to have my gall bladder out and still going for tests on my pancreas. MY blood sugar today is 394 so I know how you feel!! FIND SOMEONE TO TALK TO!!!! TRUST ME IT HELPS!!! I'm 53 now, I've raised 4 kids on my own, I have twins one of which had to stay in the hospital an hour away for the first 18 months of his life! I waited till I was 42 to get married, my husband got lung cancer and had a lung removed got the cancer back and had to go through Kemo for 6 weeks and beat the cancer AGAIN but STILL WON'T QUIT SMOKING!! I'm raising my 13 yr. old grandson whose Mom Is a moron!! (Yes that would be MY daughter) I've had Anthony since he was 3 months old! My husband and I are seperated because he gambled away money I had been saving to have surgery for skin cancer on my nose! ( If I didn't have the surgery it would have eatin off half of my nose by the end of the year) And the topper to all this I have NO MEDICAL INSURANCE!!! Out of ALL THAT this diabetes thing is the WORST!! If I can do this so can you!! Come back and talk to me often! I try to check in at least once a day!! Best wishes and many prayers, Ellen

Dizzy65101 or Robin
Dizzy65101 or Robin 2011-03-21 16:54:38 -0500 Report

Hi I read your post and you have been through alot and even though this is hard for you, you are in the right place for support we are a great big family of supporters to each are welcome here and you will not be judged

Dr Gary
Dr GaryCA 2011-03-21 08:48:28 -0500 Report


I am sorry to hear that you are feeling so overwhelmed right now. It is always a shock to recieve a medical diagnosis, and reactiions like shock, fear, anger, sadness, and others are not uncommon. What you are experiencing is what many people experience, though each person has their own unique situation and unique set of emotions that come up.

I would encourage you to do a couple of things.

First, reach out and get lots of emotional support. It sounds like your family members want to be there for you. Sit down with them and let them know how you are feeling, talk about what's on your mind and in your heart. Just talking, and feeling the love and corncern of people around you, can be a big help right now.

You might also want to consider reaching out to a mental health professional. This might be a good time to get some help in getting a perspective on what's going on with you, and learning some new coping skills, which will help you as move forward. If you are feeling depressed, or concerned about your ability to cope emotionally, then I would encourage you to get in contact with a mental health professional immediately. Don't go through this alone.

I would also encourage you to get educated. Look into classes for newly-diagnosed diabetics, as well as support groups. And work closely with your treatment team, let them know how you are feeling, tell them your concerns, ask lots of questions, and ask for information sources that they recommend. Knowledge is power! It's important to get as educated as possible so that you can take the best possible care of yourself.

It's great that you are reaching out us here at Diabetic Connect. You are now part of an incredible group of people.

Stay in touch with us. Let us know how we can help!


kdroberts 2011-03-21 07:53:27 -0500 Report

An interesting point you raise is the use of drugs for all the various problems you have. The long term use of some may (probably) have contributed to you getting diabetes and there is a very good chance that some or all of them will raise blood sugar regardless of what you do physically or with your diet. When you do talk to a specialist (look for an endocrinologist who specializes in diabetes) make sure you take a list of all the medications you take and have taken in the past, how much and when you take them.

moora 2011-03-21 07:43:42 -0500 Report

People have given some great advise here. I feel for you. But cutting portion of the food and eating every two hours have made changes in my reading. May be you should take up yoga which doesn;t require heavy exercise and more of a stretch exercise. I recently felt the way you are feeling and Prayer and Meditation and communication constantly in Dc helped me hand the situation. i pray for you health. tAke care.

