How do you deal with it???

Victoria spaghetti
By Victoria spaghetti Latest Reply 2011-03-21 22:45:00 -0500
Started 2011-03-19 17:20:51 -0500

Hello I have only had diabetes for 6 months and Im having a hard time. I'm tired of having to see everyone around me go by their day normal but I have to be late for my class or not even show up with all the problems I have. My sugars are always up or way to low. My friends are always committing on how I look depressed. I've lost many friends and alot of respect. It's also hard to see the ones you love watch you while ur taking a shot or checking your sugar. How does everyone get through it or what's the best way to get through it???

7 replies

WendyFR 2011-03-21 22:45:00 -0500 Report

I was diagnosed at a young age and I had difficulties managing it in High school and in College. In college, I'd hit plenty of lows, but always had something with me and also let my teachers and friends know what can happen if I hit a low. If you understand it better you can educate your friends and family about diabetes.

For everyone it's different to when you realize that a lifestyle change is necessary to keep as normal life as you can. I don't understand why you would lose your friends? Your family should understand that you have to take shots and check your blood sugar on a daily basis to survive and try not have complications in the long run. I don't quite understand that statement. Well, a good support system. Education is probably what your family needs they need to learn what you do to your body is important for you to being healthy. You do it for yourself and everything else will fall into place.

I'm not saying it's going to be easy and it may or may not take long. It really depends on you. If you're not getting a good support system at home, this website will give you some insght and will all support you.

mimi3727 2011-03-20 11:16:39 -0500 Report

last night my husband took me out on a date, our first since I was diagnosed last week. I have known for a while and adjusted my eating two years ago which held it at bay for a while but here I am. so we go into my fave restaurant, olive garden,( lol I know guilty sin!) you should have seen his face when we sat in the lounge waiting for our table and I whip out my meter! I thought he was going to freak.
is it hard for them?
will they get over it?
sounds like your struggling w depression of the situation more than anything, perfectly normal. go talk to your dr, to see why your all over the place still and see if a mood elevator and some counseling might help, there are support groups for this.
for what ever reason, this is our life now, we can hate it and fight it or make it our own. circumstance is diabetes, find your life lesson and tools to cope an your the winner.

Graylin Bee
Graylin Bee 2011-03-20 11:09:12 -0500 Report

Just like you are having to adjust, family and friends have a period of adjustment. At first I was a little hesitant about stressing the importance of why I was checking my sugar with others. But I finally realized it could happen to them the same as me and suddenly they could need all the info of how to eal if they became diabetic. So I test when and where I need to, explain why I need to modify what I am eating, and any thing else they are interested in. If someone close says I look depressed I will explain why I am or ask them why they think I might be if I am not. One of my sisters has started asking a lot of questions because she has a close friend who has diabetes. She notices how different I am dealing with it than her friend. I try to explain why we might need to do different things because the effect of the disease is different on every one. Even my Mom, aka The Cake Lady, remembers to offer to eat the marshmllows she puts in the salad that I can't have every Tusday at Ladies Night Out with Mom.

patch12 2011-03-20 04:04:19 -0500 Report

The best way to get through it is "Be yourself".

I was married 5 years to a diabetic who had been a diabetic himself for 20. I sat and cried all day, when I was diagnosised at the age of 40. Then the next day, I picked myself up and said, "I am ready for the challenge." But I didn't loose my friends because of diabetes. A true friend will stick with you through thick and thin.

As for taking a shot, your friends and family will get use to it. It is something new to them, give them time to adjust as you are adjusting. Diabetes is a life long disease. You have to manage it, don't let it get you down.

Sure, it hurts me to see my husband inject himself, but I know it helps control what the body is unable to do for itself.

You need to let you body get use to injecting and follow your doctors instructions to the letter. If you are having trouble, perhaps you need adjustment in medication. You and your doctor may have to adjust the increments of you insulin until you get it adjusted to what works for your body. Also, there will be changes through out your life. Not just one type of pill or insulin, you may have to change medications from time to time, just as your body changes as we age, the same with medications. I personally have had to change meds at least 7 different times over the last 11 years.

Highs and lows, we diabetics all go through them, and we make adjustments.
Just "Live your Life," accept your change, make adjustments, read every food label.

Get into a diabetes class if you haven't already.

What seems normal to one person, is not normal for another. We are all different in our own way.

Are you going to take charge of your body and disease, or are you going to let it your run you?

alanbossman 2011-03-19 22:00:23 -0500 Report

Welcome to DC family, I agree with James and almost everyone here at DC don't like living with diabetes. It will become easier in time. What you don't want is the bad side of diabetes, if you don't control it diabetes will control you.

jayabee52 2011-03-19 17:52:07 -0500 Report

It does get tiring Victoria. But after 15 years it becomes a way of life. I don't like living this life but it beats the only other alternative.

If one doesn't take control of their diabetes ("DM") then that person is in for a long, slow painful death. I choose to continue to live. so I choose to take care of myself and my DM.

If you're looking for ways to control your DM, no matter whether it is type 1 or type 2, this is the best place to be amongst friendly supportive folks who are "walking the walk" of DM.

If you don't see the information you seek other places on DC, do what you did here and post a discussion question about it.

So how do I deal with DM? Sometimes not very well, other times it is just a part of my life, a part of me that makes me a whole person.

But we all have our ups and downs, even those who don't have DM.

There are several discussions on emotions and diabetes. You might search the discussions for the topic "Blood sugar blues" or "ANGER AND DIABETES" (or something like that — just search for ANGER) and you'll get a discussion filled with rants or venting about losses from diabetes, and other DC "family " members trying to help one another make sense out of it all.

I pray my reply has helped you somewhat. It helps me to know I'm not alone in the struggle against the condition known as DM. I seek out the comfort from and guidance of others who walk the walk. These people on DC are like "family"to me.

I pray for God's blessing on you and yours


James Baker