Swbtab03 2011-03-21 06:42:33 -0500 Report

First I can only Imagine what you are going through and bless you for your strength.
But do not feel ashamed or fear of being judged, you really need to tell people. Tell family tell friends tell co workers and they can truly help you in getting better and getting your diabetes in control. Trust me you CANNOT do this by yourself, you have to get anybody in arms reach to help you. Go to the diabetes classes it willl really enlighten you on your current lifestyles. Don't think of the dirty four letter word "DIET" think you are making lifestyle changes to better your health, and to be there for your girls when they go off and get married. Well the boys never move out your stuck with them lol. Above all you have this great site right here that you can vent,ask for help, share your sucess's, look here for other peoples ideas and what works for them.
Look at the recipe section many things you can start doing right away to start getting numbers down. Now I honestly do not know what your doctor has set for you on numbers everyone varies by weight,lifestyle, A1C etc. My self I have to be below 140 my Doc tells me I was in low 300's and then stuck in 200's for a bit. But I hate to say it you have got to drink water it is a huge help. Well I will pray for you and feel free to contact us for any support we can give you. You got great people here.

sherifawson 2011-03-20 23:19:04 -0500 Report

Hi. I will just take a moment to say ditto to what everyone here has already said, especially the post talking about how you are really judging yourself. If you look back you may find that you believe you have to be perfect in order to be accepted. I beg you to give yourself a break.

Your poor bruised body has been through a lot! Imagine the constant stress of all that pain! I think my onset came from the stress of depression over a couple of decades. When not brought to the surface that disease is stored in our tissues where it wrecks havoc on our organs.

My disease came on suddenly and it took several weeks to get things into control. My emotional control took longer but it did eventually happen. You have come to the right place for support and understanding. Hang in there and get support from every source. I would have had a much easier time if I had not refused the support of my family. You would be surprised how much the people in your life want to help; they just might not know how to deal with this either. It will be up to you to let them know how best to support you.

Spiritually, well that has been a journey of a couple more decades. It would have taken much less time if I had listened to my inner voice a lot sooner! I promise you that God has great things in store for you from this experience. My greatest strength comes from knowing there is a greater purpose to all of this. My hope is that you will find that to be true as well. From our most difficult challenges come our greatest inspiration and contribution.

God bless…

Sheri Fawson

EJMac 2011-03-20 22:49:41 -0500 Report

You've been through alot already. You obviously are a strong person. A diagnosis of diabetes is overwhelming at first, but you will learn alot each day to help you get control of the blood sugars. I was Dx about 4 yrs ago after a surgery for pancreatic cancer. The first 3 yrs I just took meds and watched what I ate a bit. The numbers were OK. Since my Dx of lung cancer in Sept with radiation in Dec. my BS numbers starting to go way up. I am now on insulin and on another learning curve of balancing everything out. The way I look at diabetes now is like a puzzle to be solved a day at a time. After what we both have been through, believe me, the diabetes really isn't such a big deal. Hope this helps some. You will be in my prayers. You CAN handle this. Keep us all informed. Take care. Elaine

Aunt Nanners
Aunt Nanners 2011-03-20 21:37:02 -0500 Report

I understand what you feel when you say you don't want to be judged. I felt like that to. And I was so depressed I wanted to just fall to the ground and bawl like a baby. After about a month of having the biggest pity party I ever had for myself my wise sister said to me "So are you going to control it or are you going to just let it control you?" Once I recovered from the shock of her speaking to me like that in my fragile condition, I decided I did have a choice and the power to control this unwelcomed presence in my life. No, it has not been a smooth ride but sometimes it's been a really rewarding challenge. There is so much to learn and unfortunately you will have to learn a lot of it by yourself. Like what works for you. You get all kind of advice and it gets so confusing you think you'll never know what you are supposed to do. Things do work different for every individual. You read one trusted authority that says your numbers should be 70-120 fasting and never over 180 2 hours after eating, then another one that says you never ever want to go over 140 2 hours after eating and you have doctors who don't care if you even test 2 hours after eating. I too am a fellow sweet tea addict. I still have my sweet tea on Sundays and holidays. Having tea with spleanda is better than having none at all so, I drink that the other six days of the week. I also eat things I love on Sunday's, like spaghetti, egg noodles and fried shrimp. I am more active on Sunday, no not working out from morning to night, but just doing things. I was told "oh, you have to do cardio" I don't like much cardio and can not be consistant with anything I do like. I'm not saying the cardio didn't help me some but strength training made a remarkable difference in my numbers. You don't have to be Tracey Mallett or Richard Simmons. But girl, if you learned to walk again after being so hurt, you can use that gift to get some exercise. Also, start with small things like bicept curls with soup cans or very light weights. If you can get out of a chair, do squats that way. Just stand up and sit down in your chair. If you can raise your legs while sitting try doing that. You don't have to start out doing 15 - 25 reps just do what you can and it will get easier each time. You can so be helped. We are all here to hold your hand and go alnong for the journey. You sound like a fighter so show that diabetes just who it decided to mess with. Now for a couple eating habits that work for me, they might not for you, but when you are able to start attacing back you may want to try some of these.
I have found that as long as I eat a whole grain or some heavy duty fiber with a carb that has a high gl I don't rise over the 140 after meals. I can eat white rice with beans and my BG hardly moves. If I eat pasta I eat a smaller portion (except on Sunday) and try to include a little fat and grain with that. Barley is like the lowest gl thing out there and if you think you OD'ed on a carb, eat a couple spoons of cooked hulled or pearled barley and that seems to help. It's boreing but it allows me to still eat some things I want, eat, not overeat.
I'll tell you more if you like, just let me know. I'm here for you as is everyone on this site. I'm so not into telling you "oh, you should feel this way" because you feel how you feel. But try not to be ashamed or embarrassed. Not every diabetic is overweight and not ever overweight person is a diabetic. I'll leave you with another saying that rang true to me "If you really want something, you'll find a way, if you don't want to, you'll find an excuse." I wasn't extremely sensitive when I heard this one but it had a real impact on my attitue. And just so you'll know, I still find excuses. But my numbers are below 100 in the mornings and seldom go over the 140.
Be bless dear person and can wait to learn your name once you feel like you don't have to annonymous anymore. You are not alone :)

Biscotti's Mom
Biscotti's Mom 2011-03-21 23:14:40 -0500 Report

Thanks for your kind words!

Aunt Nanners
Aunt Nanners 2011-03-22 21:10:17 -0500 Report

They are from the heart. I remember that first month after my diagnosis and how horrible it was. I didn't reach out to anyone until about 2 months. What a difference it made to find folks that knew how I felt and experienced the same feelings and trials I was experiencing. I owe as much to the folks on this website as I do my Dr. (more actually, my Dr. isn't much help). I am so grateful for everyone's input and willingness to support no matter what your dealing with. Even if I don't participate a whole lot in the conversations there is always somebody talking about just what I need.

jayabee52 2011-03-20 20:58:07 -0500 Report

In your 2nd to last sentence you wrote: "I cannot possibly do any significant exercise." The word "significant" tthere jumped out and screamed at me.

Just because you can't do what you used to do by way of workout, doesn't mean you can't do ANYexercise. I don't know your full situation, so forgive me if I speak out of turn, but can you move at all? Can you sit up? I have just started a class on "seated yoga" perhaps you could do something like that, just to get you moving.

Praying that you can find a way to get moving, at least a little bit.

Graylin Bee
Graylin Bee 2011-03-20 12:16:52 -0500 Report

Sorry you had such a shock. After all your struggles it seems more than unfair you should be facing another battle.
Pain can really raise your Blood Sugar levels. Since you are dealing with chronic pain it will have an impact on how your medical team will treat your diabetes. I know when my pain was at its worst so were my BG levels. Some medicaions to help manage pain may make BG levels go up. When you have your consult in a few weeks make sure and ask what effect the pain meds you are on now might have. Not all pain meds cause changes. When I needed pain meds while in the hospital last year the Drs. decided what was more important at that time and knew of any potential affect on my BG levels. During that time I was on small doses of insulin. Since then, oral meds and diet have worked for me.
As Ray says people would be judging what your pancreas is up to, not you. I think my liver is a big factor also. It has been known to act up during the night and gives me an unexected high BG. It sems the liver can misunderstand that we are merely sleeping and thinks we have entered some sort of starvation experience. The liver can misinterpret why we haven't eaten for several hrs. Sometimes this even happens to me when I go too long between meals. Often what helps is having a snack betwen meals and then I eat smaller meals.
You mentioned sweet tea, one of my former addictions. I went cold turkey while in the hospital for a month and 1/2, there tea was so icky no matter how much Splenda a put in it still was undrinkable. Since my escape I have found water to be the tastiest drink. However when the craving hits for Sweet Tea I will indulge. Splenda sweetened tea was my choice pre-diagnoses and I still will drink it. Maybe it would agree with your tastes and body.
As too exerrcise. Do what you can. Wiggling your toes and fingers works if that is all you can do. Fidgeters burn up calories. Last year I was in bed for over half of it. Not too much exercise was happening around me. When I could I would do simple and I mean the very simplest Pilates moves. If it even started to hurt it was stopped. Sometimes pain means only more pain not gain at all. I am sure you have seen many PTs and perhaps they gave you as many exercise ideas as the few I met did. When I can walk a lot I do and take stairs as much as I can. Most of all when your pain lts you do something take pride in it. I was watching some teens and pre-teens jumping up and touching an exit sign over a ddoorway at a Thanksgiving Dinner last year. I decided to try it. I was able to. That was the first time I had jumped in over two years. I turned to a freind and said "I did it!" He cheered and so did the kids.
I hope you have a great meeting with your consult person. I have found with many medical people if you can go in with a list of questions it helps. Sometimes I have concerns that they don't automatically cover. When they stop and think about what I have asked they often think of a lot more helpful ideas.

RAYT721 2011-03-20 11:32:54 -0500 Report

Sometimes the most critical judge we have is ourselves. There is no shame in being a diabetic. Diabetes is a disease and not one that we chose or had any say in getting or preventing. There are risk factors to diabetes but there are no known causes nor cures. It is not your height or weight or hair color that makes you diabetic. It's your pancreas so if anyone is to judge you for the disease they are judging your pancreas, not you.

There is always the discussion of whether to tell others about our diabetes. I don't think that being judged is really on the list of why tell or not tell. In many cases I will talk about diabetes in an effort to educate others on the disease but also to alert people in the event I have an episode of high or low. That is for my own safety. I don't wear a diabetic alert bracelet… perhaps I should? I am not ashamed of being diabetic. It is one of many true labels that I must wear. I can hide my diabetes if I wish or I can speak out. I speak out. Your decision to be open or not is truly a personal decision and I respect it as I respect you.

The most important focus for your life now is about control. The known ways to control glucose comes from diet, exercise and/or medication. I am not on medication and have a decent a1c average of 6.4 - 6.5. This would define me as controlled but getting to this point and staying there has come from a few simple swaps that I have made. What works for me may or may not work for anyone else.

My tips have come from taking baby steps. I never even considered an overnight success so that facing a change or challenge here and another there has worked for me. I've increased my exercise. This does not mean that I live at the gym. I do what I can rather than force myself to do what I can't. I drink more water than I used to. It's helped with the weight loss. I have cut back on sugar and other carbs and made simple swaps of brown rice for white, whole grain breads for white, alternatives for sugar, etc. It did not all happen at once. I now plan meals and snacks and use moderation as opposed to yesteryear's free-for-all. Don't be so hard on yourself. The only way to achieve YOUR goals are to set them, make them realistic and have measurable ones. Success is a journey, not a destination.

You are in the right place for those who understand where you were, are and are going. What an incredible community you have joined. Let me be one of many who welcomes you here and offers to befriend you. I can't think of a single one of us here who can't say we are and were overwhelmed by our diagnoses. It's a roller coaster … buckle up!

RAYT721 2011-03-20 11:52:14 -0500 Report

Another tip is that I began to eat breakfasts which I did not eat before. When they breakfast is the most important meal of the day, it truly is. I may start my day with a Light & Fit yogurt and/or Atkins bar but it's something and I believe that it's helped with giving me energy and with my weight loss success… about 30 pounds down.

alanbossman 2011-03-20 11:30:13 -0500 Report

Hi and welcome to DC family,I really feel bad for you and the way things have happened to you.
The numbers you are looking for are 70 to 120 for a 8 hour fast.
You need to check you BS one or two hours after every meal and your numbers should be below 140. Anything above that and you do damage to your organs. Yes you do need to exercise to lose weight, also need to eat lower carb meals and portion size meals also. Stay away from all white foods like potatoes,rice,bread they are high in carbs. hope this helps.

Kirla 2011-03-20 09:53:44 -0500 Report

When diagnosed I had high blood sugar similar to yours. I write about what helped me. It may help and then again it may not. I just believe eating lots of low carb vegetables and drinking lots of water and testing before and after eating should help most people.

I see you don’t like water. There are a lot of products you can use to add to the water and make it taste better without adding carbs or calories. I don’t add anything to my water. I believe water is best for my health.

I also don’t care for vegetables much. Sometimes they’re hard to eat. But I force myself to eat them everyday. I always liked coleslaw and for over a year and a half made a low carb coleslaw and ate it 2-3 times a day. As far as the salad goes there are lots of different dressing you can use. Just read the labels to make sure the carb count is less than 3-4 carbs per serving. I’m starting to think that the red wine vinegar was doing me better than the salad. I add 2-3 tablespoons of red wine vinegar to my salad and drink what’s left out of the bowl. I also like dill pickles and ate 2 quarts a week for several months. Even drank the juice when the pickles were gone.

I found a way to control my blood sugar and believe most people can too. Here is what helped me.

Feb 2009 I was diagnosed with a fasting blood sugar of 366 and A1C of 14.1. Started to eat a salad every day at supper. Also started to eat lots of low carb vegetables like broccoli, cauliflower, cabbage, cucumbers, spinach, pickles and sauerkraut. Started to drink 8+ glasses of water every day.

I then bought a meter and started to test my blood sugar before and after each meal. At first I was testing 2 hours after each meal and when my numbers dropped a lot I started testing 1 hour after meals. I was testing 5-7 times a day. I cut back or eliminated foods that spiked my blood sugar more than 50 points after eating.

By testing I found that foods like bread and most foods made of grains along with pasta, rice, corn, potatoes, oatmeal, cereals, chips, crackers, cakes, cookies, candy, soda, fruits, fruit juices, milk and most foods that contain more than 5-6 net carbs per serving as found on the package label all spiked my blood sugar. Some people can cut back on these foods and some people like me have to stop eating them.

After about 6-8 weeks my blood sugar readings were almost normal levels. After 7 weeks I quit all meds and my numbers continued to get better and better.

I found by reducing and eliminating high carb starchy foods helped me a lot. By adding small amounts of chicken, beef, pork or a hard boiled egg to my meals helped reduce blood sugar spikes also.

Good luck

pixsidust 2011-03-20 01:43:39 -0500 Report

I want to wrap my arms around you in comfort

Obviously life is different from your yesteryear of being thin
and the same goes for me too.
I think I cried for the first three days of being diagnosed myself 4 weeks three days ago and whose counting.

Change what you eat and how you eat immediately.
Call your doctor if after 10 days your sugars do not drop into the below 150 range. I did and my medicine was doubled. I have good readings now. 96-120

This is not time for you to say all the reasons why not.
Its time to raise up and take back your life and health
This in all its terribleness is our chance to change for the best
You have a wakeup call as did I
I put the pounds on where I was thin before.
I need to lose 80 pounds if that makes you feel better
Find what works and do it
Walk daily… something…a couple times a day.
Try water aerobics and do not worry, men and skinny ladies do not like that class and they let you wear a t-shirt over your suit too.
Wonderful low impact feels great in warm water…Yeh!

Those readings say you need to change your food plan
The key word is plan.

Welcome here. You have our support, our concern,& understanding
Here there is real advise that is meant well and of course…Love

mexish 2011-03-20 20:09:15 -0500 Report

my heart goes out to you. I can not imagine what your emotional toll must be with this kind of health news. Just to let you know that you can do this, my mother has been a diabetic for 33 years. She will be 85 this October. I was diagnosed in September of 2010. She has dealt with 4 heart surgeries and has lived with arthritis while being diabetic. I know this may not compare to your pain, but I think my mom has lived and dealt with a lot, every day dealing with pain and being a diabetic. Hang in there. I hope you can get the support you need from your husband and others close to you. You can deal with this. You just have to face it head on and decide not to let diabetes get the best of you.

